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MISCARRIAGE & BABY LOSS SUPPORT
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10/09/2026

Today marks the beginning of Baby Loss Awareness Week 🩵🩷

A little reminder that this week isn’t for loss parents to remember their babies. We don’t need a special day, month, or awareness week to do that. We carry their memories with us every single day, in everything we do, and in the lives we continue to live without them. 🤍

Baby Loss Awareness Week is about shining a light on a subject that is still far too taboo, one that often leaves parents feeling isolated, misunderstood, and alone. 🫂❤️‍🩹

The less we whisper about baby loss, the less alone future generations of parents will feel when navigating this unimaginable heartbreak.

🖤 Talking is healing.
🖤 Helping parents feel seen is healing.
🖤 Raising awareness helps families receive the compassionate care, understanding, and support they deserve.

To everyone who knows this loss and carries this pain, we’re sending you so much love. Be gentle with yourself this week. The content online can feel heavy, and it’s okay to take a step back and protect your peace. 🫂❤️‍🩹

We’re in your corner, cheering you on through every high, every low, and every moment in between. We hope this week reminds you that you are not alone. Your baby matters. Your love matters. And you will always have a place here. 💓

💌 Our last slide is a space for you to share your baby’s name. Share it to your story and tag us so we can remember them alongside you. Every baby deserves to be remembered, and every parent deserves to have their baby remembered with them. 🩵🩷

Sending you so much love, always. xx

10/05/2026

DID YOU KNOW? - A White Pumpkin is used to represent pregnancy and infant loss. 🤍

When I learnt this after my losses I thought it was so special and such a beautiful way to honour and remember your babies through the fall months🤍🍁

October is generally a month of celebrating Halloween and embracing family traditions, but it’s also Pregnancy and Infant loss awareness month. For the parents who will never get to put their child in a Halloween costume or take them to a pumpkin patch, or see them play in the fall leaves, etc. We add a white pumpkin to our porch as a way of honouring our loss babies.

Through this experience that is often isolating, the symbol of the white pumpkin brings awareness and joins together a community of parents to support each other.

Did you know this about white pumpkins? If you have a white pumpkin this year, comment a photo below. 👇🤍 I would absolutely love to see them and have the opportunity to honour and remember your babies alongside you!

10/03/2026

Taking a moment to remember October Babies🫂🤍October is a big month for this community. 🤍 As we come together to raise awareness for pregnancy and infant loss, I also want to take a moment to remember the babies who make October a particularly tender month for so many of us❤️‍🩹

Maybe your baby was due this month. Maybe they were born in October before their life was cut short. Maybe you lost your baby in October, this year or many years ago. Or maybe this was the month you found out you were pregnant in a previous year, before your world changed❤️‍🩹

Whatever October means for you, I see you🫂

We all know how difficult important dates can be, living through them while carrying the weight of what was supposed to be, what should have been, and everything you imagined your life would look like.

Today, I want to honour you and your October babies. 🤍

There is nothing I can say to make this grief easier, but I am so incredibly sorry that you know this kind of loss. If October feels heavy, please know you don’t have to carry it alone.

Your baby matters. Their name matters. Their story matters❤️‍🩹

And this month, I’d love to do something a little different. 🥺

If you feel comfortable, share your October baby’s name, due date, birthday, or something you remember about them in the comments below.

Instagram now allows photos in comments, so if you’d like to, you can also share a photo of your baby here. 🤍 A photo, ultrasound, tiny toes, bump photo — whatever feels meaningful to you. And if you’d rather not share a photo, a name, date, or even a 🤍 is more than enough.

Let’s fill this space with the babies we carry with us every day.

October babies, we remember you. 🤍

Sending the biggest hug to every parent who needs one this month🫂❤️‍🩹

10/01/2026

October is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month. 🩷🩵

A month to remember and honour the babies we’ve lost, support the parents who carry their love with them, and bring awareness to a subject that is still far too often left unspoken. ❤️‍🩹

Every year, I find myself having conversations with people who say, “I had no idea October was Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month.” And honestly, before experiencing loss myself, I didn’t understand the significance of this month either.

That’s why awareness matters. Because the more we talk about pregnancy and infant loss, the less alone people have to feel in it. 🫂

To every mother and father who knows this pain, we see you. We remember your babies. And we’re holding you a little closer as we enter this month. ❤️‍🩹

October can feel heavy. Please protect your heart, give yourself permission to step back when you need to, and remember that you don’t have to navigate this month in any particular way.

Sending so much love to you and your babies. 🩷🩵

09/19/2026

Today is Stillbirth Prevention day🤍 An important day dedicated to raising awareness around stillbirths and promoting efforts to prevent them!❤️‍🩹 Although many people including some medical providers believe that stillbirths are inevitable research shows that as many as 25% are preventable!!!

An estimated 2 million babies are still born worldwide yearly! The rate for black and Native American women being twice as high as their white peers. Today is for educating the public about the risk factors for stillbirth and the measures that can be taken to reduce the likelihood of it happening.

