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30/08/2026

AITAH for refusing to pay extra to renovate MY apartment when my fiancé won’t contribute?

I (29F) have been with my fiancé (31M) for 4,5 years. We got engaged 3 weeks ago.

For the past 4 years we’ve been living in my sisters apartment while she’s away. I own a 3 bedroom apartment that I’ve been renting out and the plan was that once we got engaged and maybe pregnant we would renovate it and move there before being married.

The tenants recently moved out, a week ago and now we are starting renovations.

Here’s the issue: my fiancé told me he doesn’t want to contribute financially to the renovations because his name isn’t on the deed. I understood that and didn’t push. Instead my parents offered to help financially (they were already planning to gift us furniture and appliances, witch is tradition here)

We set a renovation budget of 15.000. To stay within budget, I suggested we keep the existing floor tiles, they’re good quality just a little outdated.

No my fiancé is insisting we replace the tiles anyway, which would increase the cost by 1/3 give or take… but he’s still not contributing to the renovation budget.

We’ve also been arguing because he says I don’t speak up enough in front of contractors and my parents. I tend to take time to think and prefer to discuss decisions privately with him first, but he says I leave him hanging and make him look bad.

I feel like I’m already compromising by handling the renovation costs with my family, and now I’m bing pushed to spend even more money for something unnecessary.

He feels...

29/08/2026

AITA for confronting my neighbor after I found out she was renting out my parking spot while I traveled for work

I travel for work pretty often, sometimes gone for a week or two at a time. My neighbor, I'll call her Diane (she's in her 40s), knew my schedule and would occasionally ask if she could use my spot for guests or whatever. I always said yes, no big deal.

Came back early from a trip last month and there's a random car in my spot. I brought it up to Diane and she said it was her cousin visiting. Fine whatever.

Then my other neighbor casually mentioned he'd seen different cars parked there pretty regularly while I was gone and joked that Diane must have a LOT of cousins. That stuck with me so I set up a small camera facing the lot.

Turns out she had been listing my spot on one of those parking apps the entire time. Like actively making money off it, we're talking $15 to $20 a day in a pretty busy area near downtown. I had some money put aside so it wasn't like I was hurting financially, but she was straight up running a side hustle on something that belongs to me without ever asking.

I confronted her and she got defensive immediately, said I "wasn't using it anyway" and acted like I was being unreasonable for even bringing it up. I asked her to stop and said I wanted some kind of compensation for however long she'd been doing this. She called me petty and now a couple neighbors think I overreacted because apparently she had been giving a cut to the building HOA??? Like...

29/08/2026

AITA for taking $15,000 out of my daughters college fund to buy myself a new car?

I have an 8 year old daughter, and to make college more easily accessible for her, my ex wife and I each put money into a shared fund for her. My ex wife and I do not get along, but we make an effort for the sake of our daughter.

At the end of last year, my car basically blew up. Completely blew a gasket, broke down every time I drove it and ended up being written off. My current wife and I decided to save for a new car, and to wait for one I was sure I wanted as I loved my old car.

On my way home from work I drive past a really high end car dealership, basically sells vintage top class cars. They’re absolutely beautiful but I’ve never went in because they’re extremely expensive. A few days ago I drove past it and thought why not, I’ll have a look and just not buy anything. I walked in and saw a truly beautiful Mustang, rang my wife and told her I’d found the car I wanted. We hadn’t saved enough so I used the money from our savings, and without thinking dipped into the college fund my ex wife and I have for our daughter. It was just under $15,000.

I rang my ex wife after I’d bought it to tell her, and assured her I’d put the money back in, but she went ballistic telling me that she’d basically just paid for my car as she puts more money in monthly than I do. I said that was ridiculous...

29/08/2026

AITA for refusing to raise my sisters baby now that she’s passed away?

I’m (19 f) living in London attending university studying medicine. I’m about to start my second year of med. My sister passed away mid way through my first year and my parents have been taking care of my niece. My niece is only 15 months old. My father suffers from hearing loss and finds it hard to take care of her without the presence of my mum. For around the past two years my mum has been going to the hospital around three to four days a week for these treatments while she waits on the transplant list for a kidney replacement. So most days everything is fine for him but sometimes get very agitated and distressed. Last week my parents told me to try and get home earlier. when I came home to both my parents sat in the living room with serious faces I was scared. They ended up both breaking down and telling me that raising the baby was just too much for them and that the stress of the baby was too much for even my mum and it was affecting her blood pressure which in turn would start to effect her treatments. They said that they have been thinking about it and think that I would be the best option. They began saying things like I could take a break and restart at a later year and it’s the sacrifice I have to make for my family etc and whilst I understand what they mean I don’t agree and I can’t just leave everything and raise a child . It makes me feel...

29/08/2026

AITA for not leaving my SIL's wedding venue when asked to?

I know it sounds terrible, but please let me explain! My husband's sister recently got married, and her wedding venue was a large estate where guests stayed overnight (it's about 3 hours away from home). When I got there, I realized that one of her bridesmaids was a childhood bully.

I had no idea they knew each other since my SIL didn't do any bridal parties where I would have seen photos. I honestly had no idea they knew each other at all (especially since I'm not close to SIL). My relationship with my bully (I'll call her Laura) was horrible and messed me up for a long time.

Our mothers were friends in a small tight knit community, and I was essentially the punching bag for the entire group of girls. The final straw was when Laura spread a rumor that I had slept with a bunch of guys in our group (something that's a big deal in our community), and even went as far as to fake a dirty text message string with one of the guys and posted it online. In a moment of weakness and frustration, I retaliated by posting a crap ton of screenshots where she and the girls were horrible to me.

