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Therapist & Parent Coach helping mums stay calm and connected when big emotions happen (theirs AND yours).

Find your child's developmental level:
https://go.dyfparents.com/20-min-child-decode Emma is our professional counsellor and parent coach, and Marie is our mindfulness and children’s educational specialist. Together, we support families through in-person sessions at Performing Arts for Little Pickles and offer online courses, resources, and coaching through our sister site, dyfparents.com

18/06/2026

At all stages of development, children need connection and they need independence at the same time.

But what worked at 4 may not work at 8.
And what works at 8 definitely won't work at 12.

And sometimes what looks like rejection is actually a child trying to figure out how to be their own person and stay connected to you.

Get the 20-Minute Child Decode to pinpoint your child's developing skills.
Link in bio 💛

17/06/2026

You got to school.
She was fine at home.

Then the car door opened and the atmosphere suddenly changed.
She grabbed your coat.
She cried.

The staff were kind: "She'll be fine once you go. It's better if you just leave quickly."

You smiled, said goodbye, and left.

And now you're at your desk.
And you're still feeling the impossible weight of leaving her.

This week I'm looking at what's actually happening in that moment, for your child and for you.

Check out my latest YouTube video,
𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘥 𝘐𝘴 𝘙𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘋𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘊𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 (𝘖𝘳 𝘗𝘶𝘴𝘩 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘈𝘸𝘢𝘺)

16/06/2026

When your child is clinging at the school gate or nursery door, recognising their distress helps them prepare for the separation while still in the safety of your company.

You might have been told to just go, don't drag it out, they'll be fine.
And maybe they will.

But they love you. They rely on you.
And you're leaving.

Of course that's hard.

It's not about how quickly can we get past that feeling.
It's about whether we can acknowledge what they're going through.

12/06/2026

The white top was never going to survive.

You knew it.
They didn't.

And that tiny moment captures something many parents experience every day.

You can see consequences your child can't yet see.
You can see realities they can't yet see.

And sometimes the conflict that follows isn't about behaviour at all.

It's about your knowledge of how things pan out bumping into their immediate impulses.

And how from tots to teens, children get caught up in those impulses and can’t easily override them.

Tolerating disappointment is hard.
Letting go of something they really wanted is hard.
Hearing "no" without becoming overwhelmed is hard.

The more accurately you can see how difficult these expectations are, the easier it becomes to respond to their enthusiasm with appreciation instead of annoyance.

That's exactly why I created the 20-Minute Child Decode.

A simple way to understand what your child can realistically manage right now, so you're working from a clearer picture.

Link in bio. 💛

11/06/2026

It's funny how some parenting arguments never really go away.

Your child’s tastes change.
The clothes get more outrageous.
The haircuts more daring.

But underneath it, something familiar is often happening.

Your child is trying to work out who they are.
You're trying to help them navigate the world.

You probably won’t stop having these discussions with your child.

But it’s not about making them fit your expectations.
And it’s not about hoping it’s just a phase that will pass.

It’s about helping them express themselves in a way that fits the world around them.

Parenting becomes a lot easier when you're working from a clearer picture of your child: what they can manage, what's difficult for them, and what they still need help with.

Which is exactly what the 20-Minute Child Decode is designed to do.
Link in bio. 💛

10/06/2026

You can understand why your teen wants to look like that.
And still want her to look presentable.

Whether they are 4 or 14, the conflict is surprisingly similar.

Even as teenagers, children spend much of their day adapting to decisions made by other people.

Where they're going.
What they're doing.
When they're leaving.
What comes next.

So when it comes to something as personal as their appearance, many children want some say over it.

She’s not trying to be difficult.
She’s trying to be herself.
She’s working out who she is.

But as her parent, you are trying to help her navigate a world that can be judgemental, unforgiving, and sometimes unfair.

Neither of you are wrong.
In fact, both points of view are important.

One of the hardest parts of parenting is being able to see exactly why your child wants something...
and still have concerns about it.

Understanding your child doesn't always remove the disagreement.
But it does change the way you hold it.

Save this for the next time you're caught between understanding your child and wanting the world to respond well to them 💛

09/06/2026

The conflict about suitable clothing doesn't disappear as children get older.

Whether they're 4, 8, or 14, it’s the same principle.

They've chosen something that feels important to them.
You've spotted a problem they can't yet see.
And now you're both stuck.

Their refusal. Their tears.
Or the full-scale argument before you've finished your tea.

It's often what happens when a child doesn't yet know how to say:
"𝘉𝘶𝘵 𝘐 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵." or "𝘛𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘴 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘮𝘦."

That doesn't mean they get the final say.
But it can mean you support their disappointment when they have to get changed.

Save this if this sounds familiar. 💛

08/06/2026

When you ask your child to wear something more suitable, it can end up feeling like World War Three.

The thing is, he doesn't see a costume.

He sees Superman.

Strong.
Fast.
Exciting.
The version of himself he wants to be today.

You see wedding photos.
Disapproving relatives.
Turning up late again.
Or just the fact that you really don't have the energy for this conversation again.

And that’s the real issue.

Another challenge.
Another disagreement.

But the argument often isn't about the outfit itself.
It's about what the outfit means to each of you.

Share in the comments the most inappropriate thing your child has tried to wear 💛

05/06/2026

Before someone came along with a better way.
Before someone showed you how to do it.
Before a great suggestion arrived.

Have you ever had something you were working out on your own, and felt frustrated when someone stepped in too quickly?

It's not that they were wrong.
Or that you wanted them to leave.

But it was something you were figuring out.
And you almost had it.

Children have this too.

But at 5-years old, they don't know how to say "Can I please have some more time to work this out myself?"

So they end up pushing you away, or crying, or squashing things flat.

But underneath the meltdown is something we can all recognise, if we think back far enough.

04/06/2026

When you try to join your child's play and they melt down.
When your instinctive "no" leads to sudden tears.

You're not doing something wrong.

But it's worth understanding that children's play has a direction.
A process that's fully theirs.

When that process gets interrupted, they may not have the words to explain.
All they can do is cry and shout.

It's not about stopping meltdowns.
It's noticing what your child was focused on before you came along.

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