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23/08/2026

AITA For not making my husband a plate of food before myself?

This came up recently and I’m wondering if I’m an a__hole for it.

Basically what happened was, I was in a situation where I had to stay at my grandmother’s house for about a week, with my entire family. Dinner time came around, my grandmother had cooked, I waited until she had got her food, then I went in and made myself a plate. I sat down and I began eating. My grandmother and my mother looked at me strangely, and my mom started in on me, saying that I was such a b**ch for not making my husband a plate, and my grandmother agreed that I was rude. They said that they both always made my grandfather, and my mom’s boyfriend a plate before anyone else eats and it was the proper thing to do, and I’m an a hole for not doing such for my dh.

I’ve been married for two years, and when we were on our own, I typically always cooked, but I let dh make his own plate so he can make it how he wants. The only time I fix it for him is if I want to split rations evenly, but that’s fairly rare.

AITA for not fixing his plate for him?

EDIT: someone pointed out that I should add this. But my mom and grandma are usually adamant about about a man not running my life and not serving my man hand and foot and equal partnership. That’s why I thought I was doing something wrong.

23/08/2026

AITA: Saw derogatory messages about me from adult stepdaughter and I kicked her out of my home?

I’ve helped my husband raise his 2 daughters for 16 years (28 & 21). The oldest lived with us and we’ve supported through law school. What is supposed to be an exciting time for our family went south when I saw text messages from SD 28 about me to her boyfriend, sister and friends. From saying I was filth, scum, a b__ch and even talked about getting a restraining order against me, imagine how upset and hurt I was when I read these. I told my husband if that’s how she feels, she needs to leave my home. He called her, told her what I came across and told her to make sure she was gone before we got back from vacation. Our relationship has always been rocky as she is a divorced child (Mom and Dad divorced way before I came into picture). Her mom lost custody and never tried fighting for her and her sister and they have no relationship with her. SD was never able to shake off divorce and has always acted jealous of the affection I gave my kids (her 1/2 siblings). She came to live with us full time and I’ve been raising her for 16 years but want to know, am I the a__hole for kicking her out right before she took the bar exam?

23/08/2026

AITA for laughing at my sister?

This happened back in December but I'm still getting s__t for it so now I'm asking reddit

My (23m) sister (24f) has been dating this guy (24?) for about ten months and she shouldn't be. She's constantly testing him to see if he'll cheat or lie and no matter how many times he passes her tests and says that he, rightfully, doesn't like the tests she'll still say she can't trust him but also won't break up with him. Our family have told her to stop the tests and so have some of her friends but her logic is that if he loves her then he'll know that she needs to be able to trust him

He went out with some friends and mentioned it so she'd know he wouldn't respond for a while and my sister, who knew some people who were going to the same bar that night (not many options), told a girl she's kinda friends that he was single and interested in hooking up to test him. Again

Boyfriend apparently gets hit on, realising it's a test again, leaves the bar, calls her and asks if it's a test and when my sister tells him that it is, he dumps her and says he's either going to hook up with the woman who flirted with him if she's still up for it or find someone else to hook up with since he can't handle my sister's 'crazy' anymore

My sister is very upset and he hangs up on her so she goes to our family in the main room (mum,...

23/08/2026

AITA for telling my sister I refused to babysit her autistic child?

So I'm 16 and of course, I hate children. I love my nephew but I refuse to watch him or be alone with him. He can be prone to throwing horrible temper tantrums and overall is a pain to deal with. My sister on the other hand, is 26 and she had him when she was 16. So he is 9 years old coming up on 10. Ever since I turned 16 however, my sister always asks me to watch her kid when she's off at work or hanging out with friends. To be honest, I don't want to do that during my free time. I go to school, have a job and sometimes I just want to relax.

So when she asked me if I could watch my nephew because she was going off to work, I told her no unless she was paying me because he is a pain to deal with. She started yelling at me calling me selfish and telling me to stop being lazy. I work my f__king ass everyday so I was pi**ed, so I said something I REALLY REALLY REALLY regret. I told her she wouldn't be having this problem right now if she had just kept her legs closed. She got mad and told on me. My mom and sister have been trying to force me to watch him but I refused.

I know what I said was out of line, but he's not my responsibility and I didn't sign up for this. I said what I said out of anger and you know what, maybe it had...

22/08/2026

AITA for accessing my dads phone and deleting a pic of me?

my family and family friends were abroad at a hotel resort.

I (18M) dont like shirtless pictures of me being taken.

This holiday, i was pretty much allowed to do my own thing. that was mainly, sleep, eat and enjoy the pool.

To that end, my days only ever overlapped with family and family friends in the evenings.

One night, halfway through the holiday, during dinner i told them that i would come with them to the beach, the beach was a 10min walk away.

I specifically said "no photos at the beach"

And they agreed to this

At this point also, its been a fact for years that i dont like my photo being taken. So its nothing new.

Skip to next day, we are walking to the beach and i remind them. "Please dont take any photos of me"

at the beach, all is well with the world.

I decide to put suncream on and to do this i take off my top. Then once done, i go for a swim in the sea.

I didnt put my top back to swim becuase i didnt want it to get wet.

Im swimming and my dad takes pictures of me without my consent. I shake my head, put my arms up and tell him to stop but he continues and smiles while doing so.

I then start to confront him "why did you do that, i specifically asked you not to"

Then he goes on the defencive " your MY son, i can...

22/08/2026

AITA for not inviting my fiancé’s niece and nephew to our wedding?

