27/11/2025
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đđ Why some children with Duchenne ask their mum to speak for them đđ
âfrom a Duchenne mum
I wanted to share something I see with Joshua all the time, especially at medical appointments⌠and I know so many of you will relate.
Youâre stood there, a doctor or nurse asks your son a questionâ
âHowâs college going?â
âAny pain today?â
âWhat made you laugh this week?â
And he immediately turns to you and quietly says,
âYou tell them?â
And for a moment you wonder⌠Why? He knows the answer.
Hereâs the truth đ
For many boys with Duchenne, speaking in certain situations can feel overwhelming.
Their brain is already juggling fatigue, discomfort, anxiety about tests or results, trying to read the room, trying to stay braveâŚ
And then a social demand gets added on top.
That simple question becomes too much đ
So when they ask us to answer for them, what theyâre really saying is:
âI canât do the social bit right now⌠please help me.â
đ Being put on the spot in a medical setting
đ Feeling tired, sore or emotionally drained
đ Worrying theyâll say the âwrongâ thing
đ Canât find the words when pressure hits
đ Feeling embarrassed or unsure about how honest to be
đ Having already talked about their symptoms over and over again
đ Worried about peopleâs reactions, or about disappointing someone
They lean on us because weâre their safe person, their emotional buffer.
The one place they donât have to mask or perform. đđź
And honestly? Itâs completely okay.
Youâre their anchor. Their comfort. Their home base. đ§Ą
The goal is never to force them to speak.
Itâs to help them feel safe enough to share when they are ready.
If this is your child too, youâre not alone. Thereâs nothing âwrongâ with them.
Their world asks a lot of them, and theyâre doing the best they can.
Sending love to every Duchenne parent who quietly steps in and holds space for their son until his voice feels safe again.
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