01/20/2025
Topic that I felt needed some attention: Mom's being denied parenting time, refusal for co parenting, court enforcing only one side and when the dad gets full custody or physical custody and doesn't follow court orders and keeps the kids from their mom.. So we have been used to for YEARS Men having to go through these things, so many networks and systems have been put in place to help and also changes in court has made it easier for dad's to get custody that is fair and equal as long as they show up for court to ask for it or come to an agreement with the other parent.. HOWEVER a trend seems to be growing over past few years with these exact things happening but in reverse and to the MOMS. Yet when there is a need for help or advise I think there is a MAJOR STIGMA attached with this situation, because it is the MOM, So when people hear mom doesn't have full custody automatically it goes into "what drugs is she on" or "what did she do abuse them" or "is she a dead beat" etc on and on...ULTIMATELY the goal should be BOTH parents get to spend time with the kids as much as possible, however we know that is not how it works yet...what is troubling to me is the lack of resources, the lack of advise, the lack of understanding even from government and family or friends even for these situations. IN some ways it has made it HARDER for the moms in this situation to get things on a healthy normal path, due to the stigma. Men have had some rough times, even though many of this stems from lack of responsibility, being young, not physically carrying the baby to term and so on but with the mom's it is a whole different ball game. Not only is there the mental anguish, the social anguish from shame or fear or guilt, but this physical anguish as well.