Nurses and Midwives Against Bullying Australia - original

23/06/2026

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13/06/2026

‼️TRIGGER WARNING‼️

This is absolute gold! A police officer talking about bullying. She says it so well.

She talks about abuse and sexual assault so please be mindful of that if reading this article.

Thank you Ruth Namaba

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I Told The Truth About NSW Police. They Called Me a Liar.

The NSW Police culture review isn’t shocking to me.
What’s shocking is watching people act surprised.
Really?
Now you believe it?
Now that it’s printed in a nice report with a fancy heading and media coverage, suddenly everyone cares about how vile things can be inside police stations?
Because when I said it, I was a liar.
When I said I was relentlessly bullied, harassed, assaulted and sexually assaulted during my 10-year career in NSW Police, people questioned my credibility.
When I said a colleague put a gun to my head, people got uncomfortable.
When I said I was kicked on the ground inside Penrith Police Station, people went quiet.
Not because they thought I was lying.
Because believing me would force them to admit something deeply fu**ed up:
The danger wasn’t always outside the station.
Sometimes it was inside it.
And that truth makes people uncomfortable as hell.
So let me help people understand what “culture” actually looked like.
Not the sanitised HR version.
The real version.
I would be sitting at a computer doing my job when colleagues would come up behind me, remove the magazine from my issued firearm and flick my bullets across the floor.
Live rounds.
Across the floor.
Not by accident.
On purpose.
They flicked them under desks and tables so I had to crawl around on the ground to collect them.
While I was crawling, they laughed.
Then kicked me.
That was the joke.
That’s what some people still want to call “banter.”
I was pushed into walls.
They pulled chairs out from under me as I sat down.
They leg swept me.
If I got hurt, embarrassed, or upset?
Same line every time.
“Relax.”
“Calm down.”
“It was just a f**ken joke.”
Funny how abuse magically becomes a joke the second the victim reacts.
Even basic s**t like using the printer became dangerous.
There were times they physically held my arms down while I was trying to photocopy so they could do whatever they wanted to me while I couldn’t move.
Read that again.
I was a police officer.
Inside a police station.
And I had to worry about whether it was safe to use a fu***ng photocopier.
It got so bad I started going upstairs to empty floors just to print things because it felt safer than being around my own colleagues.
Think about how insane that is.
I felt safer alone in an empty building than around other police.
And it wasn’t just physical.
A lot of it was psychological.
They learned what upset me and weaponised it.
One officer knew how much I loved cats.
So he used to deliberately mount the footpath in the police car trying to hit and kill cats because he knew how much it distressed me.
I screamed at him to stop.
Begged him to stop.
He laughed.
Let that sink in.
I’m not describing a psychopath from a Netflix documentary.
I’m describing a police officer.
Someone trusted with a firearm.
Someone trusted by the public.
And it gets worse.
More than one officer used terror as entertainment.
More than one.
There were times they would drive at extreme speeds with me trapped in the car while screaming at me:
“Are you scared to die?”
“Are you scared yet?”
No emergency.
No operational reason.
Just because they enjoyed fear.
They enjoyed watching me panic.
They enjoyed seeing how far they could push me.
How much terror I could take before I broke.
That’s the bit people struggle with.
This wasn’t accidental.
They liked it.
They enjoyed causing distress.
That’s hard for normal people to understand because normal people don’t get pleasure from fear.
Some of them did.
Even supervisors joined in.
After a disagreement with my Sergeant, he pi**ed in my locker.
Yes.
Literally pi**ed in my locker.
And people want me to call this “workplace conflict.”
F**k off.
Conflict implies equal power.
This wasn’t conflict.
This was degradation.
Humiliation.
Abuse.
Power.
Control.
And yes, it escalated further.
I had a gun held to my head.
I was kicked on the ground inside Penrith Police Station.
Inside.
A police station.
Read that again.
The public are told police stations represent safety, law, and accountability.
I learned they can also be places where predators protect each other.
People ask the wrong question.
They ask:
“How could this happen?”
Wrong.
That was never the right question.
The real question is:
What happens when someone reports it?
I can answer that.
You get punished.
You get isolated.
You get discredited.
You become the problem.
I reported what happened to me.
And instead of protecting me, they protected themselves.
That’s the part nobody wants to talk about.
The cover-up.
Because here’s the thing.
I didn’t just make allegations.
I successfully proved workplace misconduct through a workers compensation claim.
That means independent assessment.
Evidence.
External scrutiny.
I proved it.
And still?
No real accountability.
No meaningful consequences.
No justice.
Instead, I lost my career.
Sit with that.
The victim lost everything.
The perpetrators largely carried on.
And people still ask me:
“Why don’t more cops come forward?”
Seriously?
Because they watched what happened to me.
That’s why.
They learned the lesson.
Keep your mouth shut.
Because speaking up can cost you your job, your reputation, your income, your mental health, your safety, and sometimes your will to keep living.
People love whistleblowers in theory.
In reality?
Not so much.
Everyone says they want truth.
Until truth becomes expensive.
Until truth implicates powerful people.
Until truth makes institutions look rotten.
Then suddenly the whistleblower becomes:
Too emotional.
Too angry.
Too damaged.
Too difficult.
Convenient.
Because if you can discredit the victim, you don’t have to confront the system.
And let me be crystal clear.
This is not about a few bad apples.
I hate that phrase.
It’s bulls**t.
This was culture.
This was normalised.
Ask almost any long-serving officer and they know exactly who the dangerous ones are.
Who the bullies are.
Who the predators are.
Who should never be left alone with vulnerable people.
People knew.
They always knew.
That’s why this latest culture review doesn’t impress me.
The problem was never lack of knowledge.
The problem was lack of courage.
People knew.
They just didn’t want to be the one to say it out loud.
Because once you acknowledge it, you’re morally responsible for what happens next.
And too many people preferred plausible deniability.
“I never saw it.”
“I never knew.”
“There wasn’t enough evidence.”
Bulls**t.
That’s how institutions protect themselves.
Not by proving victims wrong.
By making everybody just uncomfortable enough to look away.
And it works.
It worked for years.
It nearly killed me.
So no, I’m not shocked by the review.
I’m exhausted by it.
Exhausted that it took this long.
Exhausted that victims were called liars.
Exhausted that people are only listening now because a report gave them permission to.
Because that’s the most fu**ed part of all.
People like me told you years ago.
You just didn’t want to listen.
So if you ask me what the real scandal is, it’s not the review.
It’s not even the abuse.
The real scandal is what happened to those of us who told the truth.
The scandal is how many people already knew.
And did sweet f**k all.