I (16F) made a flyer a month ago saying that I was able to babysit for anyone who needed a babysitter. I'm fully vaccinated btw. On the flyer, I specifically said that I can only babysit kids who are 4+ years of age as I have trouble handling younger kids.
This lady said that she would like me to babysit for her and I asked her if she read the flyer, mainly because I wanted to make sure she was ok with a teenager taking care of her children. She said she read everything and it worked out. I should have asked her if her children were 4+ years old but I didn't because she said she read the flyer and everything worked out.
On the day I go to her house, she texts me some things that I have to keep in mind (allergies and stuff) because she wasn't going to have much time to explain it when I get there. One of the things that she mentioned was 'how to make the formula milk.' I was a confused so I asked why I needed to make formula milk. She was like, 'Because how else are you supposed to feed my baby?' I said that I thought all her kids were older than 4 and I thought she read that. She said that she thought she told me about her baby. She asked if I could let it go just this once and babysit for her cause she really wanted to meet her friend and get a break.
I felt really bad because she was probably really...

22/08/2026

WIBTA if I don't have a separate table at my wedding for 1 bridesmaid?

So I'm getting married in 3 months. I have 3 bridesmaids and 1 MOH. I was talking about seating arrangements with one of my bridesmaids and mentioned that there is only enough space for the bridal party at the main table and that we had a table near the front for all of their partners. She told me she wasn't comfortable with this, that if they couldn't sit at the main table together that she would accept a sweetheart table (2 person table) for them. I told her that unfortunately the tables we are using seat 8 people and we don't have any others available (also I don't like the thought of just one sweetheart table). However, I did tell her I was happy to put her and her partner together at the partners table instead of having her at the main table if she felt more comfortable with that.

She didn't seem to like this and has been spamming me with pictures of sweetheart table layouts that she would like. WIBTA if I stick to my guns?

Edit #2: I was told to include this following parts as people thought it was useful info to have

A) Our own sweetheart table isn't an option as my partner is very shy and needs the 'buffer' of having other people with him so that he doesn't feel too o__rwhelmed by the attention, and his comfort is more important to me than anything.

B) So after speaking with my bridesmaids we decided on knee length or longer black dresses for them as most of them already...

22/08/2026

AITA for telling my mom she can yell at me when I'm getting paid for it?

I (26m) live with my Mom(55) and Dad(56) and pay rent. It's a convenient situation for all of us, as I can finish up college while having an affordable play to stay, and they have a live in house keeper/ dogsitter. My Mom also has medical issues that sometimes require someone to help her, and my Dad works kind of late. For similar reasons, I also work for my Mom at her business that she started with a friend. I get some money, the hours work for my classes, and I can keep an eye out if Mom is having a bad day.

My Mom is usually kind of chill, except when it comes to her business. Occasionally, I will forget to do some small task and she will blow up at me as if it was a major crisis. This can be anything from forgetting to call back a client immediately to forgetting to empty the trash in the bathroom. The mistakes are few and far between but she acts like I'm constantly screwing up at work when she's mad, then tells me how well I'm doing when she's not. It gets old.

After a particularly rough and busy day, I decided to come home and go straight to bed for a bit for a nap before homework. Right as I'm dozing off, Mom bursts into my room and starts ranting about a stack of papers I left on my desk and how I should have put them away (I wasn't sure where they went, as that is another employee's job.) I cut her off...

21/08/2026

AITA for sabotaging our potential adoption?

Throw away fpr obvious reasons. My wife and I met in our early 30's. We were married within 2 years. We both wanted kids but waited a bit as my wife was finishing a PhD program. We started trying to conceive her final year and had issues. Everything checked out for both of us medically but we weren't getting pregnant. After 18mos of trying we started discussing other options including medical procedures and adoption. My wife (who is a bit of a SJW, a giver and a crusader) was really excited about adoption. She actually mentioned early in our relationship that she always thought she wanted to adopt. I remember saying at the time that I hadn't ever really thought about adopting but that maybe I'd be open to it. Obviously at this point the discussion became a bit more serious. I told her that while I wasn't 100% opposed to adopting I wanted to persue feasible medical options to have genetic children. We tried some treatments and luckily we were blessed with a little girl within a few months. 10 months after she was born we were pregnant again, this time having a baby boy. The first 5 years of parenthood were pretty typical, hectic and crazy. There was a move and a job change mixed in for good measure. Now 6 years later things finally seem to be settling down. Six months back my wife began hinting she might want another baby. We discussed it and both agreed that in our early 40's it just wasnt feasible to have a other child. It was then my...

21/08/2026

AITAH for telling my sister I won't watch her kids during my only free weekend?

So a bit of background: I'm 32 and work full-time with pretty long hours during the week. I don't have kids, but my sister (35F) has three under the age of 10. She's a single mom, and I try to help when I can.

I've babysat for her multiple times over the past year, sometimes on short notice. This coming weekend, I had plans to just relax. Nothing special, just sleep in, maybe see a movie, and catch up on some stuff at home.

It's been a rough couple of weeks and this is literally my first weekend with nothing scheduled in months. A few days ago, my sister texted asking if I could take the kids Saturday to Sunday because she 'desperately needs a break.' I get that parenting is hard, especially alone. But I told her I couldn't this time and explained that I really need the downtime.

She responded with a long message about how I 'don't understand what tired really is' and how it's selfish of me not to help family when I'm 'just going to be at home anyway.' She hasn't responded to my texts since. I feel bad because I know she's struggling and I do help when I can. But I also feel like I'm allowed to take time for myself.

AITA? Edit: Thanks for the replies! I feel kinda better now!

Edit 2: I didn't expect this to blow up like it did, a massive thanks to everyone who responded. I'll keep all your reactions in mind! Thanks all!

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