Family Based Solutions

05/06/2026

A child can cause harm and still be a child in crisis.

Both things can be true.

This is one of the biggest challenges we face when talking about child to parent abuse (CPA).

If we only focus on the harm, we risk missing the child behind the behaviour.

If we only focus on the child’s difficulties, we risk minimising the fear, exhaustion and trauma experienced by parents and carers.

The reality is much more complicated.

Since 2012, Joe Lettieri and I have worked alongside over 1,200 families experiencing child to parent abuse through Family Based Solutions.

We have sat with parents who describe feeling frightened in their own homes.

We have worked with young people who struggle to explain why they are hurting the very people they often love and need.

And we have seen what becomes possible when families are supported to move away from blame and towards safety, responsibility and repair.

This is why we wrote Understanding Child to Parent Abuse: A Solution Focused Approach.

This book is not just about understanding behaviours. It is about understanding people.

It shares what families have taught us about shame, fear, survival, relationships and change.

The question cannot only be:

“How do we stop this behaviour?”

We also need to ask:

“What conversations, relationships and support need to exist so that harm is no longer needed?”

The preview is now available to read, and the book can be pre-ordered here:

https://www.taylorfrancis.com/books/mono/10.4324/9781003734420/understanding-child-parent-abuse-ayse-adil-joseph-lettieri

We hope it contributes to a different conversation about families experiencing CPA.

One with less blame.

And more possibility.

Child to parent abuse (CPA) remains a complex and often misunderstood form of family harm, frequently hidden within wider narratives of behaviour, safeguarding

05/06/2026

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02/06/2026

Natasha Adams is a UKASFP-accredited Solution-Focused practitioner, youth worker, trainer, consultant, and leader with over 20 years of experience across statutory, voluntary, CAMHS, education, safeguarding, and community mental health settings, bringing innovation, inclusivity, accessibility, and voice to hope-focused system change. Initially trained with an MA in Youth and Community Work, she also holds an Advanced Certificate with BRIEF and UKASFP accreditation, alongside experience in a range of leadership and service development roles. She is also a published chapter author, contributing to work exploring the use of Solution-Focused practice to shape and transform mental health experiences for children and young people.

As founder of Inspired Difference, Natasha specialises in voice-led, strengths-based, and innovative approaches that support children, young people, families, adults, and professionals to create meaningful and sustainable change within their lives and the complex systems they may find themselves or work within. Her work is grounded in participation, relational and compassionate practice, safety, and facilitating creative spaces for reflection, thinking, connection, and possibility, inclusive and celebratory of lived experience and brilliantly creative and diverse ways of thinking and being.

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01/06/2026

I am honoured to be delivering a keynote at the UKASFP Conference 2026 on the 10th and 11th July in Reading.

My keynote explores my journey from initial scepticism to a deep trust in Solution Focused practice, and how working alongside families experiencing crisis, conflict and uncertainty has reshaped my understanding of hope.

Hope is not about ignoring difficulties. It is an active stance we take as practitioners, especially when situations feel complex and there are no easy answers.

During my keynote, I will be joined live by the author of the blog Butterflies with Rainbows, bringing the powerful voice of lived experience into the conversation. Together, we will explore what really makes a difference for families, and how Solution Focused conversations can create space for change, dignity and possibility.

The UKASFP Conference has a brilliant line up of speakers sharing their knowledge, experience and practice. Whether you are new to Solution Focused approaches, curious to learn more, or have been practising for many years, there will be something valuable to take away.

📅 10th & 11th July 2026
📍 Reading

Come and join us for two days of learning, reflection and inspiring conversations.

Book your place here:

This Keynote presentation will be of particular interest to Solution Focused practitioners who are curious about how practice matures through real-world complexity, and how we maintain hope and usefulness in high-risk family/individual work.

29/05/2026

Behind every statistic is a family who felt safer, a parent who regained confidence, and a young person who found a different path forward.

Since 2012, Family Based Solutions has supported more than 1,200 families affected by Child to Parent Abuse. These figures represent real change in homes that were once living with fear, conflict and isolation.

