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You Are Enough, Bury St. Edmunds (2026)

04/12/2021

I very rarely post pictures of me but I am trying to do better! Self confidence and self worth is a work in progress, but progress is progress.

Learning to be happy with myself again and starting to really care about me, which is huge in my recovery journey.

I still hope posting about my recovery journey, although it’s been not the most consistent, has been helpful and continues to be helpful for myself and anyone else who may look at this page from time to time.

I plan to carry on posting and talking about my journey but also offer anyone seeking help avenues in which to find their own path to recovery.

30/11/2021

Over eleven months ago I was in a very dark place, battling with multiple mental health issues along with unable to stop drinking for any longer than a few weeks at a time before binging again. I thought I was never going to be able to stop being powerless over alcohol, but all that changed from New Year’s Eve 2020. I decided I wanted to make a real change and become powerful and conquer my demons, I wanted to fight, and I also knew I couldn’t do it alone anymore.

I have an incredible support network of family and friends. I called my therapist and we then started to work from the ground up again, getting a routine in place, admitting defeat and putting in place barriers, boundaries and whatever else was needed.

Admitting defeat over something, that it had me beat was one of the hardest things to do, that first step, but the path can show itself to you in that moment.

I’m ecstatic to reach any length of time without alcohol, I am feeling more and more confident about reaching the big 1 year 🙊 but for right now it’s one step in front of the other, one day at a time.

If you or anyone you know is struggling with alcohol or any other substance, reach out, to me, to your friend or family, to anyone. It shows strength, not weakness.

23/11/2021

Make sure you prioritise your self care because how can you help others when your batteries are low?

It’s easier said than done though, I am always forgetting to take care of myself and put myself on the back burner so I can help everyone and everything first. I had to start putting myself first and my priorities first.

It’s not always easy and sometimes there are inner battles with your own self you have to face.

Going to lots of Christmas parties? Worried you might be at risk of drinking or doing something you know you don’t want to be doing? Don’t go, don’t make excuses and lie, be honest or just say you can’t make it, honestly people will understand. If you are worried about missing out then you are also potentially not putting your core self first.

Wanting to join in with others is a powerful pull, so it’s important to have your core self and values non moveable if that makes any sense.

There will always be another gathering and party you can go to, once you’ve done the work on your self so you are strong enough.

If anything becomes between you and your self, it’s a no, well at least for me it is, no exceptions. None.

18/11/2021

Hope everyone is having a good week. I’ve been enjoying my journey and been focusing on living my amends and focusing on the now. Sometimes I get reminded of old ways and also see just how easy it is to slip back into them.

I have a few friends who drink like my old self and also friends who have struggled the past year or so which is really hard to see, but also I make sure not to let myself slip back into old ways but try and show myself that change is possible, I’ve opened new doors, closed and locked and bricked over old ones, hopefully that if anyone, friends or not, can see that change is always possible and that continuing old ways aren’t going to solve the problem.

Excited for my next step of my journey, I go through such a rollercoaster of emotions all the time but it feels good to feel them all and work through them rather than avoid them.

31/10/2021

10 months sober today. Can’t believe it but also how fast this month is going?!

Self worth is what I’m currently working on and it was a lot of my struggle last year with punishing myself for past mistakes, but today ’m so proud of myself, I’m proud of the person I’m promising myself to be every single day.

I hope every one has a good day and it’s ok if you don’t, you’re doing the best you can.

I’m off to see a few friends later for a catch up and some pumpkin soup which I’m really looking forward to! 🥣

Happy Halloween! 🎃

30/09/2021

9 months sober today and free from alcohol! I could’ve had a baby 😅. I’ve worked extremely hard to get to this point and each milestone is worth celebrating whether it’s one day you’re struggling to get through or one hour, you’re achievements are worth recognising because you’re worth it.

My self worth was rock bottom for so long, which is what allowed me to give up and being resentful for previous actions kept me in a place of misery, but I chose to live, to reach out and to take action.

