11/07/2023
https://www.keithmartinsmith.com/read/what-is-a-man
Quan em van demanar que m'hi unís, fa 15 anys, la meva resposta va ser senzilla: "Per què voldria ser un grup d'homes? Ser assetjat? Per burlar-se? Per escoltar acudits masclistes?" En aquell moment no m'agradaven ni confiaven en els homes. Em va costar una mica aprendre que hi ha una mena de masculinitat diferent del que ens ensenya i del que ens fan creure.
La meva definició personal del que és un home, un home sa, és com algú valent, humil, poderós, encarnat, savi, fort, desinteressat, honest, ben limitat, intel·ligent, solidari, carismàtic, independent, estable, vulnerable, obert. - Mental, amable, amable en la majoria de situacions, però clar i fort quan cal. Aquesta és la meva definició personal: de vegades no encarno moltes d'aquestes coses. Però és el que aspiro a ser i com em f**g responsable, i els homes del meu cercle íntim.
When asked to join, 15 years ago, my response was simple: “Why would I want to be a in group of men? To be bullied? To be made fun of? To hear sexist jokes?” I didn’t really like, or trust, men back then. It took me some time to learn that there is a kind of masculinity that’s different from what we’re taught, and what we’re led to believe.
My personal definition of what is a man, a healthy man, is as someone who's courageous, humble, powerful, embodied, wise, strong, selfless, honest, well-boundaried, intelligent, caring, charismatic, independent, steady, vulnerable, open-minded, gracious, kind in most situations but clear and strong when necessary. That's my personal definition — sometimes I fail to embody many of these things. But it’s what I aspire to be and how I hold myself, and those men in my inner circle, accountable.
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