Redlands Centre for Women Inc.

10/04/2026

I did not write this, but it's well worth the read if you are getting older.

When I turned 65 , I sat in my favorite chair, looked back at my life, and whispered to myself,
“So… this is the beginning of the final stretch.”

And slowly, the truths I had avoided all my life began to surface.

Kids? They’re busy writing their own story.
Health? Slips away faster than sand through open fingers.
The government? Just headlines, promises, and numbers that never change your daily reality.

Aging doesn’t hurt your body first — it hurts your illusions.
So I sat down with myself and carved out a handful of bitter but necessary truths.

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Kids don’t save you from loneliness

Children grow, life pulls them in every direction, and you become a memory they visit when time allows.

You smile… and yet something inside you remains strangely hollow.

Kids bring joy — but they are not a shield against loneliness.

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Health is not forever

One day, the outings you once jumped into with enthusiasm feel like a marathon.
You realize health was never a background character —
it was the main pillar holding your life steady.

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Retirement and money

Retirement is not a reward — it’s a reality check.
Depending on the system is like standing on thin ice.
Bills grow, needs grow, prices grow… but support doesn't.
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So I rebuilt my life on new rules — honest, sharp, practical rules for living with dignity.

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Rule 1: Money is more reliable than anything else.

Love your kids, cherish them —
but don’t make them your retirement plan.

Save for yourself.
Even small savings create big freedom.
Financial independence is dignity.

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Rule 2: Your health is your real job

Nothing else matters if your body refuses to cooperate.
Move. Walk. Stretch.
Guard your sleep like treasure.
Eat cleaner. Reduce the poison disguised as sugar and salt.

Illness doesn’t discriminate,
but it respects those who take responsibility for themselves.

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Rule 3: Create your own joy

Waiting for others to make you happy is the fastest way to heartbreak.
So you learn to enjoy the small things —
a peaceful breakfast, a good book, music that warms the soul.

When you know how to make yourself happy, loneliness loses its power.

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Rule 4: Aging is not an excuse to become helpless

Some people turn aging into a performance of complaints.
And slowly, even those who love them start stepping away.

Strength is attractive.
Resilience is magnetic.
People respect the ones who stay capable, not the ones who surrender.

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Rule 5: Let go of the past

The good old days were beautiful — yes.
But they’re gone, and there is no return ticket.

Clinging to the past steals the present.
Life today may look different, but it still holds moments worth living.

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Rule 6: Protect your peace like it’s your property

Not every argument needs your voice.
Not every insult needs your response.
Not every relative deserves access to your emotions.

Peace is expensive.
Protect it from drama, negativity, and draining people —
even if they're your close ones.

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Rule 7: Keep learning something — anything

The day you stop learning is the day you start aging.
A new recipe, a new word, a new app, a new hobby —
your brain needs movement just like your body does.

Learning keeps you young.
Stagnation makes you old.

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Strength and freedom still belong to you

Aging is an exam no one can take for you.

You can adapt, rebuild, and rise stronger…
or sit back, complain, and wait for someone to rescue you.

And if ....
No one comes to rescue you ....

Stand up for yourself ...

Because you still can..
And that single truth is enough to transform the rest of your life.

~Unknown author

27/03/2026

Hi Ladies. I would like to give a big shout out to Skinfluence Clinic in Ormiston for their amazing donation of so much product to use in our Pink Pamper Packs. Our recipients will surely love these beautiful skin care items.

11/03/2026

Our market which was going to be in 30th May has been POSTPONED until later in the year in springtime.

01/03/2026

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17/02/2026

Hi Ladies. Don’t forget our Wine & Cheese Planning night tonight at the Cottage 6pm. See you there.

18/01/2026

31/12/2025

Plan for 2026:
Stay private.
Work smart. Dress well. Eat healthy.Talk less. Do more.
Live life. Be kind. Stay humble. Avoid drama.

