06/08/2026
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One of the strangest things about talking about marriage online is that the moment I mention physical affection or intimacy with my husband, some people decide I can’t possibly be a Christian woman.
But where did we get that idea?
The Bible never teaches wives to become emotionally distant or physically disconnected from their husbands.
It teaches the opposite.
Paul wrote,
“The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband… Do not deprive one another except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer.”
1 Corinthians 7:3–5
Solomon wrote,
“Rejoice in the wife of your youth… may you ever be intoxicated with her love.”
Proverbs 5:18–19
God didn’t accidentally include an entire book of the Bible celebrating the love between a husband and wife. Song of Solomon reminds us that passion, desire, and delight all have a place inside a covenant marriage.
Somewhere along the way, we’ve acted like holiness and passion can’t exist in the same woman.
I don’t believe that.
I believe the woman who loves Jesus the most should also love her husband well.
I believe a Christian wife can pray over her husband, encourage his faith, respect him, laugh with him, flirt with him, pursue him, and enjoy the gift of intimacy God created for marriage.
Holiness doesn’t erase femininity.
Marriage isn’t just spiritual.
It isn’t just emotional.
God designed it to be spiritual, emotional, and physical.
So no.
Loving Jesus doesn’t make me less passionate about my husband.
It reminds me that every good gift, including the intimacy we share in marriage, comes from Him.
Those two things don’t cancel each other out.