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Open Talk AITA, 11433 Hatteras Street, North Hollywood, CA (2026)

06/19/2026

AITA for taking my daughter's v**e and getting angry when I found out she'd been va**ng?

My daughter is 15 years old.

Yesterday, I found out she has apparently been va**ng for about 3 years without me knowing.

I was cleaning her room when I found a v**e hidden away.

Honestly, I was shocked and angry.

When she got home, I confronted her about it and ended up raising my voice.

She immediately got upset, started crying, and went to her room.

I took the v**e because I didn't want her using it anymore.

Later, I told my mom what happened, expecting her to understand why I reacted the way I did.

Instead, she told me I handled it completely wrong.

She thinks I should have left the v**e where I found it and had a calm conversation with my daughter about the dangers of va**ng and ni****ne.

We ended up arguing about it on the phone before I finally hung up.

From my point of view, I don't think a teenager should get to keep using something like that while we slowly discuss it.

I felt like taking it away immediately was the right thing to do.

At the same time, I'm wondering if I let my anger get the best of me when I confronted her.

Was I wrong for taking the v**e and reacting the way I did?

AITA?

06/19/2026

AITA for stopping cooking for my boyfriend?

I (24F) have been having an ongoing issue with my boyfriend (25M) when it comes to food.

For a long time, I cooked meals for him because he says healthy homemade food helps him feel better and stay on track with his health goals.

The problem is that no matter what I make, he always finds something wrong with it.

Sometimes it's too much seasoning.

Sometimes it's not enough.

Sometimes it's overcooked.

Sometimes it's undercooked.

I honestly tried my best to adjust and improve based on his feedback, but it felt like nothing was ever good enough.

After a while, I got tired of constantly being criticized, so I stopped cooking for him.

I told him he could cook for himself or order food if he preferred.

That's when he told me he can't cook for himself right now because of his mental health and that he needs homemade meals to help him get into a better place.

He also told me it's not normal to be in a relationship, living with a woman, and still have to order food every day because she can't cook meals he enjoys.

That comment really bothered me.

Another thing is that I usually pay for the groceries myself, even when I'm cooking food that I don't eat. I'm currently following my own diet plan, so a lot of the meals I make are specifically for him.

What makes this even more confusing is that he's the only person who has ever complained about my cooking.

My family loves my food.

My friends love my food.

People regularly ask me to cook for them again.

But according to him, I can never seem to get it right.

Recently, he even suggested that this issue is serious enough to make him question the relationship.

Now I'm wondering if I'm being unreasonable for stepping back after trying so hard.

AITA?

06/18/2026

AITA because my wife takes almost all of the leftovers?

My wife and I have a son, and we usually make enough food to have leftovers for the next day.

The problem is that whenever there are leftovers, my wife takes almost all of them to work.

And I mean ALL of them.

For example, last night we made about 20 burritos.

I ate 3.

My wife ate 2.

My son ate 1.

That should have left plenty for everyone.

But this morning she packed up 10 burritos and took them to work.

That left me with 3 and my son with 1.

There's no way she's eating all of that herself. I'm pretty sure she's sharing it with coworkers.

The thing is, this isn't a one-time thing.

It happens all the time.

I've talked to her about it multiple times and explained that it bothers me. Every time, she either brushes it off or comes up with an excuse.

I'm not saying she can't take leftovers for lunch.

I just don't understand why she has to take almost everything.

We have a family at home that will absolutely eat it.

To me, it seems reasonable to take enough food for yourself and leave some behind for everyone else.

Instead, it feels like I have to rush to get food before she packs it all up for work the next day.

Maybe I'm overreacting, but it's starting to get frustrating.

AITA?

06/18/2026

AITAH for not letting my brother and SIL use my Lexus when they visit New York?

My brother and his wife are coming to New York soon.

Since my SIL is originally from here, they're planning to spend a lot of time driving around the state visiting family and friends. They also have a camping trip planned while they're here.

A few months ago they asked if they could borrow my 2006 Scion during their visit.

