06/03/2026
Anxiety and the Child’s Brain
Here are a few tips for recognizing signs of anxiety in kids and offering support:
* Know that anxiety often hides in plain sight.
Anxious kids are often quiet, well-behaved, and outwardly fine, which is why their struggles can go unnoticed for years. Untreated childhood anxiety can lead to more anxiety in adulthood, and most anxious kids never get treatment.
* Watch for avoidance, not just worry.
A child who skips school, dodges social situations, or finds reasons to opt out doing things may not be lazy or oppositional. Anxiety frequently shows up as avoidance, and anxious kids are sometimes misdiagnosed with ADHD or behavior disorders when the real driver is fear.
* Learn what a panic attack feels like.
Racing heart, trouble breathing, sweating, trembling, a sense of dread — panic attacks are intensely physical, and kids often think they’re dying or having a heart attack. Helping a child put a name to what’s happening is often the first step toward making it less terrifying.
* Don’t help your child avoid what they’re afraid of.
Avoidance feels better in the moment but makes anxiety worse over time. That’s why the most effective clinical treatment, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) with gradual exposure, works by helping kids face fears in small, manageable steps.
* Validate the feeling without amplifying it.
Saying “I know you’re scared, AND I know you can handle this” works better than dismissing the fear or promising nothing bad will happen. It tells your child their feelings make sense, while also giving them a vote of confidence in their ability to get through it.
Parents, be kind to yourself. You’re doing the best you can, and are doing a great job.
This is an excerpt from Child Mind Institute’s “Thriving Kids” Newsletter.
Thank you, Child Institute, for these helpful self-care tips! 🙏🩷