06/09/2026
It’s us. We’re the grownups.
I come back to this quote by L.R Knost more than almost any other, because that sudden realisation can be hard to accept. There’s no one else coming. Our kids don’t have this yet.
We do. It’s our job.
And what an honour it is.
To be a little person’s safe place. To show them what it looks like to move through big emotions in a healthy way, with another person, through relationship, letting the feelings out rather than bottling them up to fester or erupt. Not scrolling them away, not shopping or drinking them away.
That’s what we get to be for our kids.
The prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain that handles impulse control and emotional regulation, isn’t fully developed until the mid to late 20’s, so until then they need to borrow ours.
You are their compass. Their calm in the storm, the steady light they hold onto when they feel like they’re drowning in a sea of wild and unpredictable emotions. We get to teach them how to navigate messy feelings. We get to teach them that they won’t drown.
When my son was really little and big emotions overcame him and he was at his ‘worst’, I intentionally stepped up. I was like “Yes…I get to earn my parenting stripes here! I’m right here, I’m not running away, I’m not shutting down, not shutting him down”.
It became my job to prove to my son that when he was at his worst, for me, nothing changed. If I get the honour of loving him when he’s at his best, I have the responsibility to also love him just as much when he’s at his worst. That’s unconditional love.
It seems simple, yet it’s anything but easy, especially when we have some healing and maturing of our own to do. Some days we join the chaos. We’re human. And it’s never too late to come back, repair, and try again.
One day we won’t be here anymore. But the work you’re putting in now, with your baby, your toddler, your teenager, will be with them forever. Years from now, as Maya Angelou says, they won’t remember what you said, but they’ll remember how you made them feel.
This is the quote I come back to on the hardest days. What’s yours? Drop the words that steady you, I’d love to build a list we can all come back to. 🫶