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07/29/2025

The Toxic Monster You Saw in the End Is Who They Are

The person you saw in the end—the one who lashed out, lied, smeared you, and tried to break you—is who they truly are. That mask they wore at the beginning wasn’t love, it was manipulation.

When they play nice again, it’s not because they’ve changed. It’s because they want something. Narcissists know how to perform charm when it serves them, but the cruelty you saw when you stopped feeding their ego is the truth underneath.

Never doubt yourself. That final version you experienced is the reality—no matter how much they try to rewrite history or convince you otherwise.

If you feel tempted to question your memory, remember: people don’t suddenly become someone else under pressure. Stress reveals character. What you saw was the real them without the mask.

Trust your experience. Trust your intuition. Don’t let temporary niceness erase the truth you already know.

You can’t change who they are—but you can change your future.

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04/20/2025

"I was sitting in a meeting, knees bouncing, resisting the urge to check my phone for the fifth time—Did he text? Did he need me?—when an older woman with kind eyes and a no-nonsense ponytail slid a worn blue book across the table.

The Language of Letting Go was embossed in gold, its edges softened by years of use. “Start with today’s date,” she whispered ".

I opened at August 15th and read: “Today, I will focus on solving my own problems—and only my own.”

My chest tightened. I’d spent my life convinced that fixing others was my calling. By the time I finished the book, I realised: letting go isn’t loss—it’s liberation.

1. Codependency Isn’t Love—It’s Control in Disguise
Beattie’s razor-sharp truth: “We call it ‘helping,’ but it’s really about managing—their moods, their choices, their outcomes.” I thought of all the times I’d:
- Edited my ex’s resume (“He’ll never do it right!”)
- Made excuses for my alcoholic friend (“She’s just stressed!”)
- Played therapist to emotionally unavailable partners
The wake-up call? “Love doesn’t require martyrdom. Healthy relationships don’t demand management.”

2. Detachment & Indifference
The August 20th meditation rewired my brain: “Detachment means caring deeply—but from a place of choice, not obligation.” Now, when my sister spirals, I say: “I love you, and I trust you to handle this.” Then I walk away. The miracle? She started handling things—because I stopped.

3. Your Feelings Are Not Emergencies
The September 3rd entry floored me: “We codependents treat every emotion like a five-alarm fire.” I’d spent years:
- Panicking when someone was upset (“I must fix it!”)
- Ruminating on texts (“What did they really mean?”)
- Chasing “closure” like it was oxygen
Beattie’s lifeline? “Not every feeling needs action. Some just need to be.” Now I pause. Breathe. Ask: “Is this mine to carry?”

4. Boundaries Are Love Letters to Yourself
The October 10th meditation became my mantra: “’No’ is a complete sentence.” I practiced:
- “I can’t lend money, but I’ll pray for you.”
- “I won’t discuss my weight.”
- “I’m hanging up if you yell.”
The shock? People adjusted. The ones who didn’t? They weren’t my people.

5. Letting Go is a Muscle (Not a One-Time Event)
Beattie’s December 31st wisdom: “Recovery isn’t a straight line—it’s a daily return to choice.” Some days I backslide (old habits die hard). But now I have tools:
- Journaling: “Whose business am I in today?”
- Meditation: Visualising my hands releasing versus clutching
- Community: Calling a fellow recoverer instead of “fixing” someone

04/05/2025

The reality of addiction.
Our son, Mitch Dunn, lost his battle with addiction/recovery yesterday.I thought it was hard watching him go through program after program only to give in to the demons in his head every time. I thought it was hard having argument after argument with
that brick wall. I thought it was hard knowing he was making bad decisions and not taking your advice.
NO! THAT WASN'T HARD! What is hard is having to call 911 because your husband tells you to with panic and horror in his voice. What is hard is knowing deep down in your gut that there is nothing you can do but, you try to give him CPR any way. What is hard is watching 10+ medical trained professionals
working on him for 30 minutes, hoping they will revive him and they can't.
What is hard is hearing the firehouse chaplain saying a prayer to God for his guidance for us because our son is gone. What is hard is watching your family die a little on the inside because each and everyone of us tried our damn-dest to help him. What is hard is burying your child. We have to remember we did everything we could. We have to remember to forgive, not only ourselves but, our child too.
We have to remember he doesn't have to fight those demons anymore. This was the scene in our house yesterday. I pray you don't have to experience this.

-Chris Mahieu-Dunn
~ shared from Rich Walters

04/05/2025

Look at the leftover 🎁 bags 🌞❣️
Does anyone WANT one 😊❓️

Hmm 🤔 what to do with them❓️
There is some GREAT 👍 👌 things in them❣️

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