03/10/2025
“Breaking the Cycle: Choosing Non-Violence in Child Discipli ‘
Transcend Oceania stands firmly in support of Mr. Nilesh Lal, Executive Director of Dialogue Fiji, in his opposition to the re-introduction of corporal punishment for children in Fiji.
We are deeply alarmed by recent calls to bring back violence as a tool of discipline. As an organization founded on the philosophy of non-violence, peacebuilding, and trauma healing, we strongly believe that corporal punishment undermines children’s dignity, erodes trust, and perpetuates cycles of violence across families, schools, and communities.
Violence teaches children fear, not responsibility. It breaks relationships instead of building character. In a time when Fiji is already grappling with rising cases of violence in homes, schools, and communities, reinforcing violence as “discipline” will only worsen the problem.
Positive Alternatives to Violence in Child Discipline
Instead of reviving harmful practices, we urge parents, teachers, community leaders, and policymakers to invest in non-violent, constructive, and culturally grounded approaches to child discipline and guidance. Some proven alternatives include:
1. Positive Discipline and Restorative Approaches
• Encourage children to reflect on their behavior, understand consequences, and make amends.
• Use restorative circles or dialogues in schools and homes to resolve conflicts and rebuild trust.
2. Clear and Consistent Boundaries
• Establish age-appropriate rules and expectations, explained with patience and respect.
• Apply fair, consistent, and non-violent consequences when rules are broken.
3. Parental and Teacher Training
• Equip parents and educators with practical skills in conflict resolution, emotional regulation, and positive reinforcement.
• Provide support networks for caregivers so discipline is rooted in love, not frustration.
4. Strengthening Community Support Systems
• Engage churches, faith leaders, elders, and community mentors to guide children with wisdom and compassion.
• Create safe spaces for children to share struggles and receive guidance, rather than punishment.
5. Promoting Trauma Awareness
• Recognize that many misbehaviors stem from deeper trauma, stress, or unaddressed needs.
• Provide counseling, peer support, and culturally grounded healing practices as alternatives to punishment.
Call to Action
We join Dialogue Fiji in calling on the Government of Fiji, educators, and parents to reject any proposal that legitimizes corporal punishment. Fiji has ratified international conventions that protect children’s rights, and our cultural values of vanua emphasize relationships of care, dignity, and respect.
As a nation, let us model for our children the values we want them to live by: compassion, responsibility, resilience, and peace. A violent society cannot build peaceful children; but a peaceful society, grounded in non-violence, can nurture a generation that breaks cycles of harm and embraces justice and love.
Transcend Oceania reaffirms its commitment to work with communities, schools, churches, and state institutions to strengthen positive, non-violent approaches to child discipline that honor our children’s dignity and uphold peace in our vanua.