22/08/2025
Mindset, Confidence & Meeting edges
A few weeks ago, I indulged in a few days of solo hiking in the Lakes. On my second day, I embarked on an epic all-day hike ascending Scafell Pike starting from the Esk Valley, and doing a horseshoe of summits before dropping down to Lingcove Beck just before Bow Fell. I had never journeyed up the river Esk before, and my goodness, it was such a treat!
On this route- just me, the river and the rock, for most of the way, some things became clear..
mindset matters
I saw this especially with how I meet my edges. For example, on one occasion, needing to cross a river too wide to jump, I was therefore faced with making use of a few awkward (stepping) stones if i wanted to avoid getting wet feet*. I could see how the fearful part of me that is alert to a mere whiff of risk, can rear her head, proclaim my incompetence, and dig her heels in. "You're going to fall!" And so I stay on the other side of the bank. Stuck. I can see how, in her attempt to keep me safe, she keeps me small.
I appreciate this part, her care, AND I don't want to be held back from things I want to do, places I want to go, other parts of me that want to be expressed.
And then, on cue, The motivator chimes in, feeling a rush of energy that breaks out of the stuckness -"You've got this, it's totally possible, it's just a case of stepping confidently"
She's right. It's actually not a tricky move. The thing that would likely make it more risky would be to linger on the awkward stepping stone, losing my balance.
itself can heighten risk.
Motivator has convinced Fear, reassuring her that movement rather than stuckness is needed to be safe.
And so here I go, standing at the side of the bank with Fear on my shoulder holding onto my pack, and Motivator driving my feet, looking at where I'll place my feet, saying the mandatory "You've got this" before confidently striding across and announcing my arrival on the other side with a playful 'woohoo!'
and confidence are intertwined
and it's like a muscle. The more that Fear can see that Motivator isn't reckless, the more Fear can trust Motivator's intentions.
A work in progress. Step by step
*I don't advocate recklessness. Sometimes the safest way to cross may involve getting wet boots & feet