Small local charities like ours often achieve extraordinary outcomes because we are rooted in the communities we serve. We know our families, we build trusted relationships, and we can respond quickly when support is needed most. While national organisations play an important role, local charities are often the first to spot emerging needs and the last to walk away when times are difficult.

Real families. Real change. Lasting impact.

26/05/2026

Roshni Sharma-Fleming is a healer, educator, and visionary devoted to guiding women back to their Divine Feminine essence. A certified Ahava Healer, Usui Reiki Master, Educator, Speaker, 2x Author, 1x Best Selling Author, and Podcaster, she blends ancient wisdom with modern wholistic practices to support deep, sustainable self-care and self-love.

Her own journey through serious illness awakened her understanding that the body can heal when met with compassion, presence, and aligned practices. This truth fuels her mission through StillFire Healing Inc.: to empower women to rise rooted, radiant, and empowered in their health and well-being.

Bilingual in French and English, Roshni creates accessible, heart-centered spaces where women feel comfortable to reconnect with their inner wisdom and self-love. A lover of yoga, meditation, spirituality, essential oils, writing, and even a good 80s movie, she embodies curiosity, joy, and the art of lifelong learning.

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21/05/2026

After months of reviewing data, reflecting on practice and revisiting over a decade of frontline work, we are proud to share the latest Family Based Solutions statistical impact report.

The report explores the realities facing families experiencing child to parent abuse across Enfield, Haringey and Barnet and highlights the significant overlap between domestic abuse, trauma, mental health difficulties, poverty and family isolation.

Since 2012, we have worked with well over 1,000 families experiencing CPA. The report also highlights a 75% success rate across recorded interventions while recognising the complexity many families continue to face around housing instability, disengagement and access to ongoing support.

Most importantly, this report gives visibility to families whose experiences often remain hidden behind closed doors.

Thank you to every parent, young person, professional and partner organisation who has trusted us over the years.

Awareness matters. Early intervention matters. Specialist support matters.

View the full report here:

20/05/2026

Too often, a child who is shouting, aggressive or refusing school is labelled as “challenging” without anyone asking what may have happened to them.

I remember one boy who was constantly excluded from class for swearing, throwing chairs and walking out of lessons. Staff understandably focused on the behaviour. What was less visible was that he was living in a home where domestic abuse had become part of everyday life. Fear, hypervigilance and anger had followed him into school.

Behaviour is communication. Sometimes the child causing the most concern is also the child carrying the most pain.

At Family Based Solutions, we have spent more than 20 years working alongside families experiencing Child to Parent Abuse (CPA), domestic abuse and family conflict. This training is designed for professionals who want a deeper understanding of trauma, patterns of escalation and how to respond in ways that reduce shame, fear and further harm.

Our one day training will explore:

• Understanding Child to Parent Abuse and why it happens

• Trauma patterns and escalation in families

• Working with resistance, silence and fear

• Safety planning and de-escalation

• Solution Focused approaches that build trust and possibility

• Real case examples from frontline practice

This training is for social workers, school staff, DSLs, family support workers, youth practitioners, domestic abuse services, therapeutic staff and anyone supporting families where harm is taking place inside the home.

📅 Wednesday 1 July

🕘 9:30am–4pm (Online)

Tickets and information:

Whether you are new to CPA work or already supporting high risk families, this day aims to leave you with practical tools, reflective space and a clearer understanding of what families may really be experiencing behind closed doors.

A full day of learning, reflection and practical tools for professionals who want to understand child to parent abuse.

14/05/2026

12/05/2026

Michael Torben Meyer is a social worker with 22 years of experience supporting children, young people and their families. Early in his career he was introduced to Solution‑Focused practice, which has remained a central part of his professional approach ever since.

Thirteen years ago, he completed a Master’s degree in Leadership and Innovation, after which he took on the role of Team Lead for other social workers. Since September 2025, he has been leading a multidisciplinary team of psychologists, therapists and support workers. In this role, he continues to build on his Solution‑Focused foundation while fostering collaboration, professional development and high‑quality support for the people his team serves.

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