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Better With Friends Pain Support Group We are a local group of people who all suffer from varying degrees of pain and different illnesses

This usually me on my days off anyway, buy its very me after we meet up on Tuesdays!! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ As much as I enjoy Tuesday get...
05/10/2026

This usually me on my days off anyway, buy its very me after we meet up on Tuesdays!! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ As much as I enjoy Tuesday get togethers, I'm usually asleep as soon as I get home as I'm exhausted with jaw ache and rib ache from talking and laughing!!

Tomorrow, Tuesday 6th October is the same as always - 11am til 1pm. Everyone is welcome. Enter a stranger, leave a friend ๐Ÿฅฐ

Sorry for the quietness recently, life has been lifeing! Hope everyone has been doing the best they can. We are getting ...
14/09/2026

Sorry for the quietness recently, life has been lifeing! Hope everyone has been doing the best they can.

We are getting together tomorrow, Tuesday 15th September, at Conniston Crescent between 11am and 1pm. Everyone is welcome

09/09/2026
I follow this lovely lady on here and my personal page, and Jo has so many interesting recources!! I'm hoping that tomor...
31/08/2026

I follow this lovely lady on here and my personal page, and Jo has so many interesting recources!!

I'm hoping that tomorrow when we meet (Tuesday 1st September) we can discuss some of the points that Jo shares.

We will be at the Coniston Crescent Community room between 11am and 1pm, everyone is welcome

๐Ÿ’œ FIBRO & ME ๐Ÿ’œ

๐ŸŒป WHY DOES PAIN FEEL DIFFERENT IN THE MORNING, AFTERNOON & NIGHT? ๐ŸŒป

๐Ÿฉต โ€œWHY CAN I FEEL SO DIFFERENT AT 8AM, 2PM AND 10PM?โ€ ๐Ÿฉต

If you live with fibromyalgia, you might notice something strange:

THE PAIN DOESNโ€™T STAY THE SAME ALL DAY.

You can wake up feeling like youโ€™ve been hit by a truckโ€ฆ

Feel slightly better around lunchtimeโ€ฆ

โ€ฆand then find yourself hurting again by bedtime.

Or perhaps your day goes completely the opposite way.

THATโ€™S THE FRUSTRATING THING ABOUT FIBRO โ€” THERE ISNโ€™T ALWAYS A PREDICTABLE PATTERN.

๐Ÿฉท ๐Ÿ’› ๐Ÿ’š ๐Ÿ’™ ๐Ÿ’œ ๐Ÿงก โค๏ธ

๐Ÿ’œ MORNING โ€” โ€œWHY DOES EVERYTHING HURT?โ€

For many people with fibromyalgia, mornings can be particularly difficult.

Youโ€™ve technically been resting for hoursโ€ฆ

So why do you feel like youโ€™ve done a twelve-hour shift?!

You might wake up with:

๐Ÿ’œ Stiffness
๐Ÿ’œ Aching muscles
๐Ÿ’œ Heavy limbs
๐Ÿ’œ Widespread pain
๐Ÿ’œ Extreme fatigue
๐Ÿ’œ Brain fog
๐Ÿ’œ Difficulty getting moving

And then thereโ€™s the classic:

โ€œIโ€™VE JUST SLEPTโ€ฆ SO WHY AM I EXHAUSTED?โ€

Fibromyalgia can be associated with sleep problems and waking feeling unrefreshed, which can contribute to morning fatigue and increased pain.

๐Ÿฉท ๐Ÿ’› ๐Ÿ’š ๐Ÿ’™ ๐Ÿ’œ ๐Ÿงก โค๏ธ

๐Ÿ’™ WHY CAN MORNINGS FEEL SO BAD?

One reason is that sleep doesnโ€™t always equal restorative sleep when you have fibromyalgia.

You may spend enough hours in bed but still wake feeling as though your body hasnโ€™t properly recharged.

You may also have been in one position for several hours.

Then you try to moveโ€ฆ

AND EVERY MUSCLE HAS AN OPINION.

Getting moving gently can sometimes help ease stiffness, but pushing yourself too hard first thing can leave you paying for it later.

๐Ÿฉท ๐Ÿ’› ๐Ÿ’š ๐Ÿ’™ ๐Ÿ’œ ๐Ÿงก โค๏ธ

๐Ÿ’š AFTERNOON โ€” โ€œOKAYโ€ฆ I CAN FUNCTION!โ€

Then something strange happens.

Youโ€™ve had a shower.

Youโ€™ve moved around.

Youโ€™ve had something to eat.

Youโ€™ve been awake for a few hours.

And suddenly:

โ€œOHโ€ฆ I DONโ€™T FEEL QUITE AS AWFUL.โ€

For some people, pain and stiffness can ease as they gradually move around.