I barely drive it anymore because I recently got a Lexus, so I said yes. The Scion isn't pretty, but it runs perfectly fine and gets me where I need to go.

They seemed hesitant after I jokingly called it a "be**er," even though they were the ones who asked to use it.

About a month later, my SIL asked if they could borrow the Lexus instead.

I told her no.

The Lexus is my daily driver, and I'm not comfortable having it driven all over the state for weeks. I also pointed out that they've been involved in multiple accidents over the past several years, and I don't want to take that risk.

For some background, my parents recently gave me the Lexus and transferred the title into my name.

I'm extremely grateful for it.

I've spent years struggling financially while working internships and multiple jobs. This is the first vehicle I've ever owned in my own name.

The Lexus is also much more reliable for where I live. The roads here can be rough, especially during the winter, and I depend on it every day.

The Scion is still available for them to use.

I never took that offer back.

The problem started during a family call this week.

I was talking about some stress related to registering the Lexus and handling all the paperwork.

My older sister jumped in and said, "I don't feel bad for you. They gave you a free car. Actually, two."

That caught me off guard.

For context, she originally drove the Scion for years before it eventually came to me.

Then my SIL brought up the Lexus again and asked if they could use it during their trip.

I said no.

Again.

This time I was more direct about it.

Both my sister and SIL told me I was being rude.

I asked how.

Their answer was basically that letting them use it would be "the right thing to do."

At that point I told them the Lexus belongs to me now, not the whole family.

I said they were still welcome to use the Scion, but the Lexus was not up for discussion.

Things got awkward after that and the mood of the call completely changed.

Now I'm wondering if I was being unreasonable.

The way I see it, I offered them a working vehicle. I just don't want to loan out the one I depend on every day.

AITAH?

06/18/2026

AITA for telling a guy to mind his own business at the gym and then reporting him?

I (29M) go to the gym a few times a week with a friend of mine, Dave (27).

Dave prefers when I go with them because they've had some uncomfortable experiences at gyms before and feel safer when someone they trust is around.

Depending on the workout, we don't always shower at the gym. Sometimes we do, sometimes we don't.

Yesterday after our workout, I was planning to shower at home, but Dave wanted to use the gym shower. Since they didn't feel comfortable being alone, they asked me to wait for them in the locker room while they showered.

So I grabbed a book and sat on a bench facing the hallway leading to the showers. I wasn't looking at anyone, wasn't bothering anyone, and was just waiting.

About ten minutes later, another gym member came up to me and asked if I needed something.

I told him I was just waiting for a friend who was in the shower.

He looked at me strangely and said maybe I should wait outside because it was weird for me to be sitting there reading in the locker room.

I told him I wasn't bothering anyone, my friend had asked me to wait there, and that I'd be leaving shortly. I also told him to mind his own business.

He wasn't happy about that, but he walked away.

A few minutes later, Dave came out fully dressed and ready to leave.

The same guy saw us together and made another comment that felt directed at Dave and whether they belonged in that locker room.

At that point, neither of us wanted to argue, so we just left.

The more I thought about it later, though, the more it bothered me.

So I sent an email to the gym explaining what happened.

The gym responded and said they were taking the situation seriously and would look into it.

Now Dave thinks I took things too far by reporting him and should have just let it go.

I felt like the guy crossed a line, but now I'm wondering if I escalated something that should have been ignored.

AITA?

06/18/2026

WIBTA if I told the vet that the receptionist blamed her for everything that went wrong with my cat's appointments?

My cat has been going to the vet a lot lately because he has a thyroid tumor.

Over the past month, we've been there about six times for different tests and appointments.

One of the receptionists has rubbed me the wrong way from the very beginning.

The first time I asked for help updating my address, she responded with, "Well, how would we know if you never told us?"

That's literally why I was asking for help.

Later, when I called to check on my cat's test results after waiting longer than expected, she told me, "How would I know? I'm not the vet."

Last week things got worse.

I scheduled an appointment for my cat to have a thyroid test done. When I arrived, I was told we had to reschedule because my cat hadn't been fasting beforehand.

