11/20/2025
Raise your hand if you get the ick for your life when things are going suspiciously too well 👀🤨
This is not the case for everyone who struggles with quitting their jobs or leaving their partner during luteal phase! There are many things that can contribute to these experiences.
This is just one of many complex reasons why someone might struggle with stability or do things that hurt them.
Luckily, we have a whole directory of professionals who can help you work through this.
“When you realize in therapy you have don’t have to work on tolerating pain/trauma…
you have to work on tolerating calm.
You’ve gotten so used to chaos that you struggle feeling safe during moments of stability, and that’s why you self-sabotage so often during luteal phase.
Instead of first learning how to be present with your feelings, you had to learn how to survive. Your feelings came second. It wasn’t about emotional regulation, it was about keeping yourself safe. Chaos became the norm and you learned how to handle that really, really well.
So now, stability feels scary and foreign, and being mindful during moments of calm feels, ironically, destabilizing. Stability feels boring and you get a sense something is still “wrong”. So it becomes easier to create chaos than to feel stable.”