05/10/2026
I learned this by repeatedly doing things that did not quite “make sense” on paper but I felt like doing them. I studied Bioinformatics and graduated with a gold medal, but instead of following the obvious path into a lab, I found myself in marketing & community. You would always find me saying yes to things - be it hosting conversations, mentoring, community work, performing as a comedian, learning a new language, writing, travelling, meeting strangers, learning languages, creating something just because I wanted to, or following a curiosity that had no immediate purpose and all the experiences that sometimes have no obvious connection to the person I was “supposed” to become.
Some of these things have never added neatly to my résumé but they simply brought me the joy of being alive. Such moments have taught me that we are so much more than our titles, degrees, achievements and accomplishments. We don't have to fit ourselves into one box just because the world finds boxes easier to understand. And each of those yeses gave me a perspective I could not have planned for and I find so much joy in having the audacity to try something absolutely peculiar just because I want to do it.
There is always something new to try, something new to learn, and perhaps another version of ourselves waiting to be discovered.
But over time, I have also learned the value of saying no - not because every opportunity needs to be chased, but because sometimes you need stillness more than you need another achievement. This realisation came after a complete burnout, which led to me leaving my job and hence giving me opportunity of explore more of who I am and what I want from life. That's why, I'm a big advocate of slowing down in life and doing what you truly want to do without overwhelming your own existence. When I slow down, I notice things I usually miss: what excites me, what drains me, what I am curious about, and sometimes even what I have been avoiding within myself. Stillness has taught me that not every phase of life needs to be "productive" to be meaningful.
So I have stopped treating life like a countdown or the next deadline you're chasing. Instead, I know that everyone has their timeline and I am simply living on my own timeline so instead of rushing, I believe in cherishing - your existence as a human being, existence of others around you, what you have, what you don't have! It's all working miraculously in your favour and you should trust wherever you're suppose to be, you will get there. Just keep showing up with your curiosity, with your spark and the universe will do its magic!
And that's what life has taught me that it is not a race to become a title, achieve a milestone, or fit into a box of definition. Give yourself the time to breathe, slow down and cherish the gift of being alive - and be awfully alive!! Stay genuinely curious and always say yes to experiences that make you feel alive even if they don't make sense to anyone else!
(Ayesha Siddiqa, 26, Pakistan)