10/05/2026
Mother's Day is made out to be such a warm, fuzzy feeling day.... But is it also fraught with so many complexities.
Many of us ponder on our failures and hope they know how hard we tried in our brokenness.
Many of us grieve the babies lost, the babies we never could have.
Many grieve their own mothers.
Foster and adoptive parents celebrate and grieve at the same time.
Bio moms that gave up their babies or had them removed grieve. Yes, even the ones that abandoned their babies out of desperation.
One mom that had to make hard choices wrote this:
A view from the bottom: This mother's day is so different.... At a point in my life where being a mother was my highest achievement....now I carry the weight of it. Smiles and sighs have been replaced by endless tears and fears.....I never knew protection could also equal loss. That in trying to preserve one's self you would also lose yourself.. Motherhood is kind, it's nurturing , it's love....but it can also be overwhelming, cause extreme sense of loss and grief.....I never knew to give life I would have to also give it away..However many times I tell myself it will only be one more week, one more month, inside I know it may also never be..sitting alone in the dark by myself I feel every ounce of it....the failure , the emptiness and the overwhelming sense of loss. And then there are those stolen moments....where I get to see the precious child I love so much....thrive...love...live and I realise my needs compared to her happiness cannot be measured. Her provisions against my sense of absolute desolation don't even matter..all that matters is her. Motherhood....so many things to so many people but ultimately it's a love and devotion no one can truly describe.
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As we wind down this day with our own feelings and experiences, let's be aware and spare a thought for those moms that would give anything to have our imperfect journey. Hug those babies a little tighter and a little longer while we can.
And please, consider loving another mom's baby when she can't. There is no greater privilege.
