Surviving abuse eastbourne

05/06/2022

First they break you then they blame you. You are not mentally ill you were abused….

30/05/2022

What other signs can you add to this list?

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30/05/2022

EMOTIONAL ABUSERS WILL:

Run hot, then cold on you.
Falsely accuse you.
Guilt trip you.
Keep you away from support, like friends and family.
Use the silent treatment.
Triangulate you with other people.
Twist your words around to abuse you.
Never hold themselves accountable.
Demean and belittle you.
Withhold affection or s*x.
Blame you for everything.
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12/05/2022

12/05/2022

THE DESIRE FOR CLOSURE WILL KEEP YOU STUCK because there is no closure with a narcissist, ever, but it's the natural human desire to have closure that keeps the victim stuck. The narcissist has manipulated and gaslighted the victim to the point that they have difficulty realizing that the N is sheer evil, and the victim wants some sort of understanding of why all this happened OTHER THAN THE REALITY OF THE N'S EVIL, but there is no other explanation.

That's a difficult conclusion to come to, so the victim often seeks out the narcissist for some [non-existent] other explanation. However, the only closure with the narcissist is the realization that you will never hear the truth from the narcissist, but you can know the truth anyway, and the truth will set you free.

CLOSURE would require the admission of the harm caused... admission of the wrongs they have done, validation of the harm that was caused to us, without excuses for they did this or what "reasons" there were for their actions, and a sincere apology…without excuses or blaming someone else. You know that the narc will never sincerely do this.