28/11/2025

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She was born in the Somali desert in 1965.
One of twelve children in a nomadic family that herded goats across some of the harshest landscape on earth.
By age six, Waris Dirie was responsible for sixty goats and sheep.
She walked them into the desert each day to graze.
Water was scarce. Food was scarce. Everything was about survival.
Her name means "desert flower."
At five years old, an old woman came for her.
She used a broken, bloodied razor blade. No anesthesia. No sterilization.
Waris was blindfolded. Given a tree root to bite down on. Held down by her mother while her aunt helped restrain her.
Then the cutting began.
Female ge***al mutilation.
Type III—the most extreme form. Everything removed. Everything stitched shut with acacia thorns and white thread, leaving an opening the size of a matchstick.
The pain was indescribable.
One of her sisters died from complications. So did two of her cousins.
But Waris survived.
Her mother explained it had to happen. In the name of Allah. In the name of tradition. All girls must endure it.
This was Somalia, where an estimated 98 percent of women undergo FGM.
At thirteen, her father made an announcement.
He'd arranged her marriage.
To a sixty-year-old man.
The bride price: five camels.
Waris's mother quietly helped her daughter escape in the night.
She fled alone across the desert.
A thirteen-year-old girl walking through one of the most dangerous landscapes on earth, with no map, no money, no protection.
She made it to Mogadishu.
From there, an uncle who'd just been appointed Somali ambassador to the United Kingdom agreed to take her to London—as his maid.
She was illiterate. She spoke no English. She worked for her uncle's family without pay.
When his term ended in 1985, the family returned to Somalia.
Waris stayed.
Illegally.
She rented a room at the YMCA. Found work cleaning at McDonald's. Took English classes in the evenings.
She was eighteen years old. Alone in a foreign city. Learning to read and write for the first time.
Then one day in 1987, a photographer walked into that McDonald's.
Terence Donovan.
One of the most famous fashion photographers in the world.
He saw something in her face. Her striking beauty. Her unique presence.
He asked if she'd model.
She said yes.
That year, he photographed her for the Pirelli Calendar alongside a then-unknown model named Naomi Campbell.
Overnight, everything changed.
Waris Dirie went from scrubbing floors to walking runways in Paris, Milan, London, and New York.
She became the face of Chanel. Levi's. L'Oréal. Revlon.
She was the first Black woman to appear in an Oil of Olay advertisement.
She graced the covers of Vogue, Elle, and Glamour.
In 1987, she played a Bond girl in The Living Daylights.
She was living the dream.
But the nightmare never left her.
Every day, she carried the physical and emotional scars of what had been done to her at five years old.
She suffered chronic pain. Struggled with intimacy. Endured the lifelong consequences of FGM.
For years, she said nothing.
Then in 1997, at the height of her modeling career, a journalist named Laura Ziv from Marie Claire magazine interviewed her.
They were supposed to talk about her "African Cinderella" story. The rags-to-riches transformation.
But Waris changed the subject.
"All of that fashion model stuff's been done a million times," she said. "If you promise to publish it, I'll give you a real story."
Laura agreed.
And Waris poured her truth into a tape recorder.
She told the world what had happened to her. What happened to millions of girls like her. What continued to happen every single day.
Female ge***al mutilation.
The interview was published under the headline "The Tragedy of Female Circumcision."
It triggered a worldwide response.
Barbara Walters interviewed her on NBC. Media outlets across the globe picked up the story.
For the first time, FGM had a face. A name. A voice.
That same year, 1997, UN Secretary-General Kofi Annan appointed her as the UN Special Ambassador for the Elimination of Female Ge***al Mutilation.
Waris retired from modeling at thirty-two.
At the peak of her career, when she could have kept the glamorous life going, she walked away.
She had a bigger mission.
She traveled the world on behalf of the UN. Met with presidents, Nobel Prize winners, Hollywood stars. Gave hundreds of interviews. Spoke at international conferences.
She wasn't just the supermodel with the beautiful face anymore.
She was the survivor who refused to stay silent.
In 1998, she published her autobiography, Desert Flower.
It became an international bestseller, selling over eleven million copies worldwide in more than fifty languages.
People finally understood what FGM really was. Not a "harmless cultural tradition" but a brutal violation of human rights.
In 2001, she founded the Desert Dawn Foundation to raise money for schools and clinics in Somalia.
In 2002, she founded the Desert Flower Foundation in Vienna—an organization dedicated to eradicating FGM worldwide.
She opened the first holistic medical centers for FGM victims in Berlin, Stockholm, Paris, and Amsterdam.
She wrote more books: Desert Dawn (2002), Desert Children (2005), Letter to My Mother.
In 2009, her life story was made into a film, Desert Flower, starring Ethiopian supermodel Liya Kebede.
The film won the Bavarian Film Award for Best Movie. It was shown in over twenty countries.
But Waris's greatest victory wasn't awards or bestsellers.
It was change.
Real, measurable change.
When she started speaking out in 1997, more than 130 million girls and women had undergone FGM.
The World Health Organization estimated that 8,000 girls faced it every single day.
Many people didn't even know it existed.
Today, thanks to Waris and countless activists like her, FGM is recognized globally as a human rights violation.
A British Medical Journal study found that in East Africa, the rate of FGM in girls under fourteen dropped from 71 percent in 1995 to 8 percent in 2017.
In West Africa: from 73 percent to 25 percent.
In North Africa: from 57 percent to 14 percent.
In 2003, fifteen African Union member countries ratified the Maputo Protocol, which promotes the eradication of FGM.
In 2019, a London court sentenced a mother to eleven years in prison for circumcising her three-year-old daughter—the first such conviction in British history.
Countries around the world have passed laws criminalizing FGM.
Education campaigns reach millions.
And girls who would have faced the blade are being saved.
Waris Dirie is now in her late fifties.
She continues to fight.
"I want to end FGM once and for all in my lifetime," she says.
From a five-year-old girl held down by her mother while an old woman cut her with a dirty blade.
To a thirteen-year-old fleeing marriage across the desert.
To an eighteen-year-old cleaning floors at McDonald's.
To one of the world's most famous supermodels.
To the woman who broke the silence on one of humanity's most brutal practices.
Waris Dirie didn't just survive.
She transformed her pain into purpose.
Her trauma into a global movement.
Her silence into a voice that reached millions.
Every girl saved from FGM is a testament to her courage.
Every law passed against it carries her story.
Every survivor who finds help at a Desert Flower Center walks in her footsteps.
She was born a desert flower in the harshest conditions imaginable.
Not only did she survive.
She bloomed.
And she made damn sure millions of other girls would get the chance to bloom too.
Not as victims.
But as the powerful, whole, unbroken women they were always meant to be.