By Michelle Carlon
https://medium.com//i-told-the-truth-about-nsw-police-they-called-me-a-liar-b322a59f660d

12/06/2026

HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎂 to us! Nurses and Midwives Against Bullying Australia is 6 years old today. My previous group was stolen by three bully admin. They say we are therefore not six years old. Yes we are. We were formed in 2020. You are part of NAMABA. Thank you for supporting us. 💙💙💙

11/06/2026

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27/05/2026

In this powerful episode of Your Nurse Voice Matters, Wendy sits down with nurse academic, researcher, and advocate Alan Ramsay for a confronting and deeply honest conversation about the realities of modern nursing.
Alan challenges the idea that nurses need more resilience training, wellness workshops, or moral distress lectures to survive healthcare, arguing instead that the real problem is the system itself.
Drawing on decades of experience in trauma, cardiology, education, advocacy, and research, he explores the power imbalances, workplace cultures, and silence that continue to impact nurses and patient safety across the profession.
Together, Wendy and Alan discuss why nurses are often discouraged from speaking up, the emotional toll of unsafe workplaces, the hidden culture of lateral violence and bullying, and why near misses, advocacy, and open conversations matter more than ever.
Alan also shares practical insights for early career nurses on finding their voice, navigating difficult workplace situations, and standing firm in their professional standards.
This episode is thought-provoking, validating, and essential listening for nurses at every stage of their career. And somewhere within this conversation lies a golden nugget about courage, advocacy, and the quiet power of standing beside someone who chooses to speak up.
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In this powerful episode of Your Nurse Voice Matters, Wendy sits down with nurse academic, researcher, and advocate Alan Ramsay for a confronting and deeply honest conversation about the realities of modern nursing. Alan challenges the idea that nurses need more resilience training, wellness worksho...

26/05/2026

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19/05/2026

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