15/12/2025
Day 11: You don’t need to put so much pressure on yourself
This time of year can come with a lot of pressure — to show up, to cope, to enjoy it, to hold everything together.
If things feel heavy, try to gently loosen the expectations you’re carrying.
That might mean:
• taking short breaks from social gatherings
• having a trusted person you can check in with regularly for support
• keeping some familiar routines where you can, such as regular meal times or consistent wake and sleep times
• giving yourself permission to rest
• respectfully changing the subject or stepping away if conversations around food, dieting or bodies come up
• trying grounding practices like mindfulness, journaling, or listening to music to help quiet the mind
And if you’re caring for someone who is struggling, support doesn’t have to be complicated.
Helpful care can look like:
• letting them know they can come to you for support or just a chat — and when they do, listening without trying to fix or minimise. Their feelings are valid and real.
• avoiding comments about food, weight or appearance. If you’re hosting and know these topics may come up, you can respectfully and privately ask others to avoid them (you don’t need to explain why).
• being flexible with plans and expectations, and giving your loved one space when they need it
• reminding them they don’t owe anyone explanations
• having gentle conversations ahead of gatherings about meals or food options if that feels helpful — focusing on reducing stress rather than pressure. But remember we want the focus to be on the occasion and enjoying themselves not the food.
Reducing pressure, on ourselves and on each other, can make this season feel a little safer.
💛 The Wattle Project
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