18/05/2026
The past few weeks are always a hard time for me as I'm sure it is for many others. If you're part of the Australian Defence Family ANZAC Day is a trigger, if you're a mother whose lost a child, Mother's day is a trigger, if you have a birthday or anniversary to navigate it's a trigger but if we can support each other we can find a way through. The following advice can help and remember love never dies.
A MONK’S ADVICE FOR HEALING THROUGH GRIEF:
1. Allow yourself to cry without shame
Tears are love expressing itself after loss.
2. Speak about them often
Keeping memories alive through stories helps the heart heal gently.
3. Do not isolate yourself completely
Pain becomes heavier when carried alone for too long.
4. Stop blaming yourself for what you could not control
Grief often creates guilt, even when none belongs to you.
5. Create quiet moments of remembrance
Pray for them. Light a candle. Visit places that remind you of love instead of only loss.
6. Be patient with your healing
Some wounds soften slowly. There is no correct timeline for grief.
7. Continue living your life fully
The greatest way to honor someone you loved deeply…
is to keep becoming the person they hoped you would be.
And one day, your heart will realize something beautiful:
The pain never came from losing love.
It came from having a love so deep that even absence could not erase it.