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02/06/2026

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12/05/2026

Most will not see the connection between rage and power because we live in a society that's completely dissociated from it.

When rage shows up, it's often completely uncontained. This is not what we mean by power.

If rage is not allowed, the energy goes underneath, where it bubbles and boils over. This is represented in the character, The Hulk. Proper rage needs an afterburner, like a Jet. An afterburner is a strong personality structure through which power can be expressed.

Our homework in recovering our rage is to learn to recognize the rage signal when it shows up, and instead of retreating in fear, we courageously step into it.

This may feel messy, but it's far better than the consequences of suppressed rage, where we end up taking it out on the innocent.

This is a complicated topic, DM me for more.

01/05/2026

Many men are unconsciously searching for the depth and intimacy they did not receive as a child.

That often looks like high quantity, shallow relationships, that go nowhere and mean nothing. The pain underneath, however, grows.

Intimacy is a basic human need. We will never find it this way. The ultimate measure of man is to stand naked (emotionally and vulnerably) in front of another.

This takes a different kind of courage that doesn't translate to the physical world. Sure, we may be able to take down an ox, but the terror associated with letting our guard down stays with us until the day we die.

I saw this happen in my grandfather, my biological father, and many others. This is such a tragedy.

We must relearn how to relate to the world with all of who we are.

29/04/2026

Our rage system is completely misunderstood.

As a result of that misunderstanding, it is suppressed.

That energy of rage doesn't just go away, it spews out in inappropriate ways that causes the dysfunction that we associate with it.

For a man, the energy of rage can be likened to the warrior archetype. That archetype must be online to protect the spiritual mission that we came into the world to complete.

Without rage, we have no protector.

Not only that, the warrior inside us records the losses, developing a deeper entrenched identity of shame, smallness, and loss.

But hope is not lost. The fact that we feel that shame reflects the WINS we are meant to have.

LET'S RECLAIM IT TOGETHER!

25/04/2026

Shame is a survival function that evolved to keep us connected. However, it is a double-edged sword.

Its function is to prevent us from being excommunicated from the tribe, its function is to keep us from authentic expression which resulted in one of four things:

Abuse
Abandonment
Rejection
Neglect

So in order to stay connected, the psyche reroutes our energy elsewhere and we experience that as shame. The shame identity takes root in order to prevent us from being abandoned for who we really are.

This is to protect the body from death, which would have been certain in early human evolution. Without connection, as tribal animals, death was certain.

There was a time where this mechanism was useful and made sense, albeit brutal and unforgiving.

We've finally reached a time where we can begin to move beyond it into a new kind of being. One that remembers who we've always been. Take the leap and find yourself there.

22/04/2026

The cause of all of our "Sins" is a lack of structure. The soul needs structure through which it can express itself.

If we've been traumatized, that architectural development has been severely hindered.

We need to build the architecture to hold the signals and energy from the soul... The energy of the saw is found in our emotion, intuition, and creativity.

Reject the abstractions and diagnoses, for they offer you nothing. You are wholeness looking for itself.

20/04/2026

Most of us will inadvertently avoid the very thing we're looking for. We substitutes that we can control because they feel safer.

The journey to peace and freedom feels risky because we have to go toward the very place where we lost it in the first place.

It was never meant to be done alone.

15/04/2026

There is a solution emerging, and it involves community and connection.

You must play your part. Can you remember what that is? It will involve others. Do you recognize them around you?

We hope to be a part of this global effort.

14/04/2026

Join the round table this evening! 6:30pm. Link in Bio.

16/03/2026

Not all anger is wrong.

More and more, our anger is under attack. We have an entire generation of men growing up completely unable to be angry. That energy goes within and wreaks havoc on our inner world and body.

We need to open that conduit so that it can serve its function. Join us tonight to explore this topic.

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