Women Rock for Men's Mental Health

01/08/2026

To those who do not know, power does not justify existence;
You're valid as you are, nothing to prove.
No need to hurt anyone.

12/30/2025

Embrace your inner child so he feels supported by you as the dad.

12/22/2025

"Normalize taking care of men.

Not as a replacement for their strength.
Not as a submission.
Not because they’re incapable.

But because they’re human.

Normalize checking on them.
Letting them rest.
Loving them loudly.
Protecting their peace the same way they protect ours.

Men deserve softness too.
They deserve safe places.
They deserve to be held without shame.

Care isn’t weakness.
It’s partnership.

And love isn’t one sided."

slee

12/18/2025

All this!!

Plus, we have no idea if he maybe just got off the phone with his mum or dad, maybe they had just said they're proud of him going on the interview and that they wish they could be there, so he's triggered by the proximity of the question to the event...

People are so judgemental, and haters don't know how to human anymore.

11/21/2025

November is Men's Mental Health Awareness month.

It's not enough to just tell men to "talk more"; men are already talking. Society has got the ball rolling, now we need to focus on the nuances.

It's about speaking from a place of vulnerability and with the mindset of self-love, but regardless of gender there are too many people who don't understand what either of those really look like.

People think being emotionally vulnerable means stating your emotions and your perceptions as they are, and that is part of the process; it also includes making sure you get to the heart of your emotions, to recognize that anger is a valid emotion but that it is also in combination with other emotions, often fear.

And you know what they say, once you give voice to your fears, they cease to be. Or at least they become less relevant in your decision-making process.

As for self-love, I will die on this hill that most people don't understand what self-love actually LOOKS like:

It's not bonbons, hot soaks in the tub, working out, eating better, rewarding yourself, etc.

Not on their own, in fact while most people will invest copious amounts of time though aspects of self-love, they're missing the big picture, the really big items that ensure the ultimate self acceptance:

Skills that develop your authenticity.

This includes saying yes when you want to say yes and know when you want to say no.

It includes setting and following through on your own boundaries, learning to set them from a place of love rather than a place of fear, anger, resentment, or frustration... (And it also means learning that boundaries are about dictating YOUR follow-through, not someone else's - nor that boundaries are the same as expectations / requests / ultimatums).

It includes the incredible difficulty of balancing both accountability and compassion in your mind at the same time, to validate your perception and experiences while simultaneously holding yourself to a higher level of accountability, especially when confronted with the possibility that your current thought process may include an element of toxicity.

This includes addressing the subconscious mindsets that influence your decision-making process you don't choose a cereal to eat in the morning before you race off to work without some element of your past and your subconscious influencing you, and the sooner you're aware of just how much every experience you have ever had has shaped you, the more likely you are to engage in changed behavior because you understand why you've been doing what you've been doing.

Developing all these techniques - boundary setting, advocation, accountability, forgiveness, etc. - and learning to hold them all together in your mind at the same time is what gives you grace as you claim your authenticity.

No one is required to be perfect;

Everyone is required to be a better version of themselves today than they were yesterday.

Hopefully that also includes in your personal definition addressing internalized racism, ableism, transphobia, and s*xism, because guess what? We all have it. We've all learned something that is incredibly toxic and it continues to influence how we interact with the world.

It makes sense why it happens; your only social responsibility to other adults is to address it.

09/18/2025

09/05/2025

Running from confrontation means robbing the individuals in the relationship of growth, let alone the couple learning to come together as a unit.

(Also note: there is a difference between leaning in for the first time versus leaning away because your efforts to lean in have gone I received for such a long period of time that you can no longer muster the courage or energy to do so. If you are truly at that place, you'll need to decide to leave the relationship or to muster the energy/courage to do so again.)

07/25/2025

Men especially need to show love to other men in their lives.

You never know who needs it.

07/25/2025

One commenter asked about how to not be fearful for her daughter, and while I understand it was probably rhetorical, as someone who has been repeatedly assaulted over the years and who was not prepared by their parents properly, I still want to pass the information on to anyone who's reading.

Talking to your kids about how fu**ed up the world is... On its own isn't enough.

All that does is confuse you when you get into more adult-like situations... Because assaulteds aren't behaving as monsters, certainly not right off the bat.

They are behaving like lonely wounded children, not predators, despite the fact that many of their actions are predatory.

So it's far more important to pass along the skills of self-advocacy and autonomy than it is to pass along the horror stories, far more important to pass along the warning signs and the little cuts than to just pass along the final results.

For myself, my mother voided my autonomy every step of the way. I couldn't choose the clothes on my back. I couldn't choose to make meals for myself. I couldn't choose to go out with my friends when I wanted to.

I started seizing control for myself wherever I could in high school, which meant sneaking junk food because it was one of the few things I could control, as well as engaging in after school activities so I didn't have to go home. Classic public signs of autonomic rebellion against abuse.

Teaching self-advocacy and the right to autonomy is so crucial, and it begins at a much younger age than you think - you can even start as young as 2.

It's also important to note that there are different types of consent: s*xual, physical, verbal, emotional.

You have the right to walk away from any conversation.

You have the right to engage in emotional dynamics or to choose to walk away from them.

You have the right to not have your physical space invaded, or to not be touched.

You have the right to engage in s*x you consent to and you have the right to immediately disengage at any point during the process.

These kinds of skills of self-advocacy, boundary setting, and understanding consent are so important that it's what I have moved to work on with neurodivergent adults and teens, as we are a vulnerable population most likely to experience assault.

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