Enkapwa with La Tisha

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Enkapwa with La Tisha Founder of EnKapwa
Soul guide blending somatic wisdom, ancestral ritual, and relational truth.

I help sensitive, creative beings reclaim wholeness and come home to themselves.

09/25/2026

I thought wealth meant earning enough that I would never have to feel scarcity again.

What I did not realize was that when you grow up in financial scarcity, you can latch onto productivity, achievement, and independence as your way out, only to discover that they can become another form of captivity.

This is part of why I care so deeply about decolonizing mental health.

Because sometimes the problem is not that you need to become more resilient, more regulated, or more productive.

Sometimes you need to question the life, system, or definition of success you were taught to survive inside of.

True wealth, as I have come to understand it, is having enough internal regulation, relational reciprocity, material security, and existential freedom that I no longer have to continually extract from myself just to sustain my life.

09/24/2026

Wealth can also look like sleeping in without an alarm.

Waking up slowly. Going back to sleep because your body is still asking for rest. Making breakfast at home. Pouring coffee. Handling a few light admin things without letting productivity consume the entire morning.

Then looking outside and catching deer foraging on your property.

I think we are taught to recognize wealth mostly through accumulation, income, status, ownership, and visible success. And of course, financial security matters. Having enough money to breathe matters. Having your bills covered matters.

But I am also learning to recognize the quieter forms of wealth.

Time that is not completely spoken for.
A home that feels peaceful enough to linger in.
Food in the kitchen.
Coffee made slowly.
A body allowed to rest.
A morning that does not begin in urgency.
Enough presence to notice what is happening outside your window.

There is a kind of richness in having room to live your life while you are living it.

Not rushing past every ordinary moment in pursuit of the next milestone.

Not needing every day to be impressive.

Sometimes wealth is simply having enough space, safety, and time to notice that something beautiful is happening right in front of you.

09/13/2026

There comes a point when belonging somewhere costs too much of who you are.

Sometimes we stay because we have been taught that belonging is something we earn through accommodation. Through loyalty. Through silence. Through making ourselves easier to hold.

We learn to shape-shift around systems, families, relationships, and communities that only know how to receive us in fragments.

So we stay connected, but disconnected from ourselves.

EnKapwa asks us to look at belonging differently.

Not as proximity at any cost.
Not as access.
Not as being included in spaces that require our self-erasure.

But as relationship that allows us to remain whole.

Because real belonging should not require you to abandon your voice, override your body, betray your values, or become smaller so other people can remain comfortable.

And sometimes the most relational thing you can do is leave.

Not because connection does not matter.

Because it does.

But connection without selfhood is not belonging.
It is adaptation.

There are places we may love that cannot hold who we are becoming. There are people we may care for deeply who only know how to relate to the version of us who knew how to survive them.

Leaving those spaces can feel like exile before it feels like freedom.

But perhaps the work is not simply finding somewhere else to belong.

Perhaps it is learning that you are allowed to participate in relationship without disappearing inside of it.

To remain connected to others while also remaining connected to yourself.

That, too, is kapwa.

Not self-sacrifice in the name of togetherness.

A shared humanity spacious enough for both I and we.

09/12/2026

If silence cost me access, I’m okay with not being in the room.

And I for sure won’t settle for proximity.

Being close to power, influence, opportunity, or belonging means very little if I have to shrink, perform, or silence myself to stay near it.

I’d rather lose the room than lose myself trying to remain welcome in it.

09/07/2026

There is something deeply regulating about creating little rituals inside your own home.

A place for the morning coffee.
The tea you reach for when you need to soften.
The mug that somehow makes everything taste better.
The seasonal touches that quietly mark the passing of time.

I think sometimes we imagine “healing” has to look profound.

But sometimes it looks like making your home a place you actually want to return to.

Not perfectly styled.
Not curated for anyone else.
Just lived in. Personal. A little whimsical. Full of evidence that somebody has been paying attention to what brings them joy.

This little coffee and tea corner has evolved over the years, and I love that about it.

A reminder that sanctuary isn’t always somewhere we escape to.

Sometimes, we build it exactly where we are.

EnKapwa | tending to the ordinary as sacred.

08/31/2026

When you’ve entered your villain era because you finally developed a sense of self, learned how to hold a compassionate internal dialogue, and started practicing the power of no.

It’s interesting how quickly self-respect can get mistaken for selfishness when people were accustomed to your over-functioning.

When you stop explaining every decision, stop volunteering for emotional labor you never agreed to, stop making yourself smaller to keep the peace, and stop confusing guilt with responsibility, the version of you that was easiest to access starts disappearing.

And not everyone will celebrate that.

Some people will call you distant.
Some will call you difficult.
Some will say you’ve changed.

