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19/12/2025

You can either wait for change to happen or you can make the change happen

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Amanda Nguyen was twenty-one years old when someone took her sense of safety away forever.
She was a Harvard student in her senior year. She had spent summers interning at NASA, working on the Kepler mission to discover planets beyond our solar system. She dreamed of becoming an astronaut—a dream she had carried since childhood, inspired by her Vietnamese refugee parents who once used the stars to navigate their escape to freedom.
Then, in 2013, she was r***d.
She did what survivors are told to do. She reported the assault. She went to the hospital. She endured the hours-long forensic examination—the collection of physical evidence known as a r**e kit.
And then she learned something that shattered her all over again.
In Massachusetts, the law gave her fifteen years to decide whether to press charges. The statute of limitations would not expire until 2028.
But her r**e kit—the physical evidence that could prove what happened—would be destroyed in six months.
Six months. That was how long the state would preserve the evidence. If she had not prosecuted by then, the kit would be discarded. Her chance at justice would literally be thrown away.
And if she wanted to preserve the evidence longer, she had to file for an extension. Every six months. For fifteen years. With no clear instructions on how to do it.
She would have to relive her trauma, over and over, just to keep the system from destroying her own evidence.
Amanda could have accepted this. She could have focused on her career, her dreams, her future. She could have let the system win.
Instead, she started asking questions.
She surveyed s*xual assault laws across all fifty states. What she found was devastating. The rules were completely inconsistent. Some states preserved r**e kits for years. Others destroyed them in months. Some charged survivors hundreds of dollars just to collect the evidence. Some never told survivors what happened to their kits. Some had no process for survivors to even find out where their evidence was stored.
Your rights as a s*xual assault survivor depended entirely on where you happened to be assaulted.
Justice was a matter of geography.
This was not just a broken system. This was a civil rights crisis hiding in plain sight.
So Amanda Nguyen, at twenty-three years old, decided to fix it.
She had no law degree. No political connections. No experience writing legislation. She had only her own experience, her determination, and her refusal to accept that the system should re-traumatize the people it was supposed to protect.
In November 2014, she founded an organization called Rise. The name was intentional—a reminder that ordinary citizens can rise up and change the world.
Her goal was audacious: pass a federal law guaranteeing basic rights to s*xual assault survivors.
In July 2015, she walked into Senator Jeanne Shaheen's office. She sat down. She told her story—the assault, the discovery, the impossible choice between preserving evidence and preserving her sanity.
Senator Shaheen listened. And she committed to help.
Together, they drafted the Sexual Assault Survivors' Rights Act.
The bill was straightforward but revolutionary. It established that in federal cases, survivors cannot be charged for r**e kit collection. R**e kits cannot be destroyed before the statute of limitations expires. Survivors must be notified of testing results. Survivors must be notified sixty days before their kit is destroyed. Survivors have the right to request preservation extensions.
These were not radical demands. These were basic human dignities—the right to evidence, the right to information, the right not to be charged for your own assault investigation.
But getting Congress to act was another battle entirely.
Amanda and Rise met with hundreds of congressional offices. Over and over, they heard the same responses.
"This is not a priority."
"My boss is focused on re-election."
"We do not have time for this."
Some staffers debated Amanda's civil rights in front of her face, as if her trauma were an abstract policy question. Some threatened her for pushing the legislation forward.
She was twenty-four years old. She was asking Congress to protect r**e survivors. And she was being told it did not matter.
But Amanda did not stop. Rise built a coalition—survivors, advocates, law enforcement, medical professionals. They worked across party lines. They met with Democrats and Republicans alike. They made the case that this was not a partisan issue. This was about basic human dignity.
In February 2016, Senator Shaheen formally introduced the legislation.
In May 2016, the Senate passed it. Unanimously. Every single senator—Democrat and Republican—voted yes.
In September 2016, the House passed it. Unanimously. Every representative who voted said yes.
This was extraordinary. In one of the most partisan, divided Congresses in American history, a bill protecting s*xual assault survivors passed without a single dissenting vote.
On October 7, 2016, President Barack Obama signed the Sexual Assault Survivors' Rights Act into law.
Amanda Nguyen stood in the Oval Office, watching the president sign legislation she had helped draft. She was twenty-four years old. Three years earlier, she had been a traumatized college student learning that the system did not protect her. Now she had changed federal law.
Senator Shaheen said that day: "Beginning today, our nation's laws stand firmly on the side of survivors of s*xual assault."
But Amanda's work was just beginning. The federal law covered only about one percent of s*xual assault cases—those in federal jurisdiction. Most cases are handled at the state level.
So Rise took the fight to every state capitol in America.
By 2022, they had helped pass similar protections in over forty states. More than forty-one laws. Affecting millions of survivors.
In 2019, Amanda was nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize for what the nominators called her "unprecedented efforts in bringing equal protection under the law and basic human rights to all survivors of s*xual assault, regardless of geography."
She did not win. But she did not need to. She had already won something far more important: justice for countless survivors who would never have to navigate the system she once faced.
And the dream she had postponed? The stars she had been chasing since childhood?
In April 2025, Amanda Nguyen flew to space aboard a Blue Origin rocket. She became the first Vietnamese American woman to leave Earth's atmosphere—conducting scientific research on women's health in microgravity.
She had put her astronaut dreams on hold to fight for survivors. And then, once that fight was won, she reached for the stars anyway.
Amanda Nguyen proved something profound: that one person—a survivor with no law degree, no political power, just determination and a belief that the system should protect victims—can change federal law. Can change state laws. Can change how an entire nation treats its most vulnerable.
She transformed her trauma into advocacy. Her pain into policy. Her experience into a movement that protects people she will never meet.
When the system fails you, do you accept it? Or do you rewrite the rules?
Amanda Nguyen rewrote them. And millions of survivors have rights today because she refused to accept that justice should depend on geography.
Some people wait for change. Others become the change themselves.