Understanding stillbirth and knowing a simple tip on how to prevent it can potentially save lives! Swipe left to learn about kick counting -a simple but powerful tool to know. And other ways you can raise awareness or help change these statistics.

Today we honour and remember the nearly 2 million babies stillborn yearly🫂❤️‍🩹💓 To anyone that this is your story, we are SO sorry, we see you, we stand with you!💓

We want to take a moment to share and thank a few amazing organizations that are working to raise awareness around stillbirths and working towards change!
— Count the Kicks - Free Pregnancy App
— Healthy Birth Day, Inc.-Leader in Stillbirth Prevention
— Measure the Placenta
— Star Legacy Foundation | pregnancy & infant loss support & care
— PUSH for Empowered Pregnancy

By sharing this information you’re helping to spread awareness and prevent heartache for other families🫂❤️‍🩹 let’s work together to bring those statistics down!💓

09/17/2026

A reminder I think we all need. 🤍 I’m so over being told we’re “so strong” when the truth is, we often have no choice but to keep going. I’d much rather be reminded that it’s okay to not be strong. It’s okay to fall apart, to struggle, to have hard days and to simply be human.

Wrapping you all in so much love as your week comes to an end. 🤍

09/16/2026

This World Childless Week, I’m sending the biggest hugs to the women who have fought, hoped, prayed, waited and done everything they could to become mothers - and are still empty armed. 🫂❤️‍🩹

To the women who had to stop trying, whose treatments didn’t work, who never got their chance, who have experienced loss, or whose story simply didn’t end with the baby they desperately wanted. Your grief matters. Your longing matters. And the life you imagined matters. You can build a beautiful life and still grieve the motherhood you always dreamed of. You can know that your worth and womanhood are so much more than your ability to have children, while still feeling like a piece of you was taken when motherhood didn’t happen. This week, we see you. We hear you. And most importantly, you are not alone. ❤️‍🩹

09/05/2026

To the dads in Australia & New Zealand waking up to Father’s Day with a baby missing from your arms… we see you. ❤️‍🩹

Today is for you, too.

For the dads whose hearts changed the moment they knew their baby existed.
For the dads who picked out names, imagined futures, made plans, and loved their babies long before they ever got to hold them.
For the dads who have had to keep going while quietly carrying a loss that changed them forever.

The loss community so often centres the mother—and of course, her grief deserves to be held. But sometimes, in doing so, we forget that there is a father grieving too.

You lost a baby.
You lost a future.
You lost someone you already loved.

And you deserve to be remembered today.

Maybe you’ve had to be the strong one. Maybe you’ve spent more time caring for everyone else than giving yourself permission to grieve. Maybe today feels like any other day, or maybe it hurts more than you expected.

Whatever today looks like for you, please know this:

Your baby mattered. Your grief matters. And you matter.

To every Loss Dad celebrating, surviving, remembering, or simply getting through Father’s Day today—we are holding space for you. 🫂

You are not forgotten.
You are not alone.
And you will always be your baby’s dad. 🤍

Happy Father’s Day to the dads we see, the dads we remember, and the dads whose babies we will never stop remembering. ❤️‍🩹

09/01/2026

To the parents remembering their September babies. ❤️‍🩹

The babies whose due dates were meant to be this month. The babies who were born this month, but who you didn’t get to bring home. The babies you lost in September, whether yesterday or many years ago.
The little ones whose positive pregnancy tests first appeared in September, before your story took a heartbreaking turn. And all the September dates that carry a meaning the rest of the world may never know. ❤️‍🩹

We know how difficult important dates can be. You can move through an entire month carrying something incredibly significant in your heart while everyone around you carries on, unaware of what that month, date, or memory means to you.

There is no right way to move through these days. You might want to talk about your baby, say their name, light a candle, look through old photos, or simply get through the day. You might not know what you need at all.

Whatever September looks like for you, please know this:

I see you. 🥺🤍
Your baby matters.
Your love for them matters.
And you never have to apologize for the fact that these dates still hurt. ❤️‍🩹

I can’t take away the pain of losing your baby, but I can remind you that you are not alone in carrying it.

If you feel comfortable, we would love to hear about your September babies. 🥺

Tell us their name, due date, the date you met them, something you remember, or simply that they existed. 🤍

Share as much or as little as you want. If you’d rather remain anonymous, you’re always welcome to share in our Instagram stories too. 🫂

However you’re entering September, please be gentle with yourself.

Your baby is loved.
Your baby is remembered.
And there will always be a place for them here. ❤️‍🩹

Sending so much love to you and your little ones, always. 🤍🫂

08/05/2026

I know I’m a little late to this trend and everyone’s kinda over it🙃 But I think the chicest thing anyone can do is remember that love doesn’t stop just because a heartbeat did, and grief is just all that love!🫂❤️‍🩹

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