Morley Elderly Action

12/06/2026

12/06/2026

71% of carers say they are already grieving the person they knew while still caring for them.

If this feels familiar, you’re not alone.

When someone close to you develops dementia, both of you may experience a profound sense of loss that can change over time.

Depending on your relationship and circumstances, you may feel you are losing, or have already lost: your relationship with the person; companionship, support and special understanding; a particular lifestyle; intimacy with the person; freedom to work or take part in other activities; communication between you; future plans; and the person themselves.

You may grieve for a short time as you experience these changes, or grief can be ongoing.

Your feelings of grief may also change or go back and forth over time.

Feelings of loss and grief might make it harder for you to cope with caring.

Some of the changes you both go through can be harder to process than the person’s death.

It’s important to acknowledge any feelings you have and try not to feel guilty about them. There is no right or wrong way to grieve.

[Image description: A graphic titled 'Grieving a person with dementia can feel like you’re losing or have already lost...' depicts a person sat down, holding their knees towards their chest, as if something is troubling them. They are surrounded by short sentences describing the the different types of 'loss', which include: Intimacy with the person; Your relationship with the person; Companionship, support and special understanding; A particular lifestyle; Freedom to work or take part in other activities; Communication between you; Future plans; and The person. An Alzheimer's Society logo can be seen in the bottom left corner.]

12/06/2026

When a friend has a baby, people rally. Cards arrive, meals are dropped off, people ask how you are coping and what you need.

When someone is supporting an ageing parent, here is what they are most likely to hear when they try to speak about it:

"She's your mum. It's only family."
"At least you still have them."
"Can't you just put them in a home?"
"Just get on with it. It's what you have to do."

75% of the carents in our new research say they receive less sympathy and recognition than new parents. Only 13% of the general public see caring for an ageing parent as one of life's biggest transitions, compared with 56% who say the same about becoming a parent.

88% of the public say carents should have more support. The recognition is there. The infrastructure is not.

This Carers Week, we published what 4,293 carents told us about what they are carrying.

The findings are live now at the link in the comments.

10/06/2026

Coroner's Officers are appealing for information to help trace the relatives of Darren Ongley, from Brighton.

Mr Ongley, aged 65 from the Keighley area, sadly passed away on Tuesday 26 May.

Anyone with any information should contact the Bradford Coroner's Office on 01274 438 800.

10/06/2026

Coroner's Officers are appealing for information to help trace the relatives of Jeanette Storr, from Wakefield.

Ms Storr, aged 69 from the Huddersfield area, sadly passed away on Thursday 4 June.

Anyone with any information should contact the Bradford Coroner's Office on 01274 438 800.

10/06/2026

09/06/2026

Imagine never fully switching off.

Not when you are at work. Not when you are out for dinner. Not when you are trying to sleep. Just a low-level, constant alertness — the awareness, held at all times, of a person who may fall, become confused, or need you at any moment.

96% of the carents in our new research say this is their reality. Even when they are not in the room.

One of them described it this way:

"Never off my mind. Always waiting for a response from the alarm system, a lot of the time on edge. It disempowers me. Load of tension on my back and neck. Can never really relax. I doubt I can cope with any further issues, and there are always more issues."

This is what caring for an ageing parent can feel like, day after day, for years. Not a difficult week. Not an occasional hard stretch. A baseline of vigilance that rarely lifts.

We surveyed 4,293 carents for our new report. The full findings are live now for Carers Week.

Read it: https://eu1.hubs.ly/H0w0kF40