~Professor Calcue

02/12/2025

Happy holidays from Safer Dance Spaces! We wish everyone a very merry and safe time on the dance floor. May your festive season be filled with joy, respect, and great moves.

05/11/2025

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❓What is consent ❓It turns out many people still do not understand the meaning of r**e/s*xual assault.So, let’s break it...
30/10/2025

❓What is consent ❓

It turns out many people still do not understand the meaning of r**e/s*xual assault.

So, let’s break it down:

⚠️ YES it is s*xual assault if one is not old enough / not in full capacity to consent (drunk/high/asleep/unconscious etc)
⚠️ YES it is s*xual assault if one initially said yes and changed their mind and said no
⚠️ YES it is s*xual assault if one said no repeatedly and then gave up/in
⚠️ YES it is s*xual assault if one was pressured or coerced (physically, monetarily, or emotionally) into the act
⚠️ YES it is s*xual assault if one said yes to one element of the act and not another and the other was performed
⚠️ YES it is s*xual assault if one agreed to protected s*x and the condom was removed without their knowledge
⚠️ YES it is s*xual assault if during the act one asks for it to stop and this does not happen
⚠️ YES it is s*xual assault if any of the above happens within a relationship

Consent is:

✅ freely given
✅ reversible
✅ informed
✅ enthusiastic
✅ specific
And
✅ ongoing

Hopefully this list is informative enough but it is not exhaustive. You are responsible for your own education with regards to safe and consensual s*x. There is tons of information online and claiming ignorance or cultural norms won’t do.

If you genuinely are confused, please reach out.

Let’s Learn and Grow and Support each other.

Be decent.




❓Is it important for men to speak up? ❓“Not all men” is a retort that we have all heard, time and again. Not only does s...
17/08/2025

❓Is it important for men to speak up? ❓

“Not all men” is a retort that we have all heard, time and again. Not only does such retort attempt to centre a conversation about women around men, which in itself fuels patriarchy and and imbalance in power and consideration, but it is also fundamentally counterproductive.

