Lost & Found Self-Esteem Program

10/13/2026

What if your mind is always asking, “But what if something goes wrong?”

That is how the Vulnerability to Harm Schema can feel.

You may find yourself overthinking risks, imagining worst-case scenarios, or feeling like danger is always just around the corner.

Even when things are calm, your mind may still be preparing for the next problem.

💜 Healing is not about pretending bad things never happen. It is about learning that every possibility is not a prediction, and every fear is not a warning.

You can be aware without being consumed.
You can be prepared without living in fear.
You can make room for safety, peace, and the present moment.

You do not have to carry every “what if” with you.

Stay tuned as we continue unpacking the emotional luggage we carry through Summer of Schemas.

10/13/2026

Soirée update: The Soirée has been changed to Love ❤️ Month. We realize that the “BER” months can be a hectic season so we wanted to allow the opportunity for more people to join us at this beautiful event. We are postponing the event and the new date will be February 27th, 2027 but you can still register today.

10/12/2026

10/12/2026

Sometimes what feels like a threat changes with the season you’re in.

An experience you once brushed off may feel very different after life gives you new experiences, new information, or new circumstances.

That’s an important part of understanding the Vulnerability to Harm Schema. Our fears do not exist in a vacuum. What we’ve experienced can influence what our minds now recognize as danger.

💜 Sometimes understanding the why behind the fear is part of unpacking what we carry.

Stay tuned for more Summer of Schemas.

10/11/2026

Meet Victor 👋

Victor represents the Vulnerability to Harm Schema, where the mind is constantly preparing for something bad to happen.

It may sound like:

"What if something goes wrong?"
"I need to be prepared just in case."
"Something bad could happen at any moment."

This schema can make everyday situations feel more dangerous than they are, leading to constant worry about illness, accidents, disasters, or unexpected problems.

Sometimes being cautious is helpful. But when fear starts making decisions for you, it can shrink your world.

💜 Healing can look like learning to separate possibility from probability, staying grounded in the present, and challenging the belief that danger is always right around the corner.

You deserve to feel prepared without feeling afraid of everything.

Stay tuned as we continue meeting the schemas and unpacking the emotional luggage we carry.

10/09/2026

What do you carry? For a long time I carried the burden of yearning for love from someone that didn’t love me the way that I loved them. I carried the weight of feeling “different” because my path is not the societal norm. I carried the weight of self doubt because I lacked the confidence to challenge past voices that told me I was not good enough. Today my internal luggage 🧳 is lighter than it was before because I chose to unpack what no longer served me. What I was carrying was no longer useful for my destination. On November 7th, I want you to join me in continuing to unpack things that are no longer useful to your journey. Join me at the Soirée as we lighten the load so we can travel with purpose and ease on life’s journey. Register today. Link in bio.

10/09/2026

What happens when striving for excellence turns into never feeling ...

10/09/2026

Can you escape the pressure to be perfect?

In this full demonstration, we explore the Unrelenting Standards Schema through an escape-room style activity built around impossible expectations, perfectionism, achievement, and the feeling that you always have to do more.

The biggest lesson?

Sometimes the real way out is realizing that perfection was never the key.

This schema can keep you chasing the next goal, fearing mistakes, overworking, and struggling to ever feel finished or satisfied. Over time, that pressure can lead to stress and burnout.

💜 Watch the full demonstration and see if you can solve the clues along the way.

You do not have to keep raising the bar to prove your worth. Sometimes, “done” is enough.

10/08/2026

When “good enough” never feels good enough.

The Unrelenting Standards Schema can keep you chasing the next goal, fearing mistakes, and overlooking how much you’ve already accomplished.

💜 Excellence can motivate you. Perfectionism can exhaust you.

Your worth is not measured by your performance. Progress over perfection.

10/07/2026

✨ An evening to pour back into YOU. ✨

Join Lost & Found with PCARE for the Self-Esteem Soiree, an intentional evening centered on confidence, connection, mental wellness, and rediscovering the value within yourself.

📅 November 7
⏰ 6:00 PM – 8:00 PM
🎟️ Tickets: $65
👗 Attire: Evening Formal

The evening will feature music, refreshments, clinical panelists, meaningful conversation, and speakers including Richelle Smallwood, Dr. Lakeishia Walker, and Kenneth Joyner.

Come dressed for the occasion and ready for an experience designed to remind you that finding yourself again can be just as beautiful as becoming someone new. 💜

Reserve your seat today:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/lost-and-found-self-esteem-soiree-tickets-1996123857191