But that doesnโ€™t mean the fibro has disappeared.

Your energy may still be limited.

And this is where the dangerous thought can appear:

โ€œI FEEL BETTER! Iโ€™M GOING TO DO EVERYTHING!โ€

FIBRO HAS ENTERED THE CHAT.

๐Ÿฉท ๐Ÿ’› ๐Ÿ’š ๐Ÿ’™ ๐Ÿ’œ ๐Ÿงก โค๏ธ

๐Ÿงก THE AFTERNOON TRAP

Feeling better can be wonderful.

But it can also be tempting to catch up on everything youโ€™ve been unable to do.

Cleaning.

Shopping.

Cooking.

Appointments.

Work.

Socialising.

All at once.

Then your body starts sending little warning signals:

โ€œHELLOโ€ฆ WEโ€™RE GETTING TIRED.โ€

Ignore them long enough and you may end up completely wiped out later.

Thatโ€™s why pacing is important.

A BETTER HOUR DOESNโ€™T ALWAYS MEAN YOU HAVE A FULL BATTERY.

๐Ÿฉท ๐Ÿ’› ๐Ÿ’š ๐Ÿ’™ ๐Ÿ’œ ๐Ÿงก โค๏ธ

๐Ÿ’œ NIGHT โ€” โ€œWHY IS IT ALL COMING BACK?โ€

By evening, youโ€™ve used your body all day.

Even ordinary activities have required energy.

Walking.

Standing.

Thinking.

Talking.

Cooking.

Working.

Looking after other people.

Dealing with noise.

Dealing with stress.

And suddenly the pain seems to turn the volume back up.

โ€œHELLO AGAIN!โ€

For some people, pain becomes more noticeable at night, especially when theyโ€™re finally still and have fewer distractions.

๐Ÿฉท ๐Ÿ’› ๐Ÿ’š ๐Ÿ’™ ๐Ÿ’œ ๐Ÿงก โค๏ธ

๐Ÿ’™ WHEN EVERYTHING GOES QUIETโ€ฆ

During the day, your brain has things to concentrate on.

At night?

The house is quiet.

The television is off.

Youโ€™re lying still.

And suddenly you can feel:

EVERY. SINGLE. ACHE.

That doesnโ€™t necessarily mean the pain has suddenly appeared.

You may simply be noticing it more because there are fewer distractions.

And when youโ€™re already exhaustedโ€ฆ

PAIN + FATIGUE + POOR SLEEP = ONE VERY UNHAPPY NIGHT.

๐Ÿฉท ๐Ÿ’› ๐Ÿ’š ๐Ÿ’™ ๐Ÿ’œ ๐Ÿงก โค๏ธ

๐Ÿ’š THEN SLEEP BECOMES PART OF THE CYCLE

Hereโ€™s the really frustrating bit.

Pain can interfere with sleep.

Poor sleep can leave you more tired.

Fatigue can make everything feel harder.

And when your body is strugglingโ€ฆ

THE NEXT MORNING STARTS THE CYCLE AGAIN.

Fibromyalgia commonly involves sleep difficulties, and poor-quality sleep can worsen fatigue and other symptoms.

Itโ€™s like your body has accidentally subscribed to:

THE 24-HOUR FIBRO CYCLE.

And nobody remembers signing up.

๐Ÿฉท ๐Ÿ’› ๐Ÿ’š ๐Ÿ’™ ๐Ÿ’œ ๐Ÿงก โค๏ธ

๐Ÿงก THERE ISNโ€™T ONE โ€œNORMALโ€ FIBRO DAY

This is important.

Not everyone experiences the same pattern.

Some people hurt most in the morning.

Some hurt more later in the day.

Some experience fluctuating pain throughout the day.

Some have completely unpredictable symptoms.

And your own pattern can change too.

A flare can throw your normal routine straight out the window.

FIBRO DOESNโ€™T READ THE CLOCK.

๐Ÿฉท ๐Ÿ’› ๐Ÿ’š ๐Ÿ’™ ๐Ÿ’œ ๐Ÿงก โค๏ธ

๐Ÿ’œ WEATHER, STRESS & ACTIVITY CAN JOIN IN TOO

Your pain isnโ€™t necessarily controlled by time alone.

You may notice changes around:

๐Ÿ’œ Poor sleep
๐Ÿ’œ Stress
๐Ÿ’œ Physical activity
๐Ÿ’œ Doing too much
๐Ÿ’œ Sitting or standing for long periods
๐Ÿ’œ Changes in routine
๐Ÿ’œ Other symptoms flaring

Which means Monday morning might feel completely different from Saturday morning.

And yesterdayโ€™s pain doesnโ€™t guarantee todayโ€™s pain.