It is true that not all men are perpetrators. But it is also true that not all men speak up against r**e and s*xual abuse, not all men call out r**e jokes and inappropriate behaviour, not all men actively discuss the importance of consent and not all men intervene when they witness s*xual abuse.

The sad retort to “Not all men” is “But all women”. All women have in some shape or form been on the receiving end of discrimination, harassment or abuse. And as long as this is the case, until all women feel as safe as men do, it does not matter that “Not all men” because “enough men” are left to act on their desire of power and control and “enough men” think there are no consequences to such behaviour.

It is crucial men speak up.
Women need to see their allies and their support. Only then will they feel safe to speak up and heal.
Decent men need to be inspired and feel represented. Only then will they interject at crucial moments and become active bystanders.

It is crucial men speak up.
Predators need to understand they are not welcome nor validated in their actions. They are not “cool”, “powerful”, “respected” or “funny”. Predators need to see that the vast majority of society believes that what they are doing is wrong, not just women. Often, predators think that all men act like they do in their own privacy. They need to know, more than women do, that “not all men”.

It is crucial men speak up.
“Locker room talk” and inadequate po*******hy fuelling toxic masculinity needs to stop. And it won’t unless men speak up, unless men understand that words become actions and that their word counts.

It is crucial men speak up.
Men comprise around 50% of the population and occupy the majority of positions of power and influence. What they use this power and influence for is a reflection of humankind and the future our sons and daughters will grow up in.

SDS members list updated with our newest members. We are now 95 strong with a global presence across dance styles 🤩 All ...
12/08/2025

SDS members list updated with our newest members.

We are now 95 strong with a global presence across dance styles 🤩

All SDS members are proud to comply with the SDS members charter and are committed to building safer and braver spaces.

⚠️ JOIN this movement of positive change through signing up to our next induction! ⚠️

Why join SDS?SDS is the first global initiative of its kind. All our content in relation to zero tolerance, consent, r**...
05/07/2025

Why join SDS?

SDS is the first global initiative of its kind. All our content in relation to zero tolerance, consent, r**e culture, intervention and disclosure response has been endorsed by way of sponsorship by the Non-Government Organization (NGO) CLIMB against s*xual abuse. For more information please read their page.
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What do we expect from your members?

Please read our SDS Members Charter
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Note that we expect our members to abide by this charter. Should you be found to breach the charter your membership can be revoked. Your membership fee will not be refunded.

What’s in it for me?

There are several benefits of membership, so please read the features and benefits on our page here.
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How much does it cost?
The full price of membership is £60 but, we continue to offer a discount of 40% for all. In addition, if you are a teaching couple, or a business partnership of up to 2 people, you can join together, and get all the benefits for just £36, plus Eventbrite booking fees.
If you would like more than 2 people to join the training session please email us the names, and roles of the individuals in the organization before you make the payment.

As a prerequisite of full membership, you will be required to participate in the SDS Induction workshop.

To sign up please send an email to: [email protected]

Let’s work together to make a difference.

Unfortunately “further pain” and great trauma is always caused during trials but even during simple reports. This is one...
15/06/2025

Unfortunately “further pain” and great trauma is always caused during trials but even during simple reports.

This is one of the reasons people do not report.

So hats off to the survivor who had the strength to go through this and save quite a few others from similar abuse down the line.

He caused his victim further pain during a trial, police said

❓But what about false accusations? ❓False accusations are not ok. Nobody should be punished for a crime they did not com...
10/06/2025

❓But what about false accusations? ❓

False accusations are not ok. Nobody should be punished for a crime they did not commit. But the question is more around why our default position as a society is that an accusation of r**e and s*xual assault is false. What is the real likelihood of an accusation being false?

Did you know that according to the national registry of exonerations, since records began in 1989, in the USA, there are only 52 cases where men convicted of s*xual assault were exonerated because it turned out they were falsely accused, compared to 790 in the same period where people were exonerated for murder?

Did you know that only 5-30% of r**es are ever reported in the first place? It is out of these that 5-10% class as “false accusations”. Which means that a generous average of 1.5% of r**es constitute “false accusations”.

