Good Grief of Kansas, Inc

07/01/2026

WHAT DO WE NEED DURING GRIEF?

Time
Time alone; and time with others whom you trust and who will listen when you need to talk. Months and years of time to feel and understand the feelings that go along with loss.

Rest, Relaxation, Exercise, Nourishment, Diversion
You may need extra amounts of things you needed before. Hot baths, afternoon naps, a trip, a “cause” to work for to help others – any of these may give you a lift. Grief is an exhausting process emotionally. You need to replenish yourself. Follow what feels healing to you and what connects you to the people and things you love.

Security
Try to reduce stress or find help for financial and other stresses in your life. Allow yourself to be close to those you trust. Getting back into a routine helps. You may need to replenish yourself to do things at your own pace.

Hope
You may find hope and comfort from those who have experienced a similar loss. Knowing some things that help them, and realizing that they have recovered and time does help may give you hope that sometime in the future your grief will be less raw and painful.

Caring
Try to allow yourself to accept the expressions of caring from others.

Goals
For a while, it will seem that much of life is without meaning. At times like these, small goals are helpful. Something to look forward to, like playing tennis with a friend next week, a movie tomorrow night, a trip next month helps you get through the time in the immediate future. Living one day at a time is the rule of thumb. At first, don’t be surprised if your enjoyment of these things is not the same. This is normal. As time passes you may need to work on some longer-range goals to give some structure and direction to your life. You may need guidance or counseling to help with this.

Small Pleasures
Do not underestimate the healing effects of small pleasures when you are ready. Sunsets, a walk in the woods, a favorite food – all are small steps towards regaining your pleasure in life itself.

06/30/2026

Ice Cream Social Sunday July 26th 3 PM
Ruben’s Mexican Grill
400 S Emporia Suite 100
Wichita, Ks
Come spend the afternoon with us while enjoying some ice cream with all the toppings and having great conversation with old and new friends.
Bring yourself, your family and friends! Can’t wait to see you!!

04/21/2023

Just an FYI…
Good Grief of Kansas is going through some reconstruction. If you have tried to contact us we should be up and running very soon. Please be patient with us. ❤️

03/28/2023

Good morning!
Who is Good Grief of Kansas? Good Grief is a support organization for those who have lost a loved one. Whether it be from sickness, an accident or even to su***de. When I suffered the loss of my husband and my father three months apart Good Grief was there to help pick up the pieces and get me through. To be able to talk to those who had been there and knew exactly what I was feeling was a real life saver. Now, years later, Good Grief is still very dear to my heart. This organization is not well known but to those who attend our weekly meetings it is a very important part of their daily lives.
That being said Good Grief is now asking for your help to be able to continue our ministry. We operate totally on donations. No one is ever asked to pay a fee to attend our weekly meetings. We only ask for your donations. We ask that you search your heart and if you feel led to help us survive please give a donation.
You are able to donate online at www.goodgriefofkansas.org or you can mail your donation to Good Grief of Kansas 2622 W Central Suite 401B Wichita, KS 67203.
We thank you in advance for your support!

03/22/2023

03/17/2023

MAYBE PEOPLE DON’T WANT TO STOP GRIEVING…

Maybe they are terrified,
that the grief they feel is the last thing they have left of that person.
That if they move on from the grief,
they will lose the final connection.
The only tie.

Maybe people feel united with their loved one,
in the realm just outside our reality.
United in pain and loss.
Banished to a parallel universe where they can both exist together,
still together.

Maybe that’s just too precious to move on from.

So if you are in this place, or you know someone who is,
maybe you can remind them that they are completely connected to their lost one,
in so many more wonderful ways than just the loss.
How can they not be?
Inch for inch the pain they feel equals the love they shared.

At the end of the day, it’s all just love.
And there is no need to banish either.
They can exist side by side,
grief and love.

And they do,

every day.

Written by Donna Ashworth
Art by Muhammad Sala

03/15/2023

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Helping Others Help Themselves Providing grief support, in a group setting, for persons who have lost a loved one through death. Find healing Who We Are Good Grief of Kansas is a self-help nonprofit organization founded in 1993. It is a local bereavement program recognized with national awards as we...

03/15/2023

A Thousand Ways to Grieve

I’m an active griever. By active, I mean that during those first few months following my loss, I devoured every book on grief I could get my hands on. I poured out my agony in my writing, attended grief seminars, went through photo albums and searched the Internet for helpful sites. I cried and fumed and spent long hours talking to anyone who would listen.

My husband simple withdrew and grieved in silence. Though we lived in the same house, grieved the same loss, and shared a life together, we were apart in our grief.

We all have our own ideas on how to grieve and we’re quick to judge those who don’t conform to our way of thinking. When Prince Charles wore a blue suit to Princess Diana’s funeral, he was condemned by the press until it was learned that it was his former wife’s favorite.
A friend of mine was criticized for wearing a pair of red strap, high-heel shoes to her husband’s funeral, the same shoes she wore on the day they met.

If we are to grieve in harmony with those around us, we must give up the notion that grief can be expressed in limited ways. I once thought that grief manifested itself only in tears and depression. But I’ve since found that what others whose visions is greater than mine have accomplished in the name of grief. Candy Lightner, the founder for Mothers Against Drunk Drivers, is a good example.

Resolve to make peace with someone who grieves in ways that seem odd to you. Try expressing your grief in a new way: write a poem or song, start a journal, buy your loved one a gift and send it to someone who would love and appreciate the gesture. Wear something outlandish. Buy a bouquet of balloons in your loved one’s favorite color. Laugh at something that would make your loved one laugh.

Tears, depression, and sadness are all acceptable ways to show grief. So are blue suits and red shoes.

Brownley, Margaret. A Thousand Ways to Grieve, March/April 2000. Reprinted with permission from Bereavement Publications, Inc. 888-604- 4673

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