Derby Speaks Up

24/10/2026

Know the signs, protect your wellbeing
Projection is a common behaviour from controlling, toxic and narcissistic abusive people
The twist it. But really they're telling on themselves 👇👇👇
Find awareness resources and support via www.derbyspeaksup.org.uk

24/10/2026

24/10/2026

Everyone needs to understand this and stop demonising victims who finally snap and say no more, which the abusive person uses to twist it and DARVO -
DENY
ATTACK
REVERSE
VICTIM AND
OFFENDER

https://www.rula.com/blog/reactive-abuse/

17/10/2026

Help is available 👇

Welcome to the Not All Men Hotline! We care about you and your emergency, and are here to help. You've been directed to this hotline because you have derailed a post about women's pain with a reminder that some men aren't sexist. This suggests that you think it is more important that everyone perceive men positively than it is to listen to women and keep them safe.

That is deeply misogynistic, and directly undermines any progress we might ever make toward true gender equity.

We understand that anything that paints men as less than heroic and perfect can feel like an emergency and a threat in a patriarchal society. We sympathize with your concerns, and so we're here to address them and explain why your proclamations are harmful, derailing, and make you look like a misogynist.

Everyone already knows that it is not literally all men. You know everyone knows that, too. So the purpose of your proclamation isn’t to educate, and to show us that we need to pack up the feminist project because you found a nice guy. It’s to redirect the attention back to men—usually in a discussion where women are sharing their pain.

We’re here to help you direct your empty proclamations elsewhere. Please continue to hold.

Read the rest of the article at https://zawn.substack.com/p/hello-youve-reached-the-not-all-men-b95

16/10/2026

16/10/2026

Violence against women and girls doesn’t come out of nowhere.

When sexist comments, jokes and harmful behaviour go unchallenged, they can help create a culture where disrespect towards women and girls becomes normalised.

Men have an important role to play in changing this. But speaking up isn’t always easy, and you don’t need to have the perfect response.

Our free discussion guide offers practical tips for challenging harmful attitudes, supporting others and intervening safely.

If nobody challenges it, nothing changes.

📖 Download the free guide:https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5965f0e9e58c62e0520e1d7b/t/6ab3d45877ad235a6986ef01/1790170200333/Discussion+guide.pdf

16/10/2026

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16/10/2026

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