06/14/2026
A message from Dave Anderson, PhD. Child Mind Institute
Here are a few tips for supporting your child’s mental health and your own:
• Get kids used to talking about feelings before there’s a problem. Talking openly and regularly about emotions helps normalize mental health, so it feels less scary or shameful when something harder comes up. Low-pressure moments — a car ride, a meal, a weekend with less going on — are good times to check in.
• Show kids how you cope — don’t just tell them what to do. Kids pick up coping habits by watching the adults around them, so name your own feelings and what you do about them out loud: “That call stressed me out, so I’m going to take a few deep breaths and walk around the block.” Leading by example tends to land better than instructions.
• Taking care of your mental health is part of parenting, not a luxury. Managing your own stress is one of the best ways to keep your kids from absorbing it, and tending to your well-being shows them that practicing mental health care is something grown-ups do, not just something we tell kids to do.
• When upsetting news comes up, help kids process it. If something frightening is in the news, it’s better for kids to hear it from you — calmly, with the facts — so you can set the emotional tone. Invite them to share what they’ve already heard, answer their questions honestly, and let them know their feelings make sense.
• Take their online life seriously and stay curious about it. Rather than dismissing social media’s impact, check in regularly and ask your kids to notice how particular apps, feeds, and comments make them feel — then encourage them to step back from the ones that consistently leave them feeling worse.
Be kind to yourself. You’re doing a great job.