02/12/2026
Days 43-46 my updates woth edits
April 26th
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Overnight Andrew did really well. He was able to come way down on pressor support, the bleeds weren’t bad at all, only one spot, no fever. And his white blood cell count came down to 19! We are in the teens right now!! 🙌🏼
During the day they decided to put him on back up vent support and he went 7 hours, then was put on the trachea collar, which would be completely breathing on his own. He went a little over an hour, then had to have his bedding changed and some bleeding addressed and went back on the vent. But it was a really great lung day!
Andrew also lifted his hand off of the bed a couple times today, which was great as well!
There’s two spots that are still wanting to bleed but nowhere near where we were this past week.
Please continue to pray that the infection clears, his bleeding is minimal, the dialysis is doing its job, and he continues to heal. He is truly strong and resilient. We are so thankful and proud of him. Thank you everyone for continuing to pray and support him. ♥️♥️
-this was a day we had a good day. A measured good day based on results we could see on paper and in real life. These were the days we hung on to. The days that made me fee like impossibility sat next to reality. It was a day where i felt tall. And if you know wha that feels like, you know how that feels in life.
April 27th�
Overnight was pretty good for Andrew. He had a little bit of back and forth with his blood pressure and one area that was bleeding but nothing terrible.
During the day, Andrew was on a low dose of blood pressure medication, but when they tried to put him on back up vent support his blood pressure shot up and he seemed to be panicking, so they put him back on full support.
His blood level stayed pretty good all day, but they did end up giving him one unit of blood and two units of platelets. The best news is that his white blood cell count is down to 18.5!
Movement wise, he was turning his head and lifting it slightly and also pulling up his left leg a bit.
Overall, Andrew was able relax and I put the tv on for the first time in 6 weeks. He seemed to be watching parks and recreation as well as the office, in between dozing off.
Tentatively, surgery is scheduled for Wednesday but just depends on what Dr. Van Vleit sees in the morning. It’s a balancing act of cleaning off the infected cadaver vs putting him in a situation where he could have blood loss.
Please continue to pray for his bleeding, infection, and overall healing - mind and body. Thank you for the continued support and prayers!! ♥️
Another day where hope was high. Have you ever met this level of hope? Have you ever felt likyou were sailing in a storm and broke through the clouds? Have you ever felt hope and sat in the warmth of its glow? This is what that day felt like. I knew all of the card laid on the table. I knew the odds stacked against us, but i had hope. Hope. What an awful enemy.
April 28th
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Overnight was pretty good for Andrew. He was able to come off his blood pressure medication (and stay off all day - as of writing this). He had a couple little spots bleed, but they stopped quickly. He had some movement of his legs but not really responsive to commands.
This morning Dr Van Vleit said he would like to do more skin grafting on his right arm and possibly chest. But he’s a little concerned with Andrew’s nutrition so we are making changes for that. This is important for him to start absorbing the nutrition because it will help him heal. We are praying the C. diff starts to clear, as that has been hindering his ability to absorb and digest food more effectively.
They also put Andrew on the back up vent support and he went all day, very easily. They are going to put him back on full vent at 8:30pm which will be 12 hours on, and hopefully tomorrow back off at 8:30am.
Andrew moved a lot more today, turning and lifting his head, moving his right shoulder, his legs and hips, as well as his left arm. Just more movement on the whole. Which is so great!
Please keep praying for his bleeds, his nutrition, the infection, and his digestion. We need those areas to continue to improve♥️ Andrew is amazing and so incredibly strong. We are so lucky to see his strength shining through. ♥️
-To go back to this. To go back to these days. I remeber feeling the comfort of a pattern, knowing with a smaller level of uncertainty. I knew the faces of those around me, knew bits qnd pieces of their life. I knew who had children, boyfriends, pets, children. I spoke with them about their homelives. I started knowing these people taking careof my son. Keeping my son alive . Hope.
April 29th
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Overnight Andrew did well, he stayed off blood pressure support, somewhat helped while they were changing his bedding (lifting his head, arms and legs slightly), and seemed relaxed.
This morning, they decided to do a 3 hour dialysis, which just started around 4:50pm, to help clean his blood since he hasn’t produced urine. On paper, his numbers look great, which is really good. They also put him on the backup vent support (at a lower level than yesterday- today at 10, yesterday at 12) with the plan of doing another 12 hours. As of posting that is still the plan.
During rounds this morning, Dr. Van Vleit said his plan for surgery tomorrow is to skin graft his right arm and chest, provided his left arm looks good and doesn’t appear to be disintegrating due to his infection. He said he would also clean up the other areas, face, neck, legs, abdomen and part of his back on the right, and apply new cadaver. His concern for his legs is that they have had so many debridements, there’s really not a lot left which down the line, if they don’t heal, could be another conversation. After checking what he meant by that, would be additional amputations. We are PRAYING that is not the case. He also said, and I quote, “If I can close his chest, he lives.” Which are words we have not heard spoken in 45 days. So, I am begging everyone to please send some extra prayers. This all depends on how his left arm is healing. We are also praying the C. diff clears. This is a huge complication for his body’s ability to absorb the nutrients he desperately needs. He is back down to 107lbs. His body needs the nutrition to heal.
As far as responsiveness today, he’s been turning his head, tracking with his eyes, flipping his right arm palm down. His right arm is in what they call airplane mode, to help the joint and tendons from getting too stiff, but he does not like his palm up. He will actually flip it over and fight against turning it back. He was also watching tv and there was a part with fire and his blood pressure shot up to 171/90. After I turned it off, he came back down to normal. And while that was sad, it was also positive in a way, because Andrew reacted to it.
My biggest ask is the prayers for the C. diff to clear, his skin graft to be healing, and surgery tomorrow to go well. Pray that he doesn’t bleed too much, that he can have the grafts placed on his right arm and chest. And that this round of dialysis helps his kidney function start.
Thank you in advance for those prayers and sticking with us on this journey. Most of the time I feel a bit numb to what’s happening. And I think it’s ok for now because otherwise the anger and resentment towards the driver who caused all of this would be unbearable. I can’t hold that animosity in my heart while asking God for a miracle. And I’m trying very hard to just live in each day of this journey being thankful to God, the doctors and nurses, and those who continue to keep us in their prayers and supporting us these last 6 and a half weeks. Some days are easier than others, and I know in my logical brain that justice will be served in some form, and I need to just focus on Andrew. But I’m only human.
Thank you again for everything. ♥️ I’m posting early, because I’m staying until late while dialysis runs and don’t want to forget.
-again what I can add is hope. I still lubed and existed in hope. Now I live in February of a new year that my son didn’t live in, but i remember the hope. That’s also why I hate and don’t use the word hope anymore. Because hope doesn’t live in my reality.
