18/08/2026
ARE YOU SERVING GOOD W**E OR BAD W**E IN YOUR MARRIAGE?
Every marriage is serving something. Every day, through your words, attitude, affection, patience, honesty, and behaviour, you are putting something into the atmosphere of your home.
The question is not whether your marriage has w**e the question is what kind of w**e are you serving?
You can't be serving your home using fleshly mindset and philosophy, worldly character and expect things to workout for you.
At Cana, Jesus performed a miracle when the w**e had run out. The master of the feast tasted the new w**e and said:
“Every man at the beginning sets out the good w**e, and when the guests have well drunk, then the inferior. You have kept the good w**e until now” John 2:10 (NKJV)
That statement can make us think seriously about marriage. Some people start their relationships with their best behaviour. They communicate beautifully, show affection, listen carefully, forgive quickly, and make their partner feel deeply valued.
After marriage, something changes. The good w**e disappears, and what remains is irritation, neglect, insults, silence, selfishness, and emotional distance.
Do not give your spouse the best version of yourself before marriage and the worst version of yourself after marriage.
Your spouse should not have to compete with the person you used to be when you were in courtship. Marriage should not be the place where kindness dies because familiarity has arrived.
Good w**e in marriage looks like respect when you disagree. It looks like affection when life becomes stressful. It looks like saying I was wrong without needing to win the argument.
It looks like protecting your spouse's dignity even when you are angry. It looks like remembering that the person beside you is not your enemy.
Bad w**e is constant criticism. Bad w**e is bringing yesterday's mistakes into every new argument. Bad w**e is withholding affection as punishment.
Bad w**e is humiliating your spouse in front of people. Bad w**e is making your home a place where your spouse is afraid to speak.
However, here is the uncomfortable truth that sometimes we complain about the atmosphere in our marriage while we are contributing to it.
Before asking "Why has my spouse changed?” ask yourself, “What have I been serving?”
Maybe your spouse is not asking for a perfect marriage. Maybe they are simply longing to experience the person they married again.
Do not wait until the marriage is dying before you start serving good w**e again. Speak kindly, touch with affection, listen, forgive, laugh together, pray together, apologise when necessary and make your home a place where both of you can breathe.
Marriage does not become beautiful merely because two people said I do. It becomes beautiful when two people continue choosing love after the wedding day. So ask yourself honestly this morning
If your spouse tasted the atmosphere you have been creating, would they call it good w**e or bad w**e? and if the answer hurts, do not run from it but change what you are serving.
