Family Based Solutions

01/10/2026

When we talk about child to parent abuse, it can sometimes feel as though we’re being asked to choose a side.

But families aren’t that simple.

A parent can be frightened, exhausted or hurt by what is happening at home, while their child may also be struggling and in need of support.

One doesn’t cancel out the other.

We can support parents without blaming children. And we can try to understand what is happening for a child without minimising the harm their behaviour is causing.

Sometimes, both need someone to listen. Both need to feel safe. And both need the right support to help things change.

That’s at the heart of what we do at Family Based Solutions — supporting the whole family and helping them find a way forward, together.

If you’re a parent or professional looking for support, resources or training, you can find out more here:

https://linktr.ee/familybasedsolutions?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=a4df3034-10e5-4fd6-9862-5ed3133790a3

01/10/2026

Child to parent abuse is complex. Supporting one person in the family should never mean overlooking the experience of another.

Everyone deserves to feel heard, supported and safe.

30/09/2026

Child to parent abuse is complex. Behind the behaviour there may be a child who is struggling, and alongside them a parent who is exhausted, frightened or unsure where to turn.

Both need support. Both need to be heard. Neither needs judgement.

Families can move forward when they are given the right support.

22/09/2026

We need your ideas!
Fundraising for a small charity is hard. Or at least, that’s been our experience!
Over the years we’ve tried quite a few things. We’ve jumped out of planes, eaten bugs, held quiz nights and taken on challenges, all to raise money for Family Based Solutions.
But now we need some fresh ideas.
We want to think outside the box and try something different. Something that people would actually want to get involved in, that could bring people together and, importantly, help us raise much needed funds to keep supporting families.
So we’re handing this one over to you.
What’s the best, most unusual, funniest or most successful charity fundraising idea you’ve seen?
Or is there something you’ve always thought would make a brilliant fundraiser?
Big ideas, small ideas, slightly ridiculous ideas… we’re open to all of them!
Pop your ideas in the comments. You never know, we might just do one of them.

22/09/2026

We are now taking bookings for 2027/2028!

Over the years, Joe and I have delivered lots of training around Child to Parent Abuse, both here in the UK and internationally, and it remains an area we are hugely passionate about.

Our training isn’t about giving professionals another model or a list of things they should be doing. It’s about really understanding what might be happening for families when CPA is present and thinking about how we can create conversations that help families move forward.

We share what we’ve learnt from working directly with families for over 10 years, what families have taught us, what works in practice and, of course, plenty of Solution Focused thinking along the way.

Training can be adapted to your team or organisation and delivered online or face to face.

If you are starting to think about your training for 2027/2028, get in touch for a chat.

[email protected]

22/09/2026

What happens when a client can’t find the words?

Or when a family has *so many* words that everyone talks over each other and nobody feels heard?

In family work, conversations don’t always flow neatly. There can be long silences, difficulty expressing thoughts and feelings, interruptions, competing voices, or moments when someone simply doesn’t know how to answer.

Our article, **“Unspoken Answers: Using Silence in Session”**, explores how we can work Solution Focusedly in these moments.

How do we create space for someone who is struggling to find the words? How might thoughtful questions help when family members are talking over one another? And what can we notice when communication isn’t happening in the way we might expect?

Perhaps our job isn’t always to fill the silence or manage the conversation, but to remain curious about what the family is trying to tell us.

Published in the **Journal of Solution Focused Practices**.

Read the full article here:

https://journalsfp.org/article/126338-unspoken-answers-using-silence-in-session-engaging-client-silence-with-thoughtful-solution-focused-questions-to-address-family-discord

For those of you working with families, **what have you found helpful when everyone is struggling to hear each other?**

By Joseph Lettieri, Ayse Adil. This article explores how using silence as part of a family therapy session can address family discord, particularly when paired with thoughtful Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) questions that

18/09/2026

A huge thank you to everyone who joined us for the global launch of our book, Understanding Child to Parent Abuse: Recovery through Solution Focused Brief Therapy.

We were genuinely touched to see families, friends, colleagues, practitioners and supporters joining us both locally and from around the world. Seeing so many familiar faces, alongside people we were meeting for the first time, made both sessions incredibly special.

A particularly heartfelt thank you to the families who joined us. Families have always been at the heart of our work, and so much of what we have learned over the years has come from listening to their experiences, their hopes and the changes they have worked so hard to create.

Thank you to everyone for your kind words, your questions, your reflections and, most importantly, for sharing this moment with us. After so much work behind the scenes, it meant a great deal to finally celebrate the book together.

And a very special thank you to our wonderful hosts, Jason Pascoe in Australia and Professor Gil Greene in Ohio, for so generously giving their time and helping us make the two sessions such warm and memorable conversations.

For anyone who wanted to join us but couldn’t make it, or if you were there and simply want to watch again, we’ve uploaded both the morning and evening sessions to our FBS Chat YouTube channel:

https://www.youtube.com/

From all of us at Family Based Solutions, and from Joe and me personally, thank you for being part of this journey with us. We are incredibly grateful.

Ayse & Joe
Family Based Solutions

FBS Chat is managed by Family Based Solutions, a charity based in Enfield, London, UK. This channel shares conversations connected to Solution Focused practice. Here you will find a collection of discussions with Solution Focused practitioners, professionals and people from many different walks of l...

10/09/2026

10/09/2026

We are getting VERY close now!

On **Wednesday 16 September**, Joe and I will be launching our new book, *Understanding Child to Parent Abuse: Recovery through Solution-Focused Brief Therapy*, with **two global online launches at 10am and 6pm BST**.

And we are absolutely delighted to introduce the two people who will be hosting us.

**10am BST – Jason Pascoe, Australia**

Joining us from Australia, Jason is the Founder of The Enactive Solution and Vice President of the Australasian Solution-Focused Association.

A leadership consultant, coach and former teacher and school leader, Jason has over 20 years’ experience across education and organisational development. His work focuses on translating Solution Focused practice into practical conversations that help people move forward, strengthen relationships and reduce burnout. He also co-hosts the *Towards Solutions* podcast, bringing together Solution Focused practitioners from around the world.

**6pm BST – Dr Gil Greene, USA**

Gil is an internationally respected author, academic, clinical social worker and Solution Focused practitioner.

He is co-developer of Integrative Family and Systems Treatment (I-FAST) and has written extensively on Solution Focused, solution oriented and strengths based approaches, family therapy and trauma.

His publications include *Solution-Oriented Social Work Practice: An Integrative Approach to Working with Client Strengths* and *Family Therapy for Treating Trauma*.

To have **Jason hosting us from Australia in the morning and Gil from the USA in the evening** feels incredibly special and very fitting for a global launch.

We will be talking about why we wrote the book, what we have learnt from families over the years, the realities of child to parent abuse, and why we believe hope and possibility still have a place in even the most complex work.

There will also be an opportunity to hear from people with lived experience, hear an extract from the book and join us for a Q&A.

**Wednesday 16 September 2026**
**10am BST or 6pm BST**
Online and free to attend

Choose whichever time works best for you and book your place here:

https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/understanding-child-to-parent-abuse-global-book-launch-tickets-1991197122194

We would genuinely love to see you there.

Join Ayse Adil & Joseph Lettieri for the global launch of their Routledge book exploring child to parent abuse, recovery and hope.