Kansas Association of Protective Parents

03/11/2022

02/20/2022

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02/17/2022

"Before I ever stepped foot into a family courtroom, my now ex-husband had already been convicted of s*xually abusing a minor. He already was a Tier III registered s*x offender for life. It was determined that for the safety of society as a whole, his photo, address and vehicle description needed to be posted publicly for all to see for the rest of his life. None of that outweighed his “parental rights.” He was granted access to my children, under the presumption that although he had admittedly s*xually abused one child, he was not necessarily a danger to all children. It was easier to get him convicted of his crime than it was to keep him away from my children afterward. His conviction happened quietly. Behind closed doors. Just a few months after he was indicted on felony child s*x abuse charges. But the family court battle? Years. Thousands of documents. Hours upon hours of testimony. Tens of thousands of dollars. Our lives picked apart. Privacy destroyed. Even though the Maryland State Police had identified me as being in such clear and present danger that they granted me a completely unrestricted concealed-carry gun permit. All the while, I’m court-ordered to meet the convicted abuser every Friday night for dinner so he can see “his” children."

There’s no guide to follow, no map on how to escape these dark woods. Do my daughters and I make it out of this?

02/17/2022

Father with DV record violated a protective order and then allegedly killed his child in a fire set in Shawnee, Kansas. Another child lost to an abusive father.

https://www.kmbc.com/article/suspect-charged-with-arson-murder-infant-death/39096192 #

Nicholas Ecker, 28, faced a judge for the second day in a row, facing multiple charges

01/20/2022

"In a scathing letter to the Massachusetts Trial Courts, New Hampshire Governor Chris Sununu expressed ‘grave concerns’ about a Massachusetts’ judge’s decision to place Harmony Montgomery, a 7-year-old girl whose disappearance went unreported for two years, in the custody of her father, Adam Montgomery, a Manchester resident with a long criminal history."
https://www.boston25news.com/news/local/nh-gov-slams-massachusetts-handling-missing-girl-harmony-montgomery/KLOUDZCJEVGI3KF6CBQQ4CMMEM/?fbclid=IwAR1SmIRCipzBWesYjv-f3Ihp3cQTTXPwmOTof2XjX8gPHWRc_DeNEdAKKWM

New Hampshire Governor Chris Sununu says he has ‘grave concerns’ about a Massachusetts’ court decision to place Harmony Montgomery, a 7-year-old girl missing for two years, in the custody of her father, Adam Montgomery in Manchester.

01/20/2022

"Guardians ad litem, custody evaluators, and judges often mistakenly identify custody disputes involving a domestic abuser as “high conflict divorces.” The term “high conflict divorce” suggests symmetrical and parallel escalation from both parties. However, in most “high conflict” divorce cases, what we are really seeing is one “party who is drawn towards, rather than away from, conflict”

These cases are marked by one “high conflict litigant” who exerts power by dragging their ex into court repeatedly. In other words, an abuser creates a series of court complications to make a divorce or custody case impossible to resolve, so it continues for years. The problem is not the couple—the problem is one member of the couple and should be handled accordingly. The abuser wants the case to drag on, relishing these opportunities to continue to make the ex-partner suffer."
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-chains/202201/its-post-separation-legal-abuse-not-high-conflict-divorce?fbclid=IwAR1efPVTZDR7tydIMx2VB61bQBrVMhGzLvdQDKb8tI9gdhJ8RowvJd6gbWw

Abusers torment their exes through the courts in a form of coercive control.

01/14/2022

KAPP members say financial abuse is one of the most common issues in their cases and is never recognized by court professionals or the judges as abuse.

Post Separation Abuse

FINANCIAL ABUSE

• Withholds, mismanages, or delays support payments and court-ordered reimbursements
• Blocks access to bank accounts and other financial resources
• Interferes or jeopardizes job interviews, employment, or career advancement of the safe parent
• Misuse of litigation to disadvantage the safe parent financially

For more information visit onemomsbattle.com

01/13/2022

Another tragic death of a mother and child in Kansas this week at the hands of the father who was separated from the mother. How many more will it take?

https://www.kwch.com/2022/01/09/child-among-double-murder-suicide-victims-western-kansas/?fbclid=IwAR0r4kdD59cDMGkumV-POCt8vFbx0-0S8ErRQ8ItBTmBiuxWC9H8IrFDqzI

The Kansas Bureau of Investigation (KBI), the Larned Police Department, and the Pawnee County Sheriff’s Office are investigating after three individuals were found shot and killed on Saturday night.

01/11/2022

We need to . There is no reasonable way to hold corrupt and non-diligent court professionals accountable for their dangerous and poor decisions. Look at the fight this Missouri mother continues:

https://stlrecord.com/stories/618004156-divorced-mom-vows-to-fight-the-court-of-appeals-dismissal-of-her-fraud-lawsuit-against-family-court-insiders?fbclid=IwAR3Bq7iWYhlyAZ_cfHyHwWEVYCRXRqwRqKgjGqGRNQ6LxJC8anXREKUH2KY

A Missouri Court of Appeals has dismissed a divorced mother’s lawsuit against family court insiders whom she alleges engaged in constructive fraud when removing her two children from her custody

01/11/2022

Yes.

Ever felt like this?

01/06/2022

A great blog post by Lundy Bancroft that will resonate with many protective mothers.

I’ve promised to write a second part to my post about the difference between narcissists and abusers. But I decided that first I need to explain a number of key concepts regarding severe self-centeredness, also called “narcissism” or “personality disorder.” So that’s what I’m exploring...

12/11/2021

FacebookTwitterRedditLinkedInEmailNow the cat is out of the bag. Judge Thomas Moukawsher has admitted that Connecticut Family Court is corrupt as all hell, a stinking cesspool that exists only to serve bottom-feeding lawyers and mental health therapists who plunder parents’ assets in custody dispu...