THAT UNPREDICTABILITY IS EXHAUSTING IN ITSELF.

๐Ÿฉท ๐Ÿ’› ๐Ÿ’š ๐Ÿ’™ ๐Ÿ’œ ๐Ÿงก โค๏ธ

๐Ÿ’™ FIND YOUR OWN PATTERN

One thing that can be genuinely useful is keeping a simple symptom diary.

For a couple of weeks, note:

๐Ÿ’™ Morning pain
๐Ÿ’™ Afternoon pain
๐Ÿ’™ Evening pain
๐Ÿ’™ Sleep quality
๐Ÿ’™ Activity
๐Ÿ’™ Stress
๐Ÿ’™ Major symptoms
๐Ÿ’™ Any medications or treatments

You may discover:

โ€œOHโ€ฆ MY PAIN ALWAYS SPIKES AFTER I OVERDO IT.โ€

Or:

โ€œMY WORST TIME IS ACTUALLY THE EVENING.โ€

Knowing your pattern can help you plan your day more realistically.

๐Ÿฉท ๐Ÿ’› ๐Ÿ’š ๐Ÿ’™ ๐Ÿ’œ ๐Ÿงก โค๏ธ

๐ŸŒป THE TAKEAWAY ๐ŸŒป

Fibromyalgia pain doesnโ€™t necessarily stay at one level all day.

Morning may bring stiffness, fatigue and heavy pain.

Afternoon might bring a temporary improvement โ€” or the consequences of everything youโ€™ve already done.

Night can bring increased aches, exhaustion and greater awareness of pain, particularly when youโ€™re finally resting.

And thenโ€ฆ

YOU DO IT ALL AGAIN TOMORROW.

The important thing is learning your own rhythm.

Donโ€™t use a better afternoon as proof that youโ€™re suddenly โ€œbetter.โ€

Donโ€™t use a terrible morning as proof that the entire day will be awful.

And donโ€™t feel guilty when your body changes its mind.

YOUR BODY ISNโ€™T BEING DIFFICULT.

Youโ€™re living with a condition that can fluctuate.

Listen.

Pace.

Rest when you need to.

And remember:

YOU DONโ€™T HAVE TO WIN THE WHOLE DAY.

Sometimes you just need to get through the next hour. ๐Ÿ’œ

๐Ÿฉท ๐Ÿ’› ๐Ÿ’š ๐Ÿ’™ ๐Ÿ’œ ๐Ÿงก โค๏ธ

๐ŸŒป LETโ€™S TALK ๐ŸŒป

WHEN IS YOUR FIBRO PAIN WORST?

MORNING?
AFTERNOON?
NIGHT?
ALL OVER THE BLOODY PLACE?!

Tell us what your typical fibro day feels like.

Because someone reading your answer might finally think:

โ€œOMGโ€ฆ MY BODY DOES THAT TOO!โ€

๐Ÿฉท ๐Ÿ’› ๐Ÿ’š ๐Ÿ’™ ๐Ÿ’œ ๐Ÿงก โค๏ธ















20/07/2026

Normal day at normal place tomorrow.
Pop in and have a chat, I know youโ€™ll go home feeling happier than when you arrive.
See you from 11 til 1.

Saw this and thought yeah thatโ€™s our group
12/07/2026

Saw this and thought yeah thatโ€™s our group

Meredith Van Ness Therapy and Coaching

30/06/2026

Sorry itโ€™s late notice but there will be nobody at the normal place today.
We will however be there next week from 11-1.
We all would love for you to drop in for a cuppa and chat.
Look forward to seeing you all.๐Ÿฅฐโค๏ธโ€๐Ÿฉนโ˜•๏ธ๐Ÿฐ๐Ÿช

22/06/2026

There is a change of plan for this Tuesday. 23/06/26

We WILL be at Coniston Crescent from 11-1.

As it is going to be too hot to go anywhere our members have decided to meet up at the normal place.

We will have fans galore and drinks.
So come and join us for a cuppa or a few.

16/06/2026

Just to inform anyone wanting to visit us on 23rd June (next Tuesday) we wonโ€™t be at Coniston Crescent, but we will be there the week after on 30th June from 11-1.

Hope to see you then.

Sorry for the quiet posts everyone, its been a busy few weeks! We meet every Tuesday at our Community Room at Conniston ...
16/06/2026

Sorry for the quiet posts everyone, its been a busy few weeks!

We meet every Tuesday at our Community Room at Conniston Crescent between 11am and 1pm even if I dont post on here. Any changes will be posted on here.

Anyone else struggling with sleep at the minute? I'm up and down so much, its like a workout! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜‚

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Coniston Crescent Community Room. Stratford Road
Derby
DE214DT

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+447925002032

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