They’re right.

You did.

You learned that compassion does not require self-abandonment.
You learned that understanding someone’s feelings does not mean becoming responsible for them.
You learned that “no” can be a complete sentence without being cruel.
You learned that the voice inside your own head deserves to sound less like a courtroom and more like a home.

So maybe this is the villain era.

Not because you became cold.

Because you stopped requiring yourself to bleed in order to prove you were kind.

08/26/2026

Decolonizing mental health is not simply about adding culture into an existing psychological framework.

It is about deconstructing the framework itself.

Because if the foundation of modern psychology is largely Eurocentric, simply adding Filipino, Black, Indigenous, Asian, or other cultural perspectives still leaves Western psychology positioned as the default and everyone else as the adaptation.

The deeper work asks us to examine the assumptions we were taught as universal.

Whose definition of health are we using?

Whose understanding of the self?

Whose definition of independence?

Whose expectations around family, boundaries, emotional expression, and relationships?

Whose behaviors were studied, categorized, and eventually turned into theories about what it means to be a healthy human being?

Decolonizing psychology means recognizing that Western psychology is also cultural psychology.

It simply had the institutional power to name itself psychology.

And perhaps the work is not to fit ourselves more comfortably inside that framework.

Perhaps the work is to discern what is useful, what needs to be challenged, what was never meant to be universal, and what knowledge we need to recover from the cultures psychology once positioned outside of its center.

You’ve Always Been Strong. I Figured You Got It.There are sentences people say that probably leave their mouth casually ...
08/25/2026

You’ve Always Been Strong. I Figured You Got It.

There are sentences people say that probably leave their mouth casually and then live inside someone else for years.

“You’re strong” is supposed to sound like admiration.

But sometimes it is not admiration at all.

Sometimes it is an explanation for why no one came.

Why no one checked.

Why no one noticed the exhaustion underneath the competence.

Why everyone kept placing more into someone’s hands because they had never watched them drop anything before.

Strength can become a dangerous identity when the people around you begin treating your capacity as consent.

They stop asking whether you have room.

They stop noticing how much effort it takes.

They confuse your ability to survive something with an indication that you should have had to survive it alone.

And perhaps one of the loneliest realizations is discovering that the people closest to you saw your strength and interpreted it not as:

“How can I help you carry this?”

but as:

“They’ll figure it out.”

There is a difference between honoring someone’s strength and exploiting their relationship with responsibility.

A strong person still deserves tenderness.

A capable person still deserves consideration.

The person who always figures it out still deserves someone willing to say:

“You don’t have to figure this one out by yourself.”

Because strength was never supposed to mean abandonment with a compliment attached to it.

08/20/2026

Sometimes “this is just who I am” is actually shorthand for “this is who I had to become.”

Maybe you became hyper-independent because depending on people felt unsafe.

Maybe you became the peacemaker because conflict came with consequences.

Maybe you learned to over-explain because being misunderstood felt dangerous.

Maybe you became highly productive because rest was never something you learned to trust.

Maybe you became agreeable, accommodating, emotionally self-contained, or constantly alert because those traits helped you stay connected, avoid rejection, or protect yourself.

That does not mean none of it is really you.

It means some parts of your personality may have been shaped, amplified, or organized around survival.

The work is not necessarily to become a completely different person.

It is to get curious about what is authentic, what is conditioned, and what you still consciously choose now that you have more options.

A helpful question can be:

If I felt safe enough to choose differently, would I still choose this?

Sometimes healing is not discovering a “new you.”

Sometimes it is realizing you finally get to decide which parts of you still belong at the table that you are building and in the life that you are creating.

08/19/2026

The era of proving that you can carry it all is over.

You already proved it.

Repeatedly.

You proved you could be the dependable one.
The capable one.
The one who figures it out.
The one who holds everyone together while quietly rearranging your own needs around what everyone else requires.

You proved you could survive hard seasons.
Work through exhaustion.
Make something out of very little.
Keep moving even when there wasn’t much left in the tank.

But somewhere along the way, survival can become an identity.

And being able to carry everything can quietly turn into believing you’re supposed to.

That’s the part worth releasing.

Because capacity is not obligation.

Strength does not require constant demonstration.

You do not have to keep creating difficult circumstances just to remind yourself that you can overcome them.

Maybe the next chapter isn’t about becoming stronger.

Maybe it’s about becoming more discerning about what deserves your strength in the first place.

More willing to receive help.
More willing to leave something undone.
More willing to disappoint expectations that were built around an older version of you.
More willing to believe that ease does not have to be earned through exhaustion.

There is nothing left to prove.

The question now is not:

Can I carry this?

You probably can.

The better question might be:

Do I still want to?

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