29/09/2026
Yesterday I spoke to 380 members of CPA Australia about menopause, and I want to say what I said there.
I reached menopause at 53. I was told to “sweat it out” for a year before I could access treatment. In that time I lost my mum to Alzheimer’s, had children in and out of the HSC, and was supporting executive clients through the start of COVID. I wasn’t thinking about myself. I was proud (and unknowingly attached to the identity) of being the one who coped.
Within 6 weeks of starting HRT, my sleep changed. But by 2023 I hit burnout. I held onto that identity as a productive contributor, high energy, a loyal team player, long after my body and mind were telling me otherwise. I kept preferencing that identity over what I really needed (adjustments to scheduling, rest, and a dose of self compassion).
Three things I’d offer:
**To leaders:** Menopause is not a private matter that only affects performance. It’s a workplace reality for a huge share of your most experienced people. Psychological safety means a woman ought to be able to say “I’m struggling” without it costing her in reputation or opportunity.
**To women:** It takes courage to name this, to push back on “wait it out,” and to ask for what you need. Find a doctor who is up on the latest research and will support your whole being. It isn’t selfish. Resilience will mask distress only for so long.
**To all of us:** Taking care of yourself isn’t the opposite of taking care of others. A bit of both makes it and life sustainable.
There is often loss and grief in this transition (body changes, s*x drive, mental clarity, drive), and it deserves to be acknowledged. There is also wisdom, perspective and compassion that arises in the next chapter and we need this in the world. Let’s make it easier for women coming behind us. And this is the human journey. 🩵
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Of course you’re not. All women go through it.
Resources to access:
Jean Hailes for Women's Health
Peritherapy
Menopause Alliance Australia
Australasian Menopause Society
Menopause Friendly Australia 🇦🇺
Kat Taylor
are good places to start.