12/08/2025
Intelligence by Ms. Kelly Noela
Emotional intelligence is about effectively managing emotions, diligently controlling them and channeling them appropriately.
In a situation where you're triggered and retaliation seems the only option, retaliating only exacerbates the issue. In fact, it can portray you as immature.
People face various challenges daily, and someone might act inappropriately because they are not in the right frame of mind. As a mature individual with a good grasp of emotional intelligence, you should know how to act or react in such situations.
I recall an instance where someone approached me rudely. I would have retaliated as I might have in the past. Instead, I simply said, "I pray you find peace." Days later, that person returned to thank me for teaching her a valuable life lesson. Emotional intelligence is a skill everyone should master.
Managing emotions does not equate to weakness, as some believe. Rather, it offers different avenues for approaching situations. Violence should never meet violence. If someone makes it a habit to trigger you because of your kindness, take the time to address the behavior. Kindly, yet firmly, let them know where your boundaries lie.
Avoid walking around making noise or plotting revenge. Instead, remain calm, renew your strength, and work on self-improvement to become a better version of yourself. Read books and continue to learn.
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Kelly Noela has been a cornerstone of NUDYM's support system since its inception, consistently impacting lives through her insightful and impactful content. Her renowned piece on friendship was even featured as a core module within NUDYM's curriculum in 2023.
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