Complete Men

04/06/2026

June is Mens Mental Health Awareness month.
Please take the opportunity to check in on the Men in your lives.
Your Husbands, Partners, Fathers, Brothers, Nephews and Mates 🙂

11/05/2026

Dan-51.
Joined Complete Men- 2026

05/05/2026

Dinner & Conversation 27th May - https://mailchi.mp/menswellbeing/dinner-conversation-9372357

24/03/2026

Bring a mate to a BBQ. 🌭🔥

Sometimes the hardest part is just showing up and it’s a whole lot easier when you bring someone with you.

Our BBQs are all about good food, real conversation and making connection simple. No pressure. No speeches. Just a relaxed catch-up in the park with a sausage sandwich and some good company.

Know someone who could use a casual chat and a free BBQ? Bring them along.

Find a BBQ near you or start one in your town 👇
https://mrperfect.org.au/

06/03/2026

Mr Haggis- 2026

02/03/2026

19/02/2026

Luke Bateman

13/01/2026

I remember watching Encanto with my daughter.
And feeling for the sister who is strong, that can lift anything.

Because her worth was tied to what she can carry.
This could be a metaphor for the emotional labour women carry in families.
or becoming the breadwinner in a new ages for ladies.

💡Please keep that in mind as I explore the particular impression I had, that is not discounting anyone else because I am shining a light on my own experience.

It struck me that men's worth - the men I speak to and support nearly every day - is tied to their ability to absorb the weight of others.

A lot of men make that same deal early on.
Or it is made for them.

Be capable.
Be competent.
Be reliable.
Be predictable.
And if you falter, I will retract myself from you emotionally, physically or both.

That's not what this is about.
It is about the cost of that endurance.

🎶 "... never wonder if the same pressure would have put you under." 🎶

The cost of carrying the most weight is the reward of... More weight.

The more resilient you appear > the less support you receive.
The more capable you are > the more is expected of you.
As strength becomes currency > it only works if you keep performing it.

🎶 "Who am I if I don't have what it takes?" 🎶

Somewhere along the way, strength stopped being a resource and became an identity. Because it was a means to evaluate men.

And when that happens, rest becomes failure.
Asking for help feels like weakness.
Feelings become a liability.

Not overtly, sometimes these beliefs are carried from the man's childhood and not perpetuated overtly by the one's they sacrifice for.

The sad thing I see, is that this erodes men's empathy.
Because we are subjected to expectations that we can feel unjustly burdened by, it can shrink your compassion for those who haven't.

Even the ones benefitting from your self-sacrifice.

Not because you’re cruel but because you are human.
Even if admitting that breaks the unspoken code.

🎶"If I could shake
The crushing weight
Of expectations,
Would that free up room for joy?
Or relaxation?
Or simple pleasure?" 🎶

A lot of my work IS NOT getting men to rest, to feel, to be human.
It is actually equipping them with the relational skills to tell their partner, "no."
And to also equip them with the fallout of this.

It isn't any one persons fault.
A man didn't ask for this deal.
A partner he is with didn't either.

Because he showed up to the dance like this, and then "changes" when he expresses emotions, has boundaries and prioritises himself.

And that also isn't fair on her.

Real strength is not what we can carry.
Not anymore.

It is having the courage to put something down and staying grounded while friends, family, partners call it betrayal.

Or when that painful sense of betrayal is the voice in their own head.

We can do this.

Regards,
Barry from Support 💙

If you or someone you know is in crisis, please reach out:
📞 Lifeline: 13 11 14
📞 Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636
📞 MensLine Australia: 1300 78 99 78

You’re not alone.

21/11/2025

In honour of International Mens Day, and recognizing the 2500 Men a year who lose their lives to su***de in Australia, one of our support groups held a process on what makes up our masculine traits last night.
It was an interesting process to experience.
Image used with unanimous permission from the Men in the group.

19/11/2025

This International Mens Day, let us reflect on the Men in our lives that have been lost to su***de and remember that there is help available.
Or take the opportunity to reach out to a Loved one you think might be struggling.

If you need someone to talk to, call:
Lifeline on 13 11 14
Kids Helpline on 1800 551 800
MensLine Australia on 1300 789 978
Su***de Call Back Service on 1300 659 467
Beyond Blue on 1300 22 46 36
Headspace on 1800 650 890
QLife on 1800 184 527