10/10/2026
Alone Together? Have Our Phones and Computers Replaced Our Human Companions?
At the Summer Academy of the European Seniors' Union - ESU, in Nicosia, Cyprus, one of the most thought-provoking contributions came from Geertrui Mieke De Ketelaere, whose keynote, “Alone Together? Seniors, Loneliness and the Rise of AI Companions,” challenged us to look beyond the technology and who we are as humans.
Mieke already atrended a ESU Summer Academy in Vienna in 2021, where she was presenting her book about Artificial Intelligence. Since then, AI has evolved at extraordinary speed. But some of the fundamental questions she raised then have become even more urgent today.
Her recent book, The Chatbot Trap (2026), explores the risks behind the growing popularity of companion chatbots. These systems can offer conversation, reassurance and a sense of connection. For someone experiencing loneliness, having a seemingly attentive conversation partner available 24/7 may feel like a genuine comfort.
But at what cost?
What happens when a machine becomes the person—or presence—we turn to first? When algorithms designed to keep us engaged begin to influence our emotions, our relationships and even our understanding of intimacy?
Can artificial companionship ease loneliness while simultaneously deepening our isolation?
This is not simply a question about older people. Loneliness does not respect age. Research and our discussions in Nicosia reminded us that younger generations can experience it just as acutely.
Perhaps we should therefore ask ourselves a more uncomfortable question: Have our phones and computers gradually replaced some of our everyday human companions?
We can spend hours connected digitally while remaining disconnected socially. We can exchange hundreds of messages without having a meaningful conversation. And now, we can turn to artificial intelligence for understanding, sympathy and companionship.
The opportunities are real. Technology can support people, facilitate communication and offer moments of comfort. But it must complement human relationships, not become an excuse to neglect them.
Mieke's contribution was important precisely because it raised awareness without reducing the debate to a simple choice between embracing AI and rejecting it. We need to understand both its potential and its dangers, particularly when emotional vulnerability becomes part of a commercial business model.
For ESU, the central lesson from Nicosia is clear: fighting loneliness requires more than technological innovation. It requires human presence, intergenerational solidarity and communities that make everyone feel valued.
We are grateful to Mieke for continuing to challenge our thinking, as she did when we first met years ago.
The ultimate question is not whether AI can keep us company. It is whether, in a world full of artificial companions, we will still make time to be companions to one another.