Mid Surrey Dementia Care Trust

Mid Surrey Dementia Care Trust To help people with memory difficulties to retain their communication and social skills.

To provide relief to carers from the demanding responsibilities of caring.

17/01/2026

More wise words from Sylvia Cowleard

“Just read this and had to post it. As we grow older this becomes even more meaningful.”

Read this to the end - I’m sure you’ll agree…

“When I turned 67, I sat in my favorite chair, looked back at my life, and whispered to myself,
“So… this is the beginning of the final stretch.”

And slowly, the truths I had avoided all my life began to surface.

Kids? They’re busy writing their own story.
Health? Slips away faster than sand through open fingers.
The government? Just headlines, promises, and numbers that never change your daily reality.

Aging doesn’t hurt your body first — it hurts your illusions.
So I sat down with myself and carved out a handful of bitter but necessary truths.



Kids don’t save you from loneliness

Children grow, life pulls them in every direction, and you become a memory they visit when time allows.

You smile… and yet something inside you remains strangely hollow.

Kids bring joy — but they are not a shield against loneliness.



Health is not forever

One day, the outings you once jumped into with enthusiasm feel like a marathon.
You realize health was never a background character —
it was the main pillar holding your life steady.



Retirement and money

Retirement is not a reward — it’s a reality check.
Depending on the system is like standing on thin ice.
Bills grow, needs grow, prices grow… but support doesn't.


So I rebuilt my life on new rules — honest, sharp, practical rules for living with dignity.



Rule 1: Money is more reliable than anything else.

Love your kids, cherish them —
but don’t make them your retirement plan.

Save for yourself.
Even small savings create big freedom.
Financial independence is dignity.



Rule 2: Your health is your real job

Nothing else matters if your body refuses to cooperate.
Move. Walk. Stretch.
Guard your sleep like treasure.
Eat cleaner. Reduce the poison disguised as sugar and salt.

Illness doesn’t discriminate,
but it respects those who take responsibility for themselves.



Rule 3: Create your own joy

Waiting for others to make you happy is the fastest way to heartbreak.
So you learn to enjoy the small things —
a peaceful breakfast, a good book, music that warms the soul.

When you know how to make yourself happy, loneliness loses its power.



Rule 4: Aging is not an excuse to become helpless

Some people turn aging into a performance of complaints.
And slowly, even those who love them start stepping away.

Strength is attractive.
Resilience is magnetic.
People respect the ones who stay capable, not the ones who surrender.



Rule 5: Let go of the past

The good old days were beautiful — yes.
But they’re gone, and there is no return ticket.

Clinging to the past steals the present.
Life today may look different, but it still holds moments worth living.



Rule 6: Protect your peace like it’s your property

Not every argument needs your voice.
Not every insult needs your response.
Not every relative deserves access to your emotions.

Peace is expensive.
Protect it from drama, negativity, and draining people —
even if they're your close ones.



Rule 7: Keep learning something — anything

The day you stop learning is the day you start aging.
A new recipe, a new word, a new app, a new hobby —
your brain needs movement just like your body does.

Learning keeps you young.
Stagnation makes you old.



Strength and freedom still belong to you

Aging is an exam no one can take for you.

You can adapt, rebuild, and rise stronger…
or sit back, complain, and wait for someone to rescue you.

And if ....
No one comes to rescue you ....

Stand up for yourself ...

Because you still can..
And that single truth is enough to transform the rest of your life.”

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Please like and share 🤗              Happy new year from the Trustees.  A volunteering opportunity has arisen to join us...
06/01/2026

Please like and share 🤗

Happy new year from the Trustees. A volunteering opportunity has arisen to join us. Volunteering is the most rewarding job if you’re looking to give a few hours a day to give to help others. What is required? A few hours a day of your time once a week to get to know 6/8 people by talking about their past activities and playing games to keep brains active. This social environment keeps memories for longer. Our club members are interesting, full of fun, and have a wealth of life experiences. All expenses paid and lunch too can be provided. Please contact us through our website www.midsurreydementiacare.co.uk or telephone 01372 273892 to speak with a Trustee

Mid Surrey Dementia Care Trust operates The Conservatory Club at the Fairfield Centre in Leatherhead for people with memory difficulties or in the early stages of dementia.

World Alzheimer’s day - just a thank you and small reminder for all those lovely carers.
25/09/2025

World Alzheimer’s day - just a thank you and small reminder for all those lovely carers.

23/09/2025

Different times - please see previous post.

Sorry for the follow up. There was an error on previous email. The Dementia Friendly performance is Fri 2 Jan at 1pm.

Thank you,

Ella

Ella Plummer
Audience Engagement Assistant
[email protected]
DDI: 01483 443927
Yvonne Arnaud Theatre
Millbrook, Guildford
Surrey, GU1 3UX

Found this information that we are pleased to shareMy name’s Ella and I’m new to the team here at the Yvonne Arnaud Thea...
18/09/2025

Found this information that we are pleased to share

My name’s Ella and I’m new to the team here at the Yvonne Arnaud Theatre. I’m getting in touch to tell you about our Dementia Friendly performance of this year’s panto, Beauty and the Beast, which will take place on Saturday 13 December at 10:30am.
This performance has been specially adapted to create a more relaxed and welcoming environment. We’ll keep the main house lights on throughout and we’ve removed loud noises, audience interaction and flashing lights to ensure a more comfortable experience.
Tickets are £17 each and if an essential companion is required, they’ll be eligible for a free ticket.
You can find more information and book tickets here: Beauty and The Beast | Yvonne Arnaud Theatre
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Beauty and The Beast | Yvonne Arnaud Theatre
Meet Belle, our book-loving beauty with a big heart and even bigger dreams. Join her as she journeys into the enchanted castle, meets the fearsome beast and discovers a host of colourful characters bewitched by an evil sorceress. Can Belle see beyond the monster? And will the Beast learn the true meaning of love? Join us for an ultimate adventure to break the curse before the final petal falls ...
www.yvonne-arnaud.co.uk
We know how powerful shared experiences can be and we hope this performance offers a joyful and inclusive moment for everyone attending.
If you could please share this with the community at the Mid Surrey Dementia Care Trust, it would be greatly appreciated. We’d absolutely love to welcome members of your group – or even a big group of you – to the theatre for what we hope will be a magical and inclusive experience this Christmas.
If you have any questions at all, please don’t hesitate to reach out.
All the best,
Ella

Ella Plummer
Audience Engagement Assistant
[email protected]
DDI: 01483 443927
Yvonne Arnaud Theatre
Millbrook, Guildford
Surrey, GU1 3UX

Presenting and producing outstanding entertainment; delivering engaging community activities.

Please volunteer- you will discover how rewarding it is to give your time to others
11/08/2025

Please volunteer- you will discover how rewarding it is to give your time to others

☀️ Surrey Heath Age Concern are looking for volunteers!
Are you:
🔹 A good listener
🔹 Patient and reliable
🔹Understanding
🔹 and interested in improving the emotional health and well-being of older adults?

Well if so, why not consider befriending with SHAC? Befriends give an hour a week, of their time, to visit older adults and make their lives more fulfilling.

Get in touch today!

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01/08/2025

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