15/09/2026
RESPECTFUL ENGAGEMENT WITH LGBTQIA+ COUPLES
20 Questions to ASK
When engaging with a homosexual or LGBTQIA+ couple, use questions that promote dignity, safety, equality and understanding.
How would you describe your relationship?
What are some of the strengths of your relationship?
How do you support each other?
What challenges do you experience as a couple?
Do you feel safe in your relationship?
Do you feel accepted and supported by your family or community?
Is there anything affecting your emotional wellbeing?
Are there any health concerns you would like to discuss?
What healthcare services do you currently use?
Do you feel respected when accessing healthcare services?
Are there any barriers preventing you from accessing healthcare?
What kind of support would be most helpful to you?
Would you like information about sexual and reproductive health?
Would you like information about HIV, STIs, TB or prevention services?
Do you know where you can access confidential and LGBTQIA+-friendly services?
Are there any concerns about discrimination or stigma that you would like to discuss?
What would make you feel more comfortable when accessing support services?
How can we better support you as a couple?
Is there anything you would like us to know about your needs or experiences?
Is there anything else you would like to ask or talk about?
20 Questions to AVOID
Avoid questions that are intrusive, judgmental, stereotypical or unnecessarily focused on someone's sexual orientation.
“Which one of you is the man and which one is the woman?”
“Who is the top and who is the bottom?”
“How exactly do you have sex?”
“Who is the real parent?”
“Are you sure you're gay?”
“Have you ever tried dating the opposite sex?”
“Who is more masculine or feminine?”
“How did you become gay?”
“Is this just a phase?”
“Do your par