Did you know that any recanted accusation, which often stems from receiving threats, is classed as “false accusations” in the numbers above?

Did you know that out of 1000 r**es, 994 ra**sts walk free? Did you also know that many ra**sts are serial ra**sts and are likely to commit the crime again? Who will be next?

Did you know that there is a profile for “false accusers” that includes criminal fraud and such like? People are unlikely to wake up one day and decide to accuse someone of r**e and go through the quite traumatic experience of undertaking private tests, making their statement repeatedly to skeptical looking faces and then receiving numerous threats while their alleged predator is being investigated.

Did you know that “a man is 230 times more likely to be r***d than to be falsely accused of r**e”.

And let’s put the stats through an even stronger test.

Imagine for a second that you believe that every single one of the men prosecuted for r**e in England and Wales in 2016-17 was falsely accused.

Even if that unlikely scenario were true, there would still have been more adult male victims of r**e (8,000) than men prosecuted for those r**es they “didn’t commit” (5,190).”

❓”They are innocent until proven guilty”, surely?❓Innocent until proven guilty beyond reasonable doubt is indeed the sta...
24/05/2025

❓”They are innocent until proven guilty”, surely?❓

Innocent until proven guilty beyond reasonable doubt is indeed the stance of most justice systems. Unfortunately our justice systems still needs to follow suit with the definition of consent and what is considered “reasonable doubt”. For an example of this issue please refer to the link below: https://www.the-pool.com/news-views/opinion/2018/49/r**e-and-s*xual-harassment-in-the-uk-men-survey

Now let’s not argue how realistic that is and let’s focus on what we can do around us. That high standard of “proof” may be needed before sending someone to prison, but not to decide to pay another artist instead.

As human beings and as a community, we can choose who to associate with and who to let into our “dance family”. As event organisers, we also have the prerogative to choose who to hire and who to expose our guests to.

When several (or even one!) allegations exist against one individual, do we need to risk more crimes while waiting for the justice system (often unequipped to close cases of assault anyway) to reach a verdict?

At the end of the day, it is a personal and an ethical decision that we each have to make. Do we value one person’s fun or fame over a number of other people’s safety and basic dignity? Are we willing to compromise our human values until one is proven guilty beyond reasonable doubt?

Given that the vast majority of perpetrators are repeat offenders, how would you feel if you gave one of these perpetrators the benefit of the doubt and their next victim was the closest person to your heart?

Shouldn’t “innocent until proven guilty” also apply to the victim? In a he-said she/said case, in terms of public opinion, assuming he is innocent of r**e means assuming she is guilty of slander. The victim has at least as much right to be assumed innocent of wrongdoing as the accused ra**st. Until this FAQ is published.. have a think: why would she lie with the backlash r**e victims received? How common are false accusations?




❓She says she was r***d but she seems fine to me? ❓Being the victim of a r**e is a traumatic experience. It makes you qu...
10/05/2025

❓She says she was r***d but she seems fine to me? ❓

Being the victim of a r**e is a traumatic experience. It makes you question the ownership of your body and the validity of your voice. We each react and recover from trauma (any trauma) in different ways and at different speeds. We each also take time to accept it happened and accept we were not able to prevent it on that day.

Surviving r**e or s*xual abuse often follows the 5 stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and, finally, acceptance. In the stage of denial, survivors will pretend nothing has happened. Alternatively, they could be able to describe it in words but will still be acting in denial. This is a coping mechanism.

Even throughout the other stages, many of us will not like portraying the image of a victim and will do our best to retain the “before” image as long as possible. This coping mechanism enables survivors of r**e or s*xual abuse to remind themselves that their whole world has not crumbled, that parts of it are still standing. Holding on to pieces of normality is one way to carry on with our lives.

She may look fine at this moment in time but this does not mean that she feels fine inside or that she will look fine tomorrow or the minute she is alone.

When somebody reaches out to us to tell us of a horrendous experience, the only right thing to do is to believe them and support them. Trying to decide for them how they should be feeling or acting or handling things is not only unhelpful but also unreasonable.

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