17/05/2026
O V E R C O M I N G O F F E N S E
I remember times when I’d feel very awkward if someone offended me, particularly if that someone was a Christian person. I didn’t know how to deal with the offense or with the person. And it happened that none of the Christians around me knew how to deal with offense either. It was easier to sweep matters under the rug, and pretend that there had been no offense done. Because we had a superficial knowledge on God’s kind of love, we didn’t love enough to rebuke those who offended us. And because they were not corrected they were likely to have gone on to offend others.
Jesus said to His disciples: “it is impossible that no offenses should come..” Luke 17:1
Offense will come our way, even daily. How we deal with that offense is what’s important. But first let’s unpack what offense is.
Offense can be as insignificant as a colleague forgetting your name and remembering everyone else’s at a team’s meeting, to as great as a spouse spending the family’s savings to fund his gambling. In between are countless other offenses. Jesus referred to offenses as stumbling blocks. Stumbling blocks do not themselves cause us to stumble. Think of a few blocks laying on a path one after the other. Unless they’re jumping up and down as you try to walk over them, they won’t harm you. If you look down the path as you walk, and slow down once you see them, you’ll easily be able to step over them and keep walking. But many Christians aren’t paying attention. They either stop altogether and can’t see how to go around the stumbling blocks or they crush into them.
Offense becomes stumbling blocks to us when our minds are not set on God. At a time when David was forced to live aa a fugitive because king Saul sought to kill him, he declared “my heart is set [fixed], O Lord, my heart is set!” (Psalm 57:7). He had set his mind to praise God and not to harm God’s anointed, even when opportunity came and he could easily have wiped out king Saul. Paul said in Colossians 3:2 “set your minds on things above, not on earthly things”. The things above are those things that God has prepared for us - beyond our present sufferings. Hebrews 12 says that Jesus overcame the cross because He placed His focus on the joy that was set before Him.
We always have a choice what to do when offended. Do we forgive, get bitter or fall into sin?
It is a grievous thing for the person that causes others to stumble- Jesus said “it would be better for him if a milestone was hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea, than he should offend one of these little ones.” Luke 17:2. Anyone that causes others to fall into sin, or deliberately stands in the way of others knowing the Truth of God commits a great sin.
At the same time, Jesus said we too, that encounter an offense, have a responsibility in this matter.
First He says “take heed to yourself” Luke 17:3. To take heed is to pay careful attention “to ourselves”. Instead of walking with our eyes roaming up the skies, be watchful of the path on which you walk. This means to pay attention to our thoughts, to what we see and what we listen to, and the company we keep. To be mindful of our spiritual and moral condition.
Secondly Jesus adds that if our brother sins against us we should rebuke him; and if he repents, we should forgive him. We have a duty toward those who wrong us- to rebuke them. Then He tells us how frequently we need to forgive those who offend us: as often as he comes and repents. Even if it would be seven times a day (verse 4).
When the apostles heard this, they couldn’t understand it. In reality a person in their right mind wouldn’t continue doing wrong that many times, unless their heart was hardened. In that case they wouldn’t return to you to ask for forgiveness. But, if they were in their right mind and they did mess up that much yet returned to apologise to you, would you have the grace to forgive them?
The apostles searched within themselves, and how they’d customarily dealt with offenders. They felt that they didn’t have it in themselves to forgive that many times. So they said to the Lord, “increase our faith.”
As I studied these scriptures, I realised that many times we rely on how things are done “customarily” around our circles. We may forgive a few times, but because by the second or third time we’ve informed our inner circle of friends and they’re all expressing their opinions, we lean more on pleasing them than forgiving the spouse/colleague/neighbour.
How did your family deal with offense, as you grew up? Some of us heard our elders talking about offensive relatives who’d caused such grief that left unhealing wounds on other relatives. They’d done a damage so big that forgiveness wasn’t even an option. How are you dealing with offenses that occur frequently from your family members?
Jesus said to the disciples, “if you have faith as a mustard seed, you can say to this mulberry tree, ‘be pulled up by the roots and be planted in the sea,’ and it would obey you..” verse 6.
The faith you have is enough for you to forgive your spouse/child/neighbour as often as they do you wrong.
Your faith has immense potential to change circumstances. Think of a mulberry tree or an apple tree that you come across and suddenly feel a holy inkling to command to be uprooted and planted in the nearby sea. And it is done. What would that do to you? You might throw your hands up in the air with your mouth open, look around you fiercely to grab the attention of every passerby and shout ‘did you see that?!’ And as they run towards you, you take ownership of that hole from where the tree was uprooted, guiding all their eyes to that mulberry tree that’s now planted in the sea.
But more importantly, inside of you you’d build a memorial stone right there - and maybe physically too - and from that day on you will never EVER forget what God did when you put your faith in Him.
Living by faith is the life God want you to experience!
God takes forgiving seriously, and He knows that in the natural it is impossible to forgive those who offend and hurt us frequently. But the faith He gave us is not natural - we are capable of forgiving everyone that offends us, and as many times as they offend us.
In you is faith that can move mountains; Faith that can believe for a broken relationship to mend and that can bring healing to all those that have been hurt by that broken relationship.
I would have liked to end this post right here, because the point has gone across, but it wouldn’t be complete without going through the rest of Jesus’ teaching in that section of Luke 17.
Having told the apostles what their faith, even as small as a mustard seed, had potential to achieve, Jesus continued: ‘And which of you, having a servant plowing or tending sheep, will say to him when he has come in from the field, ‘Come at once and sit down to eat’? But will he not rather say to him, ‘Prepare something for my supper, and gird yourself and serve me till I have eaten and drunk, and afterward you will eat and drink’? Does he thank that servant because he did the things that were commanded him? I think not. So likewise you, when you have done all those things which you are commanded, say, ‘We are unprofitable servants. We have done what was our duty to do.’ ”(Luke 17:7-10)
It is our duty as children of God, to forgive those who offend us. The Bible says in Psalms 119:165 “great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them.” We overcome offense by forgiving the offender. It is what we must do as believers in Jesus Christ.
I know there are offenses that are heavier and deeper than others. There are those that take years to heal. God knows that. He’s bottled every one of your tears over those hurts (Psalms 56:8). He knows the only way forward for you is to forgive whoever offended you, and allow God to avenge you.
In the beginning of the following chapter (Luke 18), Jesus begins by saying that we must always pray and not lose heart. Then He goes on to tell a parable about a widow who kept going to the judge for justice against an adversary. Jesus says that although the judge did not fear God nor regard men, he said to himself that he would avenge the widow lest she wear him out by her continual ask for justice. He completes this by saying ‘Hear what the unjust judge said. And shall God not avenge His own elect who cry out day and night to Him, though He bears long with them? I tell you that He will avenge them speedily. Nevertheless, when the Son of Man comes, will He really find faith on the earth?” (Luke 18:6-8).
If all you have is a tiny amount of faith, trust God and act on it. God will avenge you. My prayer for you is that you would learn to fully trust God’s ability to act on your behalf and His willingness to help you. I pray that when Christ comes back He will find you and I living out our unshakable faith in God.