The problem was that nobody had told me he needed to fast.

I was frustrated, but the vet was understanding and explained that it was an uncommon test and that there may have been some confusion.

When I called to reschedule, I got the same receptionist.

I explained exactly what had happened and asked her to confirm the fasting instructions so I wouldn't make the same mistake again.

She looked at the appointment notes and told me there was nothing saying my cat needed to fast.

I explained the situation multiple times and told her I didn't want to bring my cat back unless I knew the instructions were correct.

Eventually she put me on hold and said she'd have to interrupt the vet during surgery to ask.

When she came back, she confirmed that my cat did need to fast.

So I asked how long he needed to fast and whether water was okay.

Before I could even finish my question, she cut me off and said, "I'll tell you if you stop interrupting."

Then after giving me the instructions, she added, "I want you to know this is annoying for me too. I don't know what to tell you if the doctor doesn't tell me."

Honestly, I don't care about whatever communication problems they have behind the scenes.

I'm already stressed enough worrying about my cat's health.

I just want clear information so I can take care of him properly.

Now I'm wondering if I should mention all of this to the vet.

Would that make me a jerk, or is it reasonable to let the vet know what's been happening?

WIBTA?

06/18/2026

AITAH for choosing my daughter's dance recital over a funeral?

My 5-year-old daughter had a dance recital on Saturday.

The dance studio scheduled it months ago, and my husband and I had been planning to attend ever since.

Then, a few days before the recital, my father called and told me that his wife's mother had passed away. The funeral was scheduled for the same Saturday.

My father asked me to attend with my family. Since the funeral was in another city, it wasn't possible to do both.

To be honest, I wasn't very close to his wife's mother. My children only saw her about once a year, and while I was sad to hear of her passing, we didn't have a strong relationship.

I offered my condolences and explained that my daughter's recital had already been planned for months, so we wouldn't be able to attend the funeral.

My father said he understood why I couldn't bring the kids, but he and his wife still thought I should come by myself.

They told me my husband could take our daughter to the recital alone. They also said she was only five years old and probably wouldn't remember whether I was there or not.

Their view was that there would be many more dance recitals in the future, but only one funeral.

I understood their point, but I still didn't feel right missing something that was important to my daughter.

So I stayed and attended her recital.

Afterward, my father and his wife didn't contact me for the rest of the day.

The next day, my father called and told me his wife was deeply hurt that I hadn't come.

He said she felt that her mother cared about me and my children, and that I should have made the effort to be there.

He also told me he was disappointed that I chose the recital over supporting family during a difficult time.

I explained that I had made a commitment to my daughter and wanted to keep it.

My father responded that my daughter was old enough to understand that sometimes more important things come up.

Now I'm wondering if I made the wrong choice.

I feel bad for their loss, but I also feel like being there for my daughter mattered.

AITAH?

06/18/2026

AITA for not wanting to spend Christmas with my husband's family right after having a baby?

I'm 25 and currently pregnant with my first baby. My husband and I are due in December, and we're both really excited.

The problem is Christmas.

I didn't grow up in a family that did huge holiday gatherings. My husband's family is the exact opposite. Every year, relatives travel from all over the country to spend Christmas together.

This year we were supposed to travel to Ohio, but since I'll either be very pregnant or have just given birth, that's obviously not happening.

As soon as everyone realized that, the solution became, "We'll all come to you so we can meet the baby."

The thing is... I really don't want that.

If I haven't had the baby yet, I don't want a house full of people while I'm waiting to go into labor.

And if I have already had the baby, I don't love the idea of 10 to 15 relatives flying in from different states and wanting to hold a newborn during cold, flu, and RSV season.

When I said I didn't think we'd be doing Thanksgiving or Christmas this year, some family members told me I was being dramatic.

A few of them even said they'd already started making travel plans because they were excited to meet the baby.

This isn't the first issue we've had during the pregnancy.

My husband and I know the baby's gender, but we've decided not to tell anyone yet. We want to share the news when we're ready.

My mother-in-law says I'm gatekeeping information because she wants to start shopping for the baby.

