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04/09/2025

The love language we don't talk about.

It's the quiet act of someone choosing to work on themselves.

Not just for their own sake, but for the health of the relationship.

It’s easy to say “That’s just how I am,” and expect others to accept our flaws and triggers as unchangeable parts of us.

But real love ..... deep, mature love, looks different.

It’s someone who recognizes their wounds and patterns, and instead of making them your burden, takes responsibility for their healing.

It’s the partner who notices when their words cut too deep, or when old habits threaten new happiness, and chooses to do the work to grow.

You deserve someone who doesn’t expect you to simply tolerate the parts of them that hurt you.

You deserve someone who sees the impact of their actions and is willing to change, not because you demand it, but because they care about your peace, your safety, and your heart.

Love isn’t just about grand gestures or sweet words.

Sometimes, it’s about accountability.

It’s about someone who looks at their own reflection and says, “I want to be better for me, for you, for us.”

That’s the kind of love that builds trust, deepens connection, and heals old wounds.

Always remember .... you are worthy of a love that grows.

Of a partner who chooses healing over excuses, effort over complacency.

Don’t settle for less than someone who’s willing to do the work, because that’s a love language that will last a lifetime.

"Fall in love gently. Remind yourself that you are the longest relationship of your life. Remind yourself that you are a...
11/02/2025

"Fall in love gently.
Remind yourself that you are the longest relationship of your life.
Remind yourself that you are a child of this universe and that you are worthy of happiness.
Fall in love with the way you feel things deeply. The color of someone's laughter. The texture of someone's kindness. The nostalgia of going back to places that caused you so much pleasure and pain.
You are an old soul trapped in a body that's slowly, slowly decaying.
You are a traveler of both the outer world and the inner world.
Fall in love with your failures. The events that shaped you into becoming who you are today.
Embrace your shortcomings for they serve as a lesson in your formless memory.
Forgive yourself for everything that is causing you so much pain. It is a brutal process, and you must get through it. Self-hate can only generate more worry in your life, Let it go. You don't have to carry it forever. Fall in love with your body.
Romanticize it. The freckles on your face are constellations. The heart-shaped birthmark right behind your hips. The positive aura of your gummy smile. The way that your body is working hard to keep you alive like electricity lighting up a whole city on a cloudless night.
Fall in love with your existence. The little things that make you who you are. The poetry that you write. The instrument that you play. The way you put your makeup on as you face another challenging day. These little things that make you who you are come from the way you express your being. Fall in love with yourself until you finally feel like home."~

Will you… hold my hand for a little while?I don’t need you to save me.No need for you to fix anything.No need for you to...
11/02/2025

Will you… hold my hand for a little while?
I don’t need you to save me.
No need for you to fix anything.
No need for you to carry my pain.
But will you simply hold my hand?
I don’t need your words,
Your thoughts,
Nor your shoulders to carry me.
But will you sit here for a while with me?

Whilst my tears stream,
Whilst my heart shatters,
Whilst my mind plays tricks on me,
Will you, with your presence, let me know that I am not alone, while I wander into my inner unknown?

For my darkness is mine to face,
My pain is mine to feel,
And my wounds are mine to heal.
But will you sit with me here, while I courageously show up for it all, my dear?

For I am bright because of my darkness,
Beautiful because of my brokenness,
And strong because of my tender heart.
But will you take my hand lovingly when I sometimes journey into the dark?

I don’t ask for you to take my darkness away,
I don’t expect you to brighten my day,
And I don’t believe you can mend my pain.
But I would surely love it if you could sit for a while and hold my hand, until I find my way out of my shadowland!

So, will you… hold my hand until I return again?

In a world where the constant message is that one is inherently inadequate, it is remarkably courageous to persist in be...
08/02/2025

In a world where the constant message is that one is inherently inadequate, it is remarkably courageous to persist in being oneself.

I have been intermittently navigating the dating community for some time and, on several occasions, attempted to meet someone while still in an unhealed state . Unsurprisingly, I attracted partners who were also unhealed, perpetuating a cycle of toxicity. However, this experience was necessary, as it compelled me to introspect and acknowledge my contribution to suboptimal relationships.

Although I did not recognize it at the time, I learned valuable lessons from each experience. I would feel devastated when a relationship ended, as if I would never recover. Reflecting on those moments now seems surreal, and I wonder how I allowed those experiences to affect me so profoundly.

My attachment style has often led me to assume blame for the outcome of relationships, acknowledging that I was equally responsible for the foundation of those relationships.
I have come to realize that some relationships, people, places, and experiences are simply not conducive to one's well-being.
In the past, I invested considerable effort in attempting to make those relationships work, often by compromising my authenticity. This approach, though exciting at times, ultimately proved chaotic. Following a period of introspection and growth, I have gained valuable insights.

