03/31/2024
I came across this article this morning they struck me so deeply. I read every word, which for a “skimmer” is quite a big deal. I often say the wrong thing, because I have made a promise to show up when others won’t or can’t; when it’s scary or hard. Always well intended, often with intent to distract or entertain, I say the wrong thing. As I work toward being trauma-informed, toward meeting people where they are at, toward always assuming positive intent, this article has helped me tremendously, in the mere moments it took me to read every word.
We ALL have gone through/will go through and/or love someone someone who has/will gone through monumental events. We want to show up, we want to show love and support, we want to be there, but don’t know how. This will help you show up, and show up in a positive way:
https://www.latimes.com/nation/la-oe-0407-silk-ring-theory-20130407-story.html?fbclid=IwAR1HAXLYPMF_UPQaWXZr8EB8WNzpQ_U90vy9ShWKz9G5gC6FNmYBKYlpw7w_aem_AWfWgMfHeSne-Xr6D2yeuGhKI1Q_ngprKEDsSROu3KhJd3Ev4m0prelh8WbfYzv_ho8
It works in all kinds of crises -- medical, legal, even existential. It's the 'Ring Theory' of kvetching. The first rule is comfort in, dump out.
