01/10/2026
This week, together with my father, we officiated at the funeral of Valentina “Bella” Spivak.
Valentina had a way of brightening every room she walked into. Even at 90, she was still doing exactly that. Sweet, kind, gentle and warm, with that unforgettable smile, she was one of those people whose presence simply made a place feel better.
Valentina was a founding member of our Biz 120 Seniors Club and an ever-present part of our community. She was always there, always greeting people, always happy to see a friend.
Her story was also one of extraordinary Jewish resilience. A Holocaust survivor who later fled the oppression of Jewish life in the Soviet Union, Valentina eventually came to Australia and found a true home in the Russian-speaking Jewish community at Chabad of Bondi.
She may have been taken from us, but that is not how I want us to remember her.
I want us to remember Valentina for the light she brought into the lives of so many people.
Almost exactly two years ago, the Biz 120 Club was one of the very first groups to gather in our new shul, at one of the first events ever held there. Rabbi Eli Schlanger HY”D warmly welcomed everyone, gave them a tour of the building, and filmed the afternoon.
In the video, you can see Valentina sitting with her friends, speaking with such excitement about the new shul and how special it was for the community. At one point they sing Oseh Shalom, a prayer for peace that has become so meaningful to our community. (Slide 2) You can also see my father blowing the shofar in preparation for Rosh Hashanah. (Slide 3)
There is something very powerful about watching Valentina in that moment.
A woman who had lived through a time when being Jewish had to be hidden, standing openly and proudly as a Jew, surrounded by her friends, in a beautiful building that was itself a declaration of Jewish life and Jewish pride.
That was Valentina.
She carried a lot in her life, but she chose to bring light.
Bella will be sorely missed by her friends in Biz 120, by the many people whose lives she touched, and by our entire community.
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