Although I have taken time to focus on personal development, I recognize that true growth occurs when one applies those lessons in real-world situations. Human relationships are inherently complex and messy, with individuals attempting to navigate their own complexities while seeking connection with others. Intrinsically, we all crave connection, leading us to pursue relationships with others, often without fully understanding our own motivations or those of our partners. This pursuit is not for the faint of heart.

Too often we reach for others asking them to be the thing that we haven’t cultivated for ourselves.
Stop that. Bring the qualities youd want in someone else to the table. That s**t is magical.

23/01/2025

The plateaus are as important as growth.

When one is focused on expanding it sometimes feels stagnant to pause. In the pause comes the ability to absorb, digest, imbibe and adjust to this new environment; be it spiritual, physical, or mental.

The constant urge to push onward like a wrecking ball leaves little space to witness where you’re at.
Climbing the stairs is an achievement but there’s a purpose for the landing along the way.

Don’t get caught in the cycle of perpetual growth as an indidcator of success. Often the thought is in where the destination lies rather than what the experience of entire journey holds.

There is no final destination. There are cycles that allow us to end but the point is always to begin again.

That unnamed space inbetween, the quiet, the resolution …that is a place of rest. Use it.

“You should be better than you are, but it’s not because you’re worse than other people. It’s because you’re not everyth...
22/01/2025

“You should be better than you are, but it’s not because you’re worse than other people. It’s because you’re not everything you should be.” Jordan Peterson

Too often, I think people bind themselves to what they have historically believed, valued, or understood.

In a most controversial occurrence, we can look at the Covid years as great evidence of this. People were literally fighting their most cherished relationships when faced with a difference of opinion. Even now, if you ask an extremist from either spectrum and with considerable distance from it, many would cling to those ideals even when evidence has shown the errors of the time.

Is it better to abandon loyalty to a patterned way of thinking or to ignore the constant evolution of the world in order to legitimize one’s way of thinking?

It is easy to think that at some stage we have learned all there is. It is also convenient to stand behind the convictions we’ve always felt were right. I think the thought missing from either is - for that time.

Do good, until you know better; and then do better.

It is only ourselves that prevent us from growth, mostly because we avoid seeing that it is possible or perhaps necessary. While the world is changing constantly around us, we should take our cues to mirror that. It’s hard work to sit alone and ask where we might improve, evolve, or dive deeply into. It requires an openness about how we may not be the best version possible and it demands brutal honesty with ourselves.

To find the highest version of oneself, I think it’s necessary to be open to the thought that what we think may need an update!

Happy Saturday! I’m not sure what the title of this is, but it spoke to me as “silent battles”. It depicts so splendidly...
18/01/2025

Happy Saturday!
I’m not sure what the title of this is, but it spoke to me as “silent battles”. It depicts so splendidly how easily we appoint the guards to protect us out of unresolved patterning. Undoubtedly there are circumstances in which our intuition requires active listening. Discernment is crucial …

You brace yourself for battle
For the soon-approaching war
And the sky echoes your darkness
As grey clouds begin to form

You retreat inside your castle
Where the walls are tall and strong
But in the darkness the walls whisper
Of the things that could go wrong

So you run around your castle
Closing curtains, locking doors
And you batten down the hatches
Whilst preparing for the storm

But locked inside your keep
You miss the sky return to blue
And behind the doors and curtains
You can’t see the stunning view

See the castle’s kept you listening
To all the words it’s said
And the storm outside has passed
Whilst you’ve raged war inside your head

But remember, it’s your castle
And the walls belong to you
So don’t let them try to tell you
What you can and cannot do

Refuse to lose your voice to theirs
And do not let them speak
For they’ll never give up trying
To convince you you are weak

Wrap a robe of strength around you
Wear your courage like a crown
And you’ll silence all the whispers
That have tried to talk you down

And if you find yourself in battle
Use your fortress by all means
But remember you are in control
Yes, it’s a castle…

And you’re the Queen! (King)

Writer Becky Hemsley

Undoubtedly, to lead with love can be a difficult endeavor. You are interacting with others, the others who can be just ...
16/01/2025

Undoubtedly, to lead with love can be a difficult endeavor.
You are interacting with others, the others who can be just as multifaceted as you, and that is never expected to be easy.
Given that they possess the same humanity as you, they think, feel, and have experienced all the same challenges throughout their days.
Sometimes, it may be hard to decipher, and it may seem like you do not understand completely how to offer grace
Lead with love anyway.
Is it not about striving to comprehend, going out of your way, even when circumstances are not favorable?
You still persevere.
Because as love, you choose love even when it becomes demanding.

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