Things like encouraging me to throw up after meals so I looked 'less like Miss Piggy' and that hanging out with me was 'charity work'. I tagged EVERYONE from their parents/family members to just friends who would know them. The post blew up, and it definitely impacted her social life.

She was also apparently punished severely...

28/08/2026

Me [27 M] with my wife [29 F] 4 years, I'm getting really fed up being the bottom of the list in my wife's life?

We have been together for 7 years and married for 4.

She works 30 hours a week as a resident and volunteers for about 20 hours a week with various health charities.

I bring in 95% of the income and have the vast bulk of the wealth (I made it before we were married and we have a pretty robust prenup). I spend my 5 hours a week work time at home maintaining code and developing new ideas, then should be free to look after our (in reality my) dogs and enjoy myself.

There are no kids, and never will be as I'm infertile, following cancer as a 16-year-old, this has always been known and although my wife would like kids has accepted that it's not going to happen.

Right now I'm just hacked off that I am the bottom of the list for everything in 'our' life.

Whilst nominally I can do what I want during her office hours as long as I'm up to date with my own work, I invariably have a list of family errands to do, cakes to make for her work or charities, dinners to cool for the social engagements we have, things to arrange for her family (mine are 2000 miles away so are a phone call a week and the odd weeks visit), stuff she want me to do for church and basically run around after her. She seems to be trying to fill every hour of my day with stuff for her.

Whilst that would be OK if it were ever valued or...

28/08/2026

WIBTA: if I didn’t let my BFs brother and his pregnant GF move in with us?

Okay a little context:

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 going on 4 years. His older brother,my Bfs moms favorite, is babied very hard. He can be a hard worker but here lately he only stays at a job no longer than maybe a few months.

He lived with my bf and I for a few months before moving in with his Gf. He got his GF of 3 months pregnant when they already have 4 kids (the oldest is 7 idk about the others)to take care of already. Along side that he hasn’t really held a job and that has costed them their apartment. They were going to stay at her parents house but want to stay closer in town.
My apartment is only a 2 bedroom and small as it is.

Here’s where I may be the a__hole. They want to move into my apartment. My bf told his mom he doesn’t want this and left it up to me to decide what to do. Honestly, I want to say no but would be the a__hole if I did?

Edit: Okay, I didn’t put it in. I am sorry the mom left it up too me not my BF he said how he felt. His mom is waiting on me

Edit : thank you to everyone who has responded! I want to clear up a few things:

The mother doesn’t listen to my bf. If I say it along with him she does. He did try to stand up for me but he’s knocked down a lot....

28/08/2026

Aita for throwing my sister and mother out after they didnt stop bodyshaming me?

I (f20) have always been a little chubby. Nothing super unhealthy just always like 5-8 kg heavier than would've been normal for my age or height.

I didn't really mind bc most of it was on my hips and b__t and tbh i did love my body like that. A healthy weight is probably better but just not for me i liked my curves the way they were.

I work in a job where i walk about 14km a day so i do workout at least a little.

Thanks to the pandemic my job became just sitting on a computer and barely moving so i gained about 5 kg in april.
For some weird reason even when i started eating healthier and work out i kept gaining weight.
I didn't have the time to go to a doctor and kept blaming myself for my eating habits.

Well last week i did go and apparently i have thyroid problems. My body just stopped making some hormone i need.

I am now 100 kg and 5'4. i look awful.

I try not to show how much it bothers me by still dressing how i want and i do love my body even if its going to take time for it to look better again.

Yesterday my mom and sister came to visit and kept commenting on my body. About how I probably can barely do anything and how weird it is that my bf was still attracted to me. They even asked whether he was into it and made me gain weight. They...

28/08/2026

AITA for making my wife and step daughter to leave the house?

I(44M) am married to my wife (45F). She has a daughter((23f) from a previous marriage . I have been married to my wife for 3 years . In that 3 years my stepdaughter has been nothing but a source of trouble for me . She'd sabotage my stuff and often my business deals .For ex:She turned of my internet when i was in a meeting with a client and ended up loosing a lucrative deal with him. That was just one of the many troubles she has created for me . She doesn't like me because her mother started dating me soon after her mother divorced her father(i didn't know this when i started dating her) . This week she took a step ahead and broke my laptop into two pieces after i refused to let her take my car .I told her that i had enough of her nonsense and that she was to move out of my house and my wife begged me not to make her move out .I told my wife that if she was supporting her daughter's nonsense then she was free to move out as well. Both of them complied and i dropped them of at my wife's mother's house . When her mother found out she was furious with me and accused me of being cruel by moving them out of their home during a pandemic. AITA for asking them to leave the house ?

Edit: Thanks for the award guys!!

27/08/2026

AITA for saying 'no' when a man asks to sit at our table?

Fast forward about 5 minutes and one of the guys from the table that the man eventually ended up sitting on came over to the table and asked us if we had told the guy he couldn't sit with us. I explained the situation, that the guy asked us and we said if possible, could he sit somewhere else or on one of the vacant tables, as we're having a private conversation. He asked if we owned the table and began shouting at us and I shouted back, that he was being a t**t and if the guy had an issue he could have said it in the moment rather then getting a stranger to defend him. The guy now at our table then insisted he wouldn't move and began to talk over us so we couldn't hear each other. An older man on one of the nearby tables gave him a thumbs up, as if to confirm his attitude/behaviour. We did eventually speak to the guys and deescalated the situation but AITA for asking him to sit elsewhere?

ETA: In case I've used the term 'b**r garden' incorrectly. It's just an outdoor space for a pub with tables. The one we were in had tables like this:

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Not sure if that differs from the technical term.

I guess this is more are 'we' the as****es.

I went to a pub to have a drink with a friend of mine, to catch up and discuss some ongoing issues in his life. I hadn't seen him for a while as he had taken...

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