26/08/2026
🌿 HEARTS TO DECREE 🌿
💍 WRONG REASONS TO GET MARRIED
Marriage is a beautiful part of the Sunnah. But wanting marriage doesn't automatically mean we're choosing it for the right reasons.
Sometimes we can pursue marriage because of fear, pressure, loneliness, attachment or expectations—and not because we're genuinely ready to build a healthy marriage.
🚩 Fear of being alone
🚩 Pressure from family or community
🚩 Wanting someone to “save” you
🚩 Wanting financial security
🚩 Wanting children at any cost
🚩 Making sexual desire the primary motivation
🚩 Wanting status or a particular lifestyle
🚩 Wanting to escape the family home
🚩 Wanting someone to heal your childhood wounds
🚩 Thinking marriage will automatically make you happier
🚩 Marrying because “everyone else is married”
🚩 Marrying someone because you don't want to lose them
🚩 Thinking marriage will change someone's behaviour
🚩 Wanting to prove something to an ex, family or community
🚩 Fear that you won't find anyone “better”
🚩 Settling because you think this is your only opportunity
🚩 Wanting to fix or rescue someone
🚩 Believing marriage will automatically make you more religious
🚩 Wanting a spouse to give you purpose or identity
🚩 Wanting social acceptance or respect
🚩 Marrying because you're infatuated and don't want to wait for the feelings to settle
🚩 Feeling guilty saying no to someone who is “a good person” but isn't right for you
🚩 Wanting marriage simply to avoid falling into haram, without first considering whether the person is actually suitable
🚩 Believing being married is proof that you've “made it”
🚩 Marrying because of someone's potential rather than their demonstrated character
🚩 Thinking love alone will overcome major incompatibilities
🚩 Wanting marriage to validate your worth
🚩 Using marriage as an escape from personal responsibility
🚩 Thinking, “We've already invested so much time, so I might as well marry them.”
Marriage shouldn't be an escape from your life, a solution to your wounds, or a way to silence fear.
Before asking, “When will I get married?”
Perhaps we should ask:
“Why do I want to get married?”
And one question that may be uncomfortable—but incredibly revealing:
If I wasn't afraid of being alone, disappointing my family, losing this person, or starting again… would I still choose this marriage?
🌿 HEARTS TO DECREE
Join us this week as we explore the wrong reasons to get married, the pressures that influence our choices, and what it means to approach marriage with intention, wisdom and taqwa.
Because being single isn't a failure, and being married isn't automatically a success.
The goal is a marriage that brings us closer to Allah ﷻ.
