26/06/2026
“You can explain what it’s like to have a child with additional needs, but until you’ve seen it, you can’t truly understand how hard it is.”
Sam, 31, is mum to four-year-old twins Rory and Rio, who both have global developmental delay, and two-year-old Reece. With no clear diagnosis and losing both her parents when the twins were six months old, she faced huge uncertainty and felt completely alone while her partner worked full time.
That changed when community group Home-Start Wrexham stepped in.
“My mum had been like a second mum to the boys. Losing her changed everything overnight. Because the twins behave like much younger children, I have to be constantly switched on, it’s like having triplet two-year-olds. Our house has cupboard locks, safety gates, everything screwed to the walls.
"Before Home-Start, I really isolated myself. If my kids were disruptive, people just thought they were being naughty. After a few judgmental comments, I started to avoid everyone. I was stuck inside with three children most of the time.”
Overwhelmed and struggling with her mental health, Sam broke down in front of a health visitor, who referred her to Home-Start.
“Pam rang me and we clicked instantly. Honest to God, I wouldn’t have survived without them. When people say they’re drowning, I was already underwater. Pam saved me.
“The boys have made huge progress. I thought they’d never be able to talk or be out of nappies. Pam told me, ‘Just because they can’t speak doesn’t mean they’re not capable. She was the first person who actually said that to me and I felt like crying. When they used the potty for the first time, I phoned her straight away.
“Home-Start has brought joy back into our lives. We took the boys to the park and I was terrified of all the climbing frames, but Pam helped me stay calm. I’ve learned they’re capable of so much more than I thought.
“Rory is now saying a few words enough to tell me someone upset him at school. Rio has also started communicating nonverbally too instead of screaming.
“I kick myself for not asking for help sooner. Knowing someone is there for me changes everything. I’m happier, my partner’s happier, and my boys are happier — there are so many more smiles in our home now.”
Thanks to a grant of almost £100,000, Home-Start Wrexham are supporting young families like Sam’s boosting confidence and enabling them to thrive.
Read Sam’s story in our Impact Report: https://ow.ly/qEtZ50ZgM2U
“Gallwch esbonio sut beth yw cael plentyn ag anghenion ychwanegol, ond tan i chi ei weld, allwch chi ddim deall yn iawn pa mor anodd ydyw.”
Mae Sam, 31, yn fam i efeilliaid pedair oed, Rory a Rio, sydd â nam datblygiadol cynnar, a Reece, dwy oed. Heb ddiagnosis clir a cholli ei rhieni pan oedd yr efeilliaid yn chwe mis oed, roedd hi’n wynebu ansicrwydd enfawr ac yn teimlo’n gwbl unig tra bod ei phartner yn gweithio’n llawn amser.
Newidiodd hynny pan gamodd y grŵp cymunedol Home-Start Wrecsam i mewn.
“Roedd fy mam fel ail fam i’r bechgyn. Fe wnaeth ei cholli newid popeth dros nos. Gan fod yr efeilliaid yn ymddwyn fel plant llawer iau, mae’n rhaid i mi fod yn effro drwy’r amser, mae fel cael tripledi dwy oed. Mae gan ein tŷ gloeon ar y cypyrddau, gatiau diogelwch, popeth wedi’i sgriwio i’r waliau.
“Cyn Home-Start, roeddwn i wir yn ynysu fy hun. Os oedd fy mhlant yn aflonyddgar, roedd pobl yn meddwl eu bod nhw’n ddrwg. Ar ôl ychydig o sylwadau beirniadol, dechreuais osgoi pawb. Roeddwn i’n sownd y tu fewn gyda thri o blant y rhan fwyaf o’r amser.”
Wedi’i llethu ac yn cael trafferth gyda’i hiechyd meddwl, chwalodd Sam o flaen ymwelydd iechyd, a chafodd ei chyfeirio at Home-Start.
“Ffoniodd Pam fi ac fe wnaethon ni glicio ar unwaith. Yn wir, fyddwn i ddim wedi goroesi hebddyn nhw. Pan fydd pobl yn dweud eu bod nhw’n boddi, roeddwn i o dan ddŵr yn barod. Achubodd Pam fi.
“Mae’r bechgyn wedi gwneud cynnydd enfawr. Roeddwn i'n meddwl na fydden nhw byth yn gallu siarad na bod allan o gewynnau. Dywedodd Pam wrtha i, ‘Oherwydd nad ydyn nhw'n gallu siarad, dydy hynny ddim yn golygu nad ydyn nhw'n alluog’. Hi oedd y person cyntaf i ddweud hynny wrtha i ac roeddwn i eisiau crio. Pan ddefnyddion nhw’r poti am y tro cyntaf, fe ffoniais hi’n syth.
“Mae Home-Start wedi dod â llawenydd yn ôl i’n bywydau. Aethom â’r bechgyn i’r parc ac roeddwn i’n ofnus o’r holl fframiau dringo, ond helpodd Pam fi i aros yn ddigynnwrf. Dwi wedi dysgu eu bod nhw’n gallu gwneud cymaint mwy nag oeddwn i’n meddwl.
“Mae Rory bellach yn dweud ychydig o eiriau, digon i ddweud wrtha i fod rhywun wedi’i gynhyrfu yn yr ysgol. Mae Rio hefyd wedi dechrau cyfathrebu’n ddi-eiriau hefyd yn lle sgrechian.
“Dwi’n difaru peidio â gofyn am help yn gynt. Mae gwybod bod rhywun yno i mi’n newid popeth. Dwi’n hapusach, mae fy mhartner yn hapusach, ac mae’r bechgyn yn hapusach - mae cymaint mwy o wenu yn ein cartref nawr.”
Diolch i grant o bron i £100,000, mae Home-Start Wrecsam yn cefnogi teuluoedd ifanc fel un Sam gan hybu hyder a'u galluogi i ffynnu.
Darllenwch stori Sam yn ein Hadroddiad Effaith: https://ow.ly/ZNir50ZgM2a