I'm also a very private person. I barely use social media and I've already told everyone that I don't want photos of my baby posted online.

That didn't go over very well either.

Then there's the delivery room situation.

Personally, I feel that if you weren't involved in making the baby, you don't need to be in the delivery room.

Not even my own mom will be there.

But my mother-in-law and her sister keep saying they should be allowed in because it's their grandchild too.

I've already said no, but they keep bringing it up.

Honestly, I'm exhausted.

My mother-in-law also likes to joke that "when the baby is with Grandma, Grandma makes the rules."

Maybe she's joking, but with everything else that's happened, it doesn't really feel funny anymore.

My husband keeps telling me we'll deal with everything when the time comes.

But I'm already stressed.

It feels like everyone is focused on meeting the baby, and nobody is thinking about the fact that I'll either be recovering from childbirth or preparing to give birth.

I don't want a huge family Christmas.

I don't want people pushing my boundaries.

And I don't want to feel pressured into things I'm not comfortable with.

Am I overreacting because this is my first baby?

AITA?

06/17/2026

AITA for grounding my son after he got kicked out of class for refusing to sit next to another student?

My son is a sophomore in high school.

Last week, his chemistry class was doing a lab assignment and he got paired with a girl from his class.

I've heard him mention this girl before when talking with his friends. He hasn't always been kind about her, often making comments about her appearance and saying she doesn't smell very good.

During the lab, my son apparently stood so far away from her that he wasn't really helping with the assignment.

The teacher noticed and told him to move closer so they could work together.

Instead of listening, my son refused.

When the teacher asked why, he said he didn't want to because she smelled bad.

The teacher warned him that he could get written up if he didn't cooperate, but he still refused.

Eventually, he was removed from class.

Later that day, I got a call from the school explaining what happened.

When my son got home, I took away his phone.

My reasoning wasn't just because he refused to listen to his teacher.

It was also because I felt he embarrassed another student in front of the entire class.

To be honest, I have met this girl before at a school event, and I understand why my son made the comment.

But that doesn't change how I feel about the way he handled the situation.

My husband and my son both think I'm making a bigger deal out of this than it needs to be.

I think there are better ways to handle an uncomfortable situation than publicly insulting someone and refusing to follow instructions.

Now I'm wondering if I overreacted.

AITA?

06/17/2026

AITA for telling my boyfriend's family that being a teen mom wasn't hard for me?

I (22F) have a 4-year-old daughter with my boyfriend (23M).

Yes, we became parents as teenagers. No, it wasn't planned. And no, I don't regret it for a second.

When I got pregnant, my parents were shocked at first, but they ended up being very supportive.

My boyfriend's parents had a different reaction. They were upset about him becoming a teen dad, but they were even more upset that our baby would be mixed race.

Because of that, we cut contact with them years ago and agreed they would never be part of our daughter's life.

The rest of his family is wonderful, though. His grandparents, aunt, siblings, and other relatives have always treated our daughter with love.

Recently, we were all at a family cookout when his grandmother brought up the past.

She said that while his parents were wrong for their beliefs, they were right that becoming teen parents would make our lives difficult.

Everyone seemed to agree.

That's when I spoke up.

I said that, honestly, our lives are pretty great and that for me personally, becoming a parent as a teenager wasn't harder than becoming a parent at any other age would have been.

The whole table went silent.

Then my boyfriend's sister, who also became a teen mom, started talking about how difficult her experience was and how much she struggled.

I listened and told her I understood that everyone's situation is different.

I explained that I was lucky. I graduated high school early before my daughter was born, had support from my parents, kept a steady job, and had a strong support system.

I even said that I would never recommend becoming a teen parent and that I know many people have a much harder experience than I did.

I was only speaking about my own life.

But somehow the conversation turned into a huge argument.

My boyfriend's sister started crying, and other family members said I was being insensitive and cruel.

From my point of view, I wasn't saying teen parenting is easy for everyone.

I was simply saying that, in my case, things worked out well.

Now I'm wondering if I should have kept that opinion to myself.

AITA?

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