At this point I don’t struggle with alcohol and it doesn’t control me or worry me like it used to - will there be wine at this party? Yeah but will there be enough wine? Will I have drink at home when I get back? Can’t wait for the weekend to have a drink. None of that matters now. I still have to work at it like anything, I was drinking most weekends for many years so it takes a lot of time to ‘unlearn’ behaviours and find new more exciting ones that benefit your health and life.

As always a big shoutout to everyone who has helped me get to this point, it’s a slow journey and you can’t do it alone but there’s always help out there.

Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.

20/09/2021

Daily reminder, be kind to yourself. That’s for me and for anyone else who needs reminding.

I can be my own worst critic, I put myself down and get frustrated that progress is happening, but sometimes too slowly, or there are days where I don’t feel like doing anything or post anything.

It’s ok, I’m still on a big journey and learning to be kind to yourself is a big part of that so I’m trying to do that! Hope you are too!

04/09/2021

Here are some tips that have helped me over the last 8 months of not drinking alcohol.

If you are concerned about your drinking or have been told you need to stop for a short period of time, if it’s for an operation, raising money for charity or just want to live a healthier life without alcohol then these are some tips to help you stop those initial cravings & keep you going!

Disclaimer: I’m no expert! I’m 8 months into not drinking and I’m still on my own journey of self care and removing dependencies on or towards alcohol, but these are just some of the things that I do that work for me.

Please seek professional advice when considering stopping drinking especially if you are consuming large amounts as you may require a detox programme to prevent severe withdrawal.

31/08/2021

8 months baby! 😂

Recap: to anyone who is interested 😅, in lockdown I was going through quite a painful & turbulent divorce, along with living alone, working for myself at home & co parenting a dog, it led to lots of isolation and long periods of time without just my thoughts! It led me down a deep and dark path which ultimately led me to use alcohol as a coping mechanism.

Towards the end of the year it was clear I wasn’t getting better & using alcohol was more like a prescription to forget about things rather than sit with them and deal with them head on and that’s what I ultimately chose to do.

I also sat back at my last drinking behaviour before lockdown, which I did see initial signs of escalation, for a long time it was mostly drinking on weekends, never at work or in the week.

As I worked from home more and running my own business with my own rules, the lines of ‘oh it’s Wednesday, hump day’ or it’s almost the weekend etc began to enter the mind, so it is interesting to look back and question not only the last year but maybe try and do something more drastic and change how you look towards alcohol, rather than have it there as it’s marketed by the big companies to be a social tool or a quiet night in thing, which it can be, in moderation. However I believe as it is an addictive substance, which to people struggling with other things such as depression etc can lead to slow escalation.

I’m now at a place where I’m no longer dependent on having alcohol as a coping mechanism or a social lubricant, I’m weird enough as it is! 🤣 but also that it has shifted in the last few months, I’m back to being myself, I’m interested in things, interested in dating again! 🙈, I’m also at a place where it’s now a choice with alcohol, it was essential for me at first to go to drastic lengths, but now I am choosing to not have a drink, because I don’t really want one.

25/08/2021

I’m like a lot of people that view certain challenges and struggles as a sign I’ve not done the best I can or that I am weak, but I know that I’m using the challenges that lay ahead for a way to move forward not backwards and not to fall on those struggles and simply surrender.

For a long time I felt helpless, lost without a paddle, aimlessly just letting things knock me down more and more until I felt like a shell, I let people take so much from me when I should’ve been building myself back up sooner.

Now my struggles have become ammunition to move forward in a direction that benefits me most in my own pursuit of happiness.

Happiness to me isn’t about owning cars, even able to drive that car, own a house or nice things, essentially putting my happiness in external factors which will not make you happy, happiness is an inside job, so that’s where I’m starting.

My journey is on a discovery with myself, being happy in my own skin, caring for myself and taking care of me, I’ve neglected for so long.

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