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The Lavender Path Sharing Lavender’s journey with Ataxia Telangiectasia. Help us find cure for A-T

08/13/2026

I’ve gotten this comment a few times since I started advocating publically for my daughter living with a terminal, and progressive disease.

I understand the intention, but you’re clearly missing the point.

My daughter deserves a life free from the grips of a disease that, quite literally, threatens to take her from us. We don’t know when the ball will drop.

And I never want to find out.

Not if I can help it.

So yes…

My daughter is a whole hell of a lot more than a diagnosis. She is incredible in ways I cannot even explain through words.

Anyone who has been privileged with witnessing the magic that Lavender is could tell you this.

So for now, I’ll keep telling everyone I can about Ataxia-Telangiectasia.

Until no family or child must go through this.

“I NEED HELP MAMA” As I’m rushing to finish dinner, Lavender continuously begs me to come help her walk across her stepp...
08/12/2026

“I NEED HELP MAMA”

As I’m rushing to finish dinner, Lavender continuously begs me to come help her walk across her stepping stones. She struggles to walk across them independently because of her wobbles, but she always wants to work on anything that involves balance.

As Lavender has aged, I’ve noticed a shift in her. What can probably be attributed to typical toddler stubbornness, is also simply that Lavender has grown increasingly frustrated by the limits her body imposes on her.

“I CAN’T DO IT”

She throws herself on the floor, and my heart breaks. Something that usually comes easy to a typical 2, almost 3 year old, takes a great deal of effort for her.

I always encourage her to keep trying. I know my knee jerk reaction cannot always be to help her, because I know how important it is that she learns to work with her body… but after so many falls she understandably gets overwhelmed.

I’m slowly seeing the realities of what she’s going to face in a world not built for people like her.

She sees other kids her age do things she struggles to do with so much ease. I try to not helicopter her, but how can you not when your child constantly loses balance, and the playground has big gaps she can fall off of if she back steps? Children pushing past her because she moves slower?

It’s so hard, because all I see is a little girl with so much drive. She puts so much effort into everything she does, and rarely has ever complained. I honestly thought we wouldn’t get here, because she’s lived in a body that works against her for most of her life now, and she’s never really reacted negatively towards it.

If anyone has some words of advice for helping your disabled child through these feelings, please send it my way.

She’s the bravest and most incredible girl I know. I wish I could take this away, but I can’t.

I just hope she always knows her worth is never tied to what her physical body can do. A-T can never take away what makes Lavender who she is. I hope she never loses her stubbornness and her drive.

She is my hero, and I guess my guiding hand will just have to be her sidekick when she needs it. Every hero needs a sidekick, right? ❤️‍🩹

These happy moments are exactly why I fight so hard for children with Ataxia-Telangiectasia. This is why we fight for th...
08/07/2026

These happy moments are exactly why I fight so hard for children with Ataxia-Telangiectasia.

This is why we fight for the research.

These beautiful moments shouldn’t be put on a timeline.

Children with A-T deserve the research that can give them a longer and fuller life.

They are not without hope.

There are researchers around the world working tirelessly for children like mine to have a better outcome.

But the hard part about this is that families like ours have to drive awareness and funding for research.

Organizations like the Ataxia-Telangiectasia A-T Children's Project help give families like ours hope by accelerating the research to make that possible.

We will always have our donation link on our profile that goes directly to the A-T children’s project. We ask that if anyone ever has it in their heart and the financial ability to please consider donating to that incredible organization.

But helping us spread awareness is also an incredible way to help these children.

Because awareness leads to research, and research leads to HOPE.

Thank you to all of you who continue to stand by our side as we fight to give our girl and all those like her a brighter future. 💜

08/05/2026

Another day of A-T awareness month… and this is all I have to say.

Watching your child progress with a deadly neurodegenerative disease is a pain I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. She’s just a little girl who is so incredibly full of life. She deserves so much more than this. 😔

She makes every hard day worth it. I try to keep reminding myself that A-T will never steal the beauty that makes Lavender who she is.

It still doesn’t take away the pain of knowing what’s to come…

But I will always carry that pain for her, and the heavy truths. She deserves to feel unbounded by her diagnosis. A-T will never define who she is.

This is a reminder… All children with A-T are kids just like your own and they deserve to live a free and full life.

This is why we will never stop fighting for a cure.

Most people know Ataxia-Telangiectasia as a rare neurodegenerative disease.But A-T is much bigger than the neurological ...
08/04/2026

Most people know Ataxia-Telangiectasia as a rare neurodegenerative disease.

But A-T is much bigger than the neurological symptoms we see.

A-T is caused by mutations in the ATM gene, which is one of the body’s most important DNA repair genes.

Every day, our cells experience DNA damage. ATM acts like an emergency response system, detecting double strand DNA breaks, helping repair it, and stopping damaged cells from becoming dangerous.

When ATM does not work, DNA damage builds up.

This affects the brain, where vulnerable cells in the cerebellum, particularly the purkinje cells, are lost over time. This leads to progressive changes in balance, coordination, speech, and movement.

It also affects the immune system, because creating antibodies and immune cells requires carefully controlled DNA changes. Without ATM, that process is disrupted.

And then there is cancer.

ATM is one of the genes that protects us from cancer by helping prevent damaged cells from growing out of control. Without a working ATM gene, children with A-T have a much higher risk of cancers (up to 40% go on to develop cancer). Leukemia and lymphoma are the most common as children, and solid tumors as they age become common as well.

But ATM matters beyond A-T.

Parents of children with A-T are usually carriers, meaning they have one working copy and one nonworking copy of ATM. While they do not develop A-T, having only one working copy can still increase the risk of certain cancers, and researchers took notice of this during earlier stages of A-T research.

A-T is not just a neurological disease.

It is a disease of DNA repair.

And understanding how ATM, the protein these children lack, helps explain why A-T affects so many different parts of the body.

08/03/2026

You’re so brave, Jarrah 🫶

Look closely… 👀 You may notice an interesting characteristic that’s often seen in disorders that affect DNA repair.A cou...
08/03/2026

Look closely… 👀

You may notice an interesting characteristic that’s often seen in disorders that affect DNA repair.

A couple of months after Lavender was born, we received her diagnosis of Ataxia-Telangiectasia (A-T). Not long after, we began noticing little brown spots appearing across her body and on her face. The one near the inner corner of her eye was the first we noticed, and over time many of them started to appear.

These spots are called café-au-lait macules.

Having six or more café-au-lait macules is classically associated with conditions that affect DNA repair or cell growth regulation. The condition they’re most commonly linked to is Neurofibromatosis type 1 (NF1), though they can also be seen in several other rare genetic disorders that have issues with DNA repair.

In A-T, the body has difficulty repairing double stranded breaks in DNA because of changes in the ATM gene. While café-au-lait macules aren’t considered one of the hallmark features of A-T, they are reported often enough that many families notice them. It’s something that isn’t talked about very often, but it’s another reminder of how far reaching the effects of this disease can be.

Today is the 1st of August which marks the beginning of A-T awareness month.Our lives were turned upside down 2 1/2 year...
08/01/2026

Today is the 1st of August which marks the beginning of A-T awareness month.

Our lives were turned upside down 2 1/2 years ago when we were given the diagnosis of Ataxia-Telangiectasia for our beautiful daughter Lavender.

We were told we would have to watch our daughter lose many of the abilities that most of us take for granted.

We were also told there were no treatments or cure. That we would have to watch this disease slowly take our child from us.

We are desperate to change this. With enough awareness and research, anything is possible.

Please, take the time to educate yourself and others about this terrible disease. Share our posts, and donate to the Ataxia-Telangiectasia A-T Children's Project if you can.

Children like Lavender deserve more than hope. They deserve the footwork that can make a true difference for all that are living with this cruel disease.

Please stand by us as we share different topics relating to A-T this month, and just know the support we are shown means the world to us.

Thank you for reading. Thank you for following Lavender’s story. Thank you standing beside us as we fight for a better tomorrow.

07/31/2026

If your daily routines involve things like administering meds and tube feeds, attending therapies, and navigating life with your disabled/medically complex child… Just know I see you. You are incredible. You are doing the hard things and I wish you a good nights sleep and a well deserved break 💜🫂


It’s truly so hard to put into words how complicated it is to raise a child with a life limiting disease. Some days I fe...
07/23/2026

It’s truly so hard to put into words how complicated it is to raise a child with a life limiting disease.

Some days I feel like I have it all together. I can manage the appointments, the meds, and I can just enjoy life with her and A-T is just background noise.

Unfortunately, sometimes the pain just comes right back to the surface and I feel like I’m drowning again. Some days it feels hard to even exist holding such a heavy burden.

I look at these photos and I see all I’ve ever wanted. I just don’t understand how we were dealt such an incredibly painful card in life.

I know it’s not the worst. I know she’s still here, and she is SO HAPPY. I know I should be taking in every single moment and not worry about the future, but it’s so hard to always put it to the back of my mind… I was so excited for our life together…

The constant threat of what could come feels so overpowering.

How can one balance hope and the current reality?

Love and grief?

Joy and sorrow?

I don’t know how it’s possible just yet…

I wish I handled it all with grace and ease. I wish I had an optimistic mindset that could drown out every negative thought.

Being a mother has always been my dream in life. Since I was a little girl. Maybe it’s pathetic to say… but I’m truly nothing without my children, and I hate the moments that I feel like I’m failing them because my mind cannot stop the cycle of negative thoughts.

I try so hard to give them the best life but it never feels like enough.

And knowing that my daughter likely has a limited time with us and will likely be gone by the time most are only just starting to experience what should be the “prime” of their life.

How is someone like me supposed to be tasked with giving her a lifetime of experiences in only a fraction of what most are given?

I truly don’t know how I’m going to do it.

I’ll be better tomorrow… I’ll pick myself up and continue trying to be everything she needs. It’s the only option I have even though I often wish I could just give up.

She deserves the world.

F*ck A-T.

F*ck childhood illness.

It’ll never be fair.

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