Them Before Us

Them Before Us Them Before Us advocates for adults doing hard things so children don't have to. We aren’t professional writers or pedigreed activists.

There’s nothing exceptional about the people behind Them Before Us. We are just people who think that children deserve to be the primary consideration when considering what is best for, well, children. We are ordinary people willing to state the cost that children, as well as society, pay when children are deprived of their fundamental needs. We believe that in discussions on marriage and family

structure, the voices of children should take center stage. That's why every article, story, and study will center, not around adult desires, but around children's rights. We are ordinary people who have decided that, regardless of being labeled *insert insulting dismissive name calling here*, telling the truth about children is more important than our comfort. It doesn’t take expensive collegiate letters after your name to fight for children’s rights, it requires that you possess something infinitely more valuable. It requires courage. Courage to state the obvious- children need their mother and father. If only courage were as easy to obtain as a degree.

"I work in labor and delivery. I've seen what surrogacy does to mothers and babies with my own eyes. I've worked this un...
06/04/2026

"I work in labor and delivery. I've seen what surrogacy does to mothers and babies with my own eyes. I've worked this unit long enough to have watched our culture change in real time. These two stories, drawn from different seasons of my career, say everything about that change. I don't think you'll need me to explain the double standard; you'll see it."

https://x.com/ThemBeforeUs/status/2062294976240009233?s=20

Gay man admits that surrogacy and Solo or same-sex partnered men procuring children is based on the belief that women ar...
05/15/2026

Gay man admits that surrogacy and Solo or same-sex partnered men procuring children is based on the belief that women are irrelevant:

"Tbh, they just don't like the idea that mother and wife can be irrelevant to human society under certain circumstances, while few have the balls to admit it."

"I just want to start this with saying I love my dads so much, they’ve always been good to me and I’m really close with ...
05/13/2026

"I just want to start this with saying I love my dads so much, they’ve always been good to me and I’m really close with both of them. But I also can’t help this feeling of resentment I’ve felt for so long and I’m not sure it’s anything I can even vocalize to them so it just stews inside of me.

They had me via surrogate who is my biological mom but she wanted no part in my upbringing and they didn’t really want that either."

"I Resent My Gay Parents"

Why is it that “mama” (or some version of it) shows up in nearly every language on earth? Chinese, Arabic, and Spanish. ...
05/10/2026

Why is it that “mama” (or some version of it) shows up in nearly every language on earth? Chinese, Arabic, and Spanish. Cultures separated by continents, histories, and entirely different linguistic families, and yet they all landed on the same sound for the same person? “Ma” is one of the very first sounds a baby can make. It’s the natural position of the mouth during nursing. Long before a child understands words, he forms that sound. And who answers? Across time, across cultures, across civilizations, it is the woman who carried him, the woman whose body he knows. Humanity didn’t invent “mama.” We recognized it. - Katy Faust

https://thembeforeus.substack.com/p/we-celebrate-mothers-were-also-erasing

Every child deserves their mom. Not a replacement. Not a substitute. Her mom.We're joining Greater Than all week to cele...
05/03/2026

Every child deserves their mom. Not a replacement. Not a substitute. Her mom.

We're joining Greater Than all week to celebrate exactly that.

Follow along, sign up at http://greaterthancampaign.com, and don't miss what's coming.

04/27/2026

From our latest drop for our VIP subscribers on our substack. Dr. Tara Sander Lee is a PHd. and a scientist with expertise in cell and molecular biology to discuss the ethical and scientific concerns surrounding IVF and the lack of accountability in the IVF industry. With firsthand experience in both medical research and personal struggles with infertility, Dr. Sander Lee shares her perspective on the high failure rates, health risks for women, and the fate of IVF embryos.

Every episode features , , and breaking down the interview. Don't miss out!

Thembeforeus.substack.com

What's pulling Gen Z men toward toxic influencers, and how do we redirect that energy toward something that actually mat...
04/24/2026

What's pulling Gen Z men toward toxic influencers, and how do we redirect that energy toward something that actually matters?

Jenn and MAVEN's Micah Kunkle dig into it.

1 like. "Them Before Us #103 | Are Gen Z Men Having a "Crisis of Purpose"? | Micah Kunkle"

Katy Faust was the first guest on an "investigative LGBT podcast." It's good to go on with potentially hostile/unfriendl...
04/24/2026

Katy Faust was the first guest on an "investigative LGBT podcast." It's good to go on with potentially hostile/unfriendly sources and reach new audiences. How do you think it went?

41 likes, 26 comments. "Meet Katy Faust, the New Leader Coming for Gay Marriage"

With the recent viral videos showing children purchased with third-party reproduction (egg + surrogate), it's important ...
04/21/2026

With the recent viral videos showing children purchased with third-party reproduction (egg + surrogate), it's important to read the stories of the children born of surrogates that can speak out.

's story featured on our substack today.

Thembeforeus.substack.com

All aboard! We're overturning Obergefell.
04/21/2026

All aboard! We're